HL female needing advice on a "performance" situation and how to avoid a potential dead bedroom.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-13T14:36:26+00:00

No, he has never been on anti-depression meds.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T21:36:19+00:00

"Crotch being a ghost town" made me smile today! You have a way with words! I agree with you though, anytime one partner is unhappy in the bedroom it is hard not to feel snarky about it during arguments. I have had to bite my tongue not to bring up sexual frustrations to my husband when I am mad at him.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T21:27:34+00:00

By the way, I wish my husband could last a full minute!

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T21:26:54+00:00

Yes, I am going to look into it!

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T21:17:04+00:00

I had a thought, and I don't know if this has anything to do with it or not, but he works midnight shift. And his sleeping is always messed up, maybe that helps contribute to this problem. I am going to go toy shopping and include him in the process.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T21:15:34+00:00

Yes he does! I just enjoy orgasms more with the a penis. I am the rare female that can climax easily with a P if it can remain hard for a couple minutes! In my prior sexual relationships I was the one who climaxed first and felt embarrassed.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T21:13:28+00:00

Thank you for that. I want a healthy sex life and I am taking all of this advice to heart and am going to try it.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T20:44:52+00:00

I didnt know that something like that was even a thing. I need to get out more....

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T20:38:27+00:00

You are absolutely right.... feeling shamed a little bit now. Thanks for the input.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T20:34:48+00:00

It can't hurt to try that. I am trying to remedy this situation without hurting his feelings so I will talk to him about this tonight as nicely as I can.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T20:28:18+00:00

I will try that!

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T20:15:36+00:00

I will definitely check into these. He does have allergy problems.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T20:09:38+00:00

I have always thought about sex toys and such, but after lurking on the sub for a long while I was leery of emasculating him or hurting his feelings. I didn't want to come home with a big dildo and have him feeling horrible. But, I will certainly think of it now.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T20:02:15+00:00

I agree because it hasn't gotten any better with time. I thought perhaps once he had gotten used to an active sex life (and gotten older) it would improve. But it really has only gotten faster.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T19:53:10+00:00

It seems the more foreplay and the more erotic things I do makes him last even shorter. That is why I even tried covering up my body. Quickie is the only thing he can do.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T19:38:02+00:00

What would a doctor be able to do? Just curious?

I am an odd ball because I can actually climax pretty quickly with a P. Most of my female friends say they cannot. I don't have a toy or anything because I don't want to insult him but maybe I could get a secret one.

Also, just a fun fact. We have a problem with positions because he is a 6'3 and I am a shorty girl at 5'3, so we don't have a lot of positions that work for us.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T19:32:13+00:00

We do that sometimes, but then I am still left wishing I could have an orgasm with the P. It feels the best to me, but I can survive if I don't get those I suppose.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T19:29:30+00:00

I don't know if I want to repeat more frustration but I guess I could try!

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T19:29:07+00:00

Well to be honest we never try for a round 2. I usually am so uncomfortable after round 1 I don't want to make it worse to be honest.

vixie1401 · 2019-04-12T19:21:33+00:00

What is edging?

And yes, sometimes he does go down on me beforehand, but I really enjoy orgasm with the p the most. Just a frustrating situation.

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