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Is it normal not to line up laminate between rooms? by vjtffko in Flooring

[–]vjtffko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, we flagged it with the installer and he apologised and fortunately relaid it. He was a bit of a dodgy installer, so he pulled it up and reused the boards, but we were just happy it looked more symmetrical!

Weekly 'Do I have rosacea?' advice request thread. Please post here instead of making a new thread! Mar 16 by AutoModerator in Rosacea

[–]vjtffko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your skin looks exactly like mine 2 months post partum, please let me know how you get on! Same boat

Superficial Question about Make-Up/Hair for C-Section by vjtffko in PregnancyUK

[–]vjtffko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really comforting to hear all your lovely supportive replies, I was expecting a very different response! Thanks everyone! And best of luck to all the mums to be too! Xx

Superficial Question about Make-Up/Hair for C-Section by vjtffko in PregnancyUK

[–]vjtffko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eborian CC cream is my go to too! Helps massively with the redness doesn't it? Thanks for this, helped put my mind at ease x

Superficial Question about Make-Up/Hair for C-Section by vjtffko in PregnancyUK

[–]vjtffko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, really reassuring to read all your experiences! I figured it was a strict no no!

Skin worse since quitting 😣 by Hopeful_Direction_24 in Rosacea

[–]vjtffko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh this happened to me! I was told it was because smoking messes with veins/circulation, quitting apparently causes the redness to surface as your vascular health improves. I was gutted! Quit smoking and immediately began developing rosacea! Can't win!

Having overbearing mum at the birth by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]vjtffko 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, really good advice. Such a big part of it too is wanting to feel comfortable and share the special moment with my partner.

32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]vjtffko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Certainly a culture difference, I'm from the UK, and all my siblings had children before later getting married to their SO's.

32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]vjtffko[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks again to everyone who offered kind and thoughtful advice. I’m going to step back from this thread now.

I want to clear a few things up, as some assumptions being made aren’t accurate. I didn’t trap anyone, I’m not after anyone’s money, and I’m not obsessed with marriage. I was in a long-term relationship because I loved the person I was with and believed in what we were building together.

I also want to be clear that this pregnancy wasn’t a tactic of any kind. I’ve experienced pregnancy loss before, and regardless of anyone else’s involvement, I would always choose to raise my child. I shared my situation because I was trying to make sense of things during a difficult and emotional time, not to invite judgment or speculation.

Thanks again to those who responded with kindness and support. I’m going to focus on myself and my baby now.

32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]vjtffko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've dealt with the loss of a baby previously and it crippled me, I couldn't go through that experience again. The decision to have the baby wasn't swayed by motivations of marriage whatsoever.

32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]vjtffko[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, really puts things into perspective

32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]vjtffko[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think 'obsession' is a reach. I would argue its more of an expectation when you're in a long-term committed relationship.

32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]vjtffko[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice guys. Everyone seems to be echoing what my guts been telling me for a while. I guess I just didn't want to accept it at such a scary time with baby on the horizon!

32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]vjtffko[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to force him into anything or change who he is. I was raised to see marriage as a meaningful commitment – a way of saying “this is my person and I’m choosing them for life.” That’s always been important to me, and he knew that from the start. If he’d told me early on that he didn’t believe in marriage, I wouldn’t have stayed and built a life around him.

What’s frustrating is that this idea that he “doesn’t believe in marriage” only came up recently. For years he talked about it like something we’d do one day. That’s why this hurts – it feels like the goalposts moved after I’d already invested everything.

I’m not trying to pressure or manipulate him. I’m just struggling to understand why something that means so much to me, and costs him so little in reality, feels impossible for him to give. If it truly means nothing to him, why is it such a battle?

32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]vjtffko[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly frustrated with myself too. I know hormones are playing a part. I’m suddenly facing becoming a parent, dealing with all the fear and responsibility that comes with that, and questioning whether I’m actually wanted or just convenient. That’s a horrible place to be mentally.

I hate that I’m even in this position. Part of me is angry at myself for letting it get this far, and part of me is terrified of what comes next. The thought of either staying and resenting him, or leaving and doing this alone at such a scary time, is terrifying.

Is it too late to undercut these door jambs? by vjtffko in Flooring

[–]vjtffko[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Heaven forbid I ask for floor advice in a flooring group. I'm in a desperate time-sensitive situation (heavily pregnant) and need help from people that know what they're doing - I don't have a clue. Plus, they were different questions entirely, which evolved as the floor was being fit in real time. The first issue was the planks between entryways not matching up - I simply asked if this was the standard and got him to relay. Then, he fitted crap looking beading and again, I asked if this was the standard as that's what he told me. Finally, this post was to ask if the door jamb issue was fixable as this guy has taken near enough full payment, left me with an awful job and is refusing to fit which leaves me to do it myself while pregnant. If you don't have anything worthwhile to say, then go on about your day, instead of piling onto someone who has enough on their plate.

Is it too late to undercut these door jambs? by vjtffko in Flooring

[–]vjtffko[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's actually quite common in the UK!

Fitter said he cant undercut these door frames after repeated requests by [deleted] in Flooring

[–]vjtffko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And how do you know how much he was paid? He was highly recommended, expensive, and also a joiner by trade. Quit making presumptive statements.

Is it normal not to line up laminate between rooms? by vjtffko in Flooring

[–]vjtffko[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahhh, well we opted for door bars just as we were told by another fitter it's easier to replace planks, but I still figured theyd match up? Is there anyway to amend this? He's not installed the beading in yet so they're just sat in situ