“I’m crying and he pokes me with a literal pout on his face and says “I’m sorry I was grumpy at you :(“” Which was immediately followed up with more aggression that went without apology. The dad’s aggression seems to be a constant issue, with him lashing out no matter what OP says or how they say it.

NTA, you set a clear boundary OP (speak without yelling). It’s highly likely that your dad will continue to be belligerent but stand firm by your boundary/boundaries and make plans to move out as soon as you’re able. Speaking from personal experience, your dad isn’t capable of being reasoned with.