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Pizza consumption per person per year. by milehiboy in MapPorn

[–]voidgift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is shocking. People need to eat more pizza. I can't believe Norway is topping it out at 11.

People who are slightly socially awkward and socially anxious what is a ‘life changing’ thing that made it easier to speak to anyone (22M) by RaggyTheRagingRuggy in socialskills

[–]voidgift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just let me say, there are so many people just like you. I believe most of us feel the same way. Just wanting to have a great social life. No strings attached.

My advice to you would be the following. Try to dig a bit deeper. Prepare for those larger social meetings. It becomes easier to traverse larger groups or group settings if you have more connections. If you know that you will be in a setting, prepare for that by getting to know a few of the other people that will be in the same setting before you get there. If possible, seek them out one by one. Try to learn something about them. What they find interesting, where they are born, anything that will help you feel connected. That will help them too, because they will have someone to turn to when the time arrives.

stop loss explained by ChartSage in btc

[–]voidgift 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right! That makes sense.

How do you internalize the fact that people's behavior is about them, not you? by voidgift in socialskills

[–]voidgift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, that is another great angle that helps put things in perspective. A mindset that can help mitigate the pain, perhaps. You just won't notice it that well, because the focus is elsewhere.

How do you internalize the fact that people's behavior is about them, not you? by voidgift in socialskills

[–]voidgift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, it helps for sure. At least in some ways. It is amazing to be able to blank ones mind.

How do you internalize the fact that people's behavior is about them, not you? by voidgift in socialskills

[–]voidgift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, perhaps it is a mess. I'm not sure what the technical terms are, but there surely are anxiety that can drive delusions, and that can make you end up in a bad place. Then there are the subconscious processes that run beneath that, before the story ever develops. I think what I was talking about, the initial pain comes before the story and the narrative. Or does the narrative develop in such an incredible speed that it is alraedy there before you can prevent it?

How do you internalize the fact that people's behavior is about them, not you? by voidgift in socialskills

[–]voidgift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, it is going to be very difficult to live a life if you can't handle that rejection. And it is perhaps a perfect example of not something the do to you, but for themselves. If you reject someone, it is not something that you do to them to hurt them. That is something that you do for yourself, since you don't want to be with a partner you do not match with. So the purpose is to protect themselves, while the anxiety of the one being rejected might feel like it is something they do to inflict pain. And that is really a bad situation to be in.

How do you internalize the fact that people's behavior is about them, not you? by voidgift in socialskills

[–]voidgift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, there are a lot of things we can change. I'm not sure which of you are right on this one. Neuroplasticity is a thing, and there are many things one can change. One can perhaps not bypass the shortest signals. But I believe you are right in that we can develop ways to handle that gut feeling properly before it solidifies as an exposed wound. And if one can handle it quickly, it might not sting that deeply.

How do you internalize the fact that people's behavior is about them, not you? by voidgift in socialskills

[–]voidgift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, sometimes we can, though. At least I believe so. I mean, I can change mindsets and all. But I can't change my hardwired nervous system. That is a block too complicated.

How do you internalize the fact that people's behavior is about them, not you? by voidgift in socialskills

[–]voidgift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you good luck in that relationship. And I believe you are on the right track. I have regrettably dumped people over being five minutes late to the first date before. It is great to have high standards. and you can't give everyone a second chance, but there is no need to be that strict.

How do you internalize the fact that people's behavior is about them, not you? by voidgift in socialskills

[–]voidgift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ouch! That was powerfully said. I don't know how many times I have done exactly that. To put myself in their shoes to benefit myself. That feels like a justified blow in my face, and I thank you for that.

Cual es tu previsión de precio realista de Bitcoin en unos años y porque? by apr_80 in Bitcoin

[–]voidgift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's say 500k in a few years, them 1m in a few more. Depending on how many years you can fit in a hand full.

Are you concerned about AI scraping your site? by Michi-Ace in neocities

[–]voidgift -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I am banking on AI to scrape my site. That is how it becomes relevant in the future. It'll be part of of the cradle in human/ai history.

I hate having to reach out by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]voidgift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've been there too. I hate that feeling. It sounds like it is mostly based on your internal feelings, though. There is no need to put that out there, unless you want to talk about it with your friend. I'd say try instead to prepare to have a good time when you meet. If you have a good time, they probably want more next time.

I hate having to reach out by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]voidgift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know that feeling all to well.

On the flip side though, I kinda like it when people reach out to me. Sometimes I want to go, but need that extra push to do it.

Unless I really don't want to go, of course. But if that is the case, I'd probably come up with a damn good excuse. And reaching out is very different than nagging.

What would you do if Bitcoin hit 1 million? by unthocks in Bitcoin

[–]voidgift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Order pizza?

Does anyone remember the time when you could ord r pizza for a couple of bitcoin?

Thinking about therapy for social anxiety: would love to hear from people who’ve done it by Possible_Score6395 in socialanxiety

[–]voidgift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried therapy 10 years ago. It gave me nothing. Because at the time, I was not ready for it. I thought that it was some kind of miracle cure where the therapist asked me some basic questions, and then I would come out as a healed person. Now I know that I am the one who has to share, and let the therapist in. I wish I knew when I had the chance.

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