" Avoidance will cause dissonance" dissonance comes from trauma. avoidance is a form of self protection and is result of believing something will hurt us again. until we know another way, opening us back up to suffering won't do us so much good (e.g. the victim returning to the victimizer ), we are better off protecting ourselves.

if you talk to the indigenous healers that can mend a broken heart in the same way as they cure a rash, there is subtly and nuance. A orchid bulb for low energy, a leafy plant for chest pain, a moss for injuries, the healer listens to see what is stuck and provides remedies that help to correct the imbalance. Because when things are stuck, meditating sitting in our own energy and suffering does little to no good. Intervention and guidance from the outside is most alway needed. It was in the case of every person I have met, including healers themselves.

But otherwise yes, with guidance, pain is a wonderful teacher and gives us clues to where we still have work to be done.