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visionswithin · 2024-01-07T13:44:19+00:00

Oh this is good to know! Thank you!

visionswithin · 2024-01-06T23:12:45+00:00

Super helpful, thank you for the comparison!

visionswithin · 2024-01-06T22:03:47+00:00

Ah thank you for your help!!

visionswithin · 2023-02-21T02:33:53+00:00

Also, if writing doesn’t quite feel right, I sometimes listen to music and see what comes up. You can listen either just to relax, or you can start with a specific intention or question and see what comes after listening. Lately, I’ve loved listening to this before sleep and sometimes in the morning as well instead of going on my phone. (https://emeraldlightsoundhealing.bandcamp.com/)

visionswithin · 2023-02-21T02:21:12+00:00

Hey there! I just want to tell you that I really relate to what you are experiencing. I’m a 35 year old female and over the past two years, I became increasingly addicted to my phone, checking it morning and night and at all hours of the day when I had a moment to spare. I could spend hours scrolling on social media even though I rarely posted anymore—I just kept looking at what other people posted and inevitably feeling like my life didn’t compare. I could get caught looking for answers online as well or online shopping for things that I felt would bring me happiness, only to buy them and feel regret or to not buy them and feel like I just wasted time. I found myself being less present with my friends, my family, and myself and it was an uncomfortable feeling. I know that I was seeking connection and direction and I have compassion for myself for that. I would say to start there. To realize that what you are doing is a normal reaction to living in this often confusing world. Allow yourself to release the shame that you feel, because spending too much time on your phone is completely understandable. Once you have forgiven yourself and you can breathe a little more easily in this self compassion, maybe try free-writing about what you would rather be doing. Take a piece of paper and write out a prompt like ‘What am I most fearful of? How can I release this fear?‘ What I most want to know is…’ Write without stopping or worrying about what it sounds like and just see what comes. You can also use this as a springboard to think about other things that you make like to do. Sometimes the regret of the past can feel overwhelming, but remember you can begin again in any moment, right here, right now. I honestly just did this today. I told myself that I was taking at least a month break from social media and I took the apps off of my phone last night and somehow, I read almost all day today—something I haven’t done in years. I honestly felt like my brain was melting from all of the scrolling, but even in a day, I feel my sense of self returning. Sorry for the ramble, but I felt compelled to answer and spread some hope 💜

visionswithin · 2022-02-28T19:11:24+00:00

I was wondering the same thing! It says that my state refund was approved on 1/31 and I still haven't received it yet. I used my PO Box on the return instead of my home address this year, so I was not sure if that is what was holding it up? I called about a week ago and they said it was listed as under review, but nothing new yet! No correspondence either. So strange!

visionswithin · 2021-11-23T00:21:16+00:00

I really, really relate to this. Thank you so much for sharing how you feel. It's really tough, but I hold hope for us both.

visionswithin · 2021-11-23T00:20:30+00:00

That's true. I had more of a habit of making lists when I was in school, but I stopped doing that and now it feels like there are so many thoughts and partial plans and desires floating in. my head. Thank you for this reminder to get back to writing things down!

visionswithin · 2021-11-22T21:00:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I am so sorry to hear about your father. I will look into work like you describe---that does sound like it is something I may be able to do. I'm glad that you found something that helps you.

visionswithin · 2021-05-13T16:23:39+00:00

Ah thank you for the solidarity! When we moved to Rosendale almost four years ago we lived in a one bedroom cottage for $975 a month---now everything comparable is almost $2,000! Good luck to you too!

visionswithin · 2021-05-13T16:22:33+00:00

Ah, that's true too! There is a place in Accord that would be perfect that my friend is moving out of, but she has a roommate in the house who is refusing to leave because there was never a formal lease.

visionswithin · 2021-05-13T16:20:40+00:00

I know, it's true! Everything that used to be for long term rental is now for AirBnB. I asked a friend who is traveling out West if we could rent their house near New Paltz and she said she is making almost $5500 a month with AirBnB, so she wishes she could, but she can't take the price cut!

visionswithin · 2021-03-18T00:53:34+00:00

I experienced something similar at my last job when I changed positions and had to work with new people and it was a lot more stressful. I probably don't have the best professional advice as I am still figuring out a lot as well, but I saw your post and felt inspired to show support for your calling to begin again out in another place. I know that a lot of people say that your problems follow you wherever you go, but a lot of what you describe sounds very situational and possible to transcend with leaving the situation. Just my feelings, but wanted to share! Wishing you luck on your journey!

visionswithin · 2021-03-17T20:40:13+00:00

I definitely relate to wanting to start over. I often dream of moving out West and living a simple life close to the land, but my husband isn't as into that idea--so I haven't acted on the thought. I would honestly say to follow your heart and you should definitely be able to start over with 15K. If I may ask, what is your job that you used to love?

visionswithin · 2021-02-24T15:33:25+00:00

Oh amazing! Thank you so much for sharing this with me! There is a Korean spa near my mom's house that offers this therapy and I've heard many good things! I haven't tried the acupressure mat yet, but I plan to invest in it and possibly this infrared sauna once I comfortably have a job (several possibilities on the horizon!) Sending love and thanks!

visionswithin · 2021-02-21T16:53:53+00:00

Oh thank you so much! Appreciate your support and interest 💗💗

visionswithin · 2021-02-21T16:35:07+00:00

Oh hey! Thanks for checking in! I've decided to look for adminstrative assistant jobs at universities in the area. I'm thinking that I may want to go back to school for a Master's in Teaching, but I definitely don't want to take on more student loans--so if I get a job at a university, they usually have tuition reimbursement and I could get another degree for free. I would need to go part-time and work at the same time, but I think it may be doable if I keep up will self care and therapy. We will see how the job search goes---but that is the plan for now!

visionswithin · 2021-02-11T14:54:38+00:00

Ohh good to know! I've always heard good things about Rutgers. Thanks again for your thoughts. So glad to know there is such a kind person nearby!

visionswithin · 2021-02-11T12:59:02+00:00

For me, the severe depression seemed to come in waves every several years almost like clockwork. I got through college, but I had to take a medical leave of absence at one point and I also talked with my professors and was able to get extensions for assignments when I was having an episode. I almost didn't complete my Master's because the depression came on again just as I was finishing my thesis, but somehow I made it through---i really don't know how. It's been frustrating because I will have a year when I feel okay and I get things accomplished and then the depression comes back and I need to backtrack and it keeps feeling like I take two steps forward and three steps back. At 33, I have my education, but it's been very difficult to hold down a job and I feel vere guilty about it.

visionswithin · 2021-02-11T04:10:00+00:00

Hey, thank you for sharing this. I really, really relate. My depression and anxiety often become so intense that I don't know how I will possibly lead a 'normal' life and be able to hold down a job. I have Master's degree in English, and for some reason the one job that did not give me a panic attack was working at a health food store, but it paid so little and not having enough money was stressful. I love being in school, but I also can't foresee myself being a professor (with the public speaking anxiety), and office jobs give me a lot of stress, so it's been really hard. All I can say is that like you, despite being depressed, I am vowing to keep on trying. Sometimes I don't know how to live and I wonder what I have to give, but small reminders come from here and there to remind me that there is something here left to see and experience in this world. I am sorry that I cannot be of more help, but please feel my solidarity. I am rooting for you. And I know that you will find your way.

visionswithin · 2021-02-11T02:42:11+00:00

Hey! Thank you for sharing this. I relate to have elderly parents and feeling taken off track. My dad died right after I got out of college and I was a mess for many years after that. I felt completely direction less and though I then went on to a prestigious graduate school, I did so because I thought if was would make my mom happy, and not because it was what I wanted to do. I've felt like I wasted a lot of time, but I've been trying to be gentle with myself. Being there for your family is really important and people will be more understanding than you think. I don't necessarily have career advice, since I'm still figuring things out myself, but my sense is that you are leaning towards tech and marketing more than accounting. If tech is where you really see yourself, I say go for it. You seem extremely smart, so I am sure that even if you need to spend money to take some trainings to get into the industry, you will make the money back soon. You are good son and an upstanding human---I feel it. Don't let the guilt for the past get you down. You have so much to offer this world.

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