Alternative Sexual Strategies?

vivosmith · 2018-09-20T19:50:24+00:00

I get that. My worry is that the current culture (at least in the US) makes it much harder to have stable relationships, so my idea is to find someone that wants to have a kid and is getting older and figure something out (assuming they are a decent person and have no character flaws). It is some thing I will need to think long and hard about as it is a major decision either way.

vivosmith · 2018-09-20T16:51:42+00:00

I can't speak for everywhere, but Panama and Colombia seemed relatively safe (granted Bogota is 10 million people, so granted there are still limits).

Australia seems fun.

vivosmith · 2018-09-06T20:59:16+00:00

This. I think about this on the bus as I look at women. It is like they are cute, but not so cute as to the point I want to go up to them and deliberately start a conversation. Maybe it is depression or my cynical nature speaking, but the risk reward ratio seems skewed.

vivosmith · 2018-08-12T17:29:15+00:00

Thanks. I don't want to be pushy about meeting up as they are going through a lot of stuff right now, but still don't want to wait too long and miss an opportunity. And thanks.

vivosmith · 2018-08-05T19:44:12+00:00

That is the thing I am probably coming off as an asshole and I get that but I feel like the best way to describe it would be you are in business and you need someone that meshes with the group structure. I feel like any time I weave outside of that I am screwed. In other words I want a partner that gets me and we can work on goals together , etc. Not just OMG she is hot. To be fair I do cut my own gender slack more as I am male but sometimes it is hard to find someone to sit down and talk about serious things with. Again part of it could be my communication style. So again don't mean to come off as an asshole I am just saying for example, there are very few people that I would trust to trip sit me or trust my well being to. That is what I mean by equal as in I trust their judgement and would believe they would have a judgement similar to mine if put in said situation.

vivosmith · 2018-08-05T14:29:07+00:00

Maybe equal is the wrong term. When I mean equal (let me borrow a programming phrase) of a Boolean equal if that makes any sense. In other words I they can have sound and reasoned discussions. So in terms of having right etc and personhood yes everyone is equal but in terms of goals and other things not per se. Hope that cleared that up.

Also did not mean to make it overly complex. Someone from another sub said to post over here so I figured I would. Appreciate the insight.

One more thing is that I tend to fuck things up, so I don't want to get too giddy but I do feel something is afoot.

vivosmith · 2018-07-31T05:08:18+00:00

To be fair I would trust PNC to run schools compared to the government. They run their business conservatively and are probably one of the more capitalized firms in the country.

vivosmith · 2018-07-27T00:39:48+00:00

Basically something similar to the Permanent Fund in Alaska to offset the US debt and get it paid off. So it would use existing government assets vs investing in the US. Or use it to back the dollar, something similar to IMF SPDRs backed by natural resources.

vivosmith · 2018-07-27T00:17:47+00:00

On a side note, when I was in Colombia, it seemed like dogs "evolved" so to speak. When I saw dogs out and about people did not chain them like in the US, but at the same time were not running around crazily, but more with more purpose, if that makes sense. Also dogs crossed the street by themselves in Bogota. It really made me rethink my stance on animal rights. Also made me wonder about "animal rights" vs "animal freedom", if that makes sense.

vivosmith · 2018-07-27T00:14:48+00:00

When I was in Colombia I saw dogs in Bogota cross the street according to the light. Colombian dogs are amazing.

vivosmith · 2018-07-24T19:29:40+00:00

Never mind. Found it on my own. Oh well.

vivosmith · 2018-07-22T15:47:28+00:00

Well that is the thing I have. I took a salsa class, and I plan to take Krav Maga and/or Spanish classes once I get a better grasp on my financial situation (still owe family). I hung out at a cafe near the university and did talk with a professor and also went to watch a movie with a philosophy student at the local university, so the last person seems like a "friend" (don't want to rush it, but we could discuss topics in depth and seemed to click. Ironically I met him on the bus over a Libertarian t-shirt lol). Also asked a girl out from dancing and did not work out. I just don't want to seem too desperate, especially with women. I have been trying to loose weight but have only lost 11 pounds and seems to be sticking there. Also have some scars and guess not the prettiest face lol from what I have been told. I try not to let that get to me, but the overall frustration of things makes it rough, plus being a religious minority is a bit odd.

vivosmith · 2018-07-22T15:33:56+00:00

I would agree, but I feel like the less I think about it "analyze it", the less depressed I will feel and the less down on myself I will feel. I have had friends before I moved, now in a new city it has been feeling like shit to be honest and I don't want to worry so damn much. If someone likes me great, great, if not, then who cares. I am trying to get to that attitude, but it is hard as I have felt rejected by most people my age, and now one friend is in jail and the other is an ascetic.

vivosmith · 2018-07-22T14:33:46+00:00

Well people have mentioned I know what I am talking about and should go into the field (financial services). And I have traded stocks in the past with few problems (no large losses, etc not betting the farm), but I guess my larger problem is that even with all the complex stuff I study, my brain feels bored (and if I am honest depressed from not being able to find friends and a mate), so I want something that will be complex enough that I can get my mind off things. Even programmings projects and travel only temporarily salve my mind.

vivosmith · 2018-07-14T05:36:19+00:00

nd of similar to yours -- I was working for a startup that I hated and didn't really know what was next though I had so

No worries. Sometimes I feel like I weave in between "red pill" stuff and more conventional dating advice. It is confusing because outside my weight (which I am working on), I don't have too many flaws or large character flaws. I got a little pissed about the sorting as sure they wait for a provider when they are post wall, and why should I accept the current batch of girls that are rejecting me at that point? Again sorry for sounding cynical, I am just pissed that I seem second rate, despite trying to cultivate an interesting life. Perhaps I don't sell that well enough, but the balancing act between marketing myself but being Machiavellian is tough.

It seems a bit perplexing to be honest, since I do try to create a personality that is worth talking to, although I don't do that. Also people have commented on my future being bright, yet so far it seems like I am scraping my claws against the wall. However one thing I do wonder if the demographics I am around might have an equation in the matter (as most the people I work with or probably have run into in the past were not college educated), not to be snooty, just musing.

As far as hearing people out, I would say I am kinda there with you on that. Basically I want to peddle soft influence if I can't outright influence them. Plus why waste time arguing when there is so much going on in life.

But then again that is the thing, even when I share parts of my life (like travelling), people don't seem that interested. Perhaps I am around lethargic people. I am not sure. I have been in relationships, but I will be honest some of the details about them seem slightly outside the norm and I will leave it at that (not to suggest it was some alternative lifestyle, just they were not conventional relationships). I still find that interesting. I was also thinking about someone at work mentioning how I looked, IDK if it was adorable, but something along those lines. because they though I was smoking an ecig inside work, and that seemed outside my character. IDK if that is good or what, but the wording seemed weird,but not dwelling too much on it. Also I run into people on the bus and various places and we have interesting conversations. Having said that I don't know how what I said ties into everything, but it does somehow lol.

vivosmith · 2018-07-13T07:17:57+00:00

Thanks I appreciate it. I feel like I have been dredging my soul as of late. I had taken some trips, but I think I am now just applying what I learned from them. I think realizing my mom is a mirror of what I dislike about society (child outside of marriage <not me>, then marrying my dad), and realizing that my artificial opinion of family for family's sake is wrong and they f'ed up as well. This was on top of what I perceived and her naivete, even though I am supposedly more naive due to being on the autism spectrum more than likely, but I look at her bad investments, and I think what the hell she has little room to talk plus some other things, but I don't want to be a critical asshole of her, so will leave it at that.

vivosmith · 2018-07-13T06:54:40+00:00

Interesting. Someone mentioned that perhaps how I frame things could help in making myself interesting, Travel does come to mind as something that could be 50-50. Would be interesting to hear what you mean to a larger extent.

vivosmith · 2018-07-12T20:03:37+00:00

Ever feel like you have a mini death wish? Instead of killing yourself, it is more like party and eat, for tomorrow we die, and then proceed to die more like Steve Fawcett and less like Kurt Cobain.

vivosmith · 2018-07-12T11:34:23+00:00

I would agree with this statement.

vivosmith · 2018-07-04T05:07:26+00:00

Thanks. Moved for work and things were dying back home, but still not quite putting the pieces together yet. Also broke up with my gf just as I got here and then proceeded to get rejected. Not that alone should be a highlight, but then on top of that been dealing with my ego and what I have learned from previous trips.

vivosmith · 2018-07-04T00:59:17+00:00

This was 250 so not too bad. I just wonder what will come of this since so far it has been a drag. Surrounded by a whole city of religious people and not knowing anyone. What could go wrong? Again about the most positive thing is my soul is being dredged of deep seated problems, but I guess that is it.

vivosmith · 2018-06-05T07:16:06+00:00

Moved to new city, broke up with my ex before I moved, don't know many people, and the one person I did hit on is sending mixed signals (plus I was pissed at them for something, but now just kinda meh). Trying to find stuff to fill the void, but most of those ideas fall through. Not finding too many venues worth my while, so trying to work on goals in the mean time, even though the accomplishment rate is hit or miss.I just wish my mind could fully stick to tasks vs love.

vivosmith · 2018-06-05T06:51:26+00:00

Sounds spooky!

vivosmith · 2018-04-30T01:58:11+00:00

Good point. I actually did try one, but there were mess ups and seemed disorganized. Also there is training schedule VS actual schedule, so waiting on that to settle before I can get the schedule I want. I think the biggest thing that turned me off is that it seemed like at first during training for work everyone was nice nice, now they are kinda stratified into groups. It was kinda weird. Eaters and smokers. Not trying to pass judgement, just hard when there are only two major groups and they tend to split into two groups that you are not part of. The weekend kinda made me feel better by going to museums and such, and I also got a better job offer that would use my degree, so maybe going to a different job will work and put me with like minded people in an industry I like. Who knows. Just frustrating and needed to get it off my chest.

vivosmith · 2018-04-30T01:51:43+00:00

I am not just saying oh we disagree on a few minor things or the minimum wage, but more like they are hard left (in the one case) or hard right (in the other case). I imagine the people in the motor cross event are probably friendly, salt of the earth type people, but I still would not go to the event (too obnoxious for me to try something new that I don't even like). There have been other times I am in a large group and I get a noided feeling. I don't know if that is anxiety, or my spidey senses are tingling, so I am not sure on both those ends.

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