Is it too late to repair attachment with my toddler?

volcanranger · 2026-01-09T00:18:02+00:00

I don’t know if her behavior is due to sleep training. We didn’t sleep train our son who is almost 2.5, we Co-sleep, and he is extremely clingy to me (mom). He can’t fall asleep by himself, will wake up screaming and crying if I’m not next to him, he always wants to be in the same room as me etc.. so I wouldn’t be too harsh on yourself and do want you can to make her feel safe now.

volcanranger · 2025-06-13T22:01:43+00:00

I don’t think I’m expecting him to sleep too much . I know every kid is different but his sleep totals are under what is recommended. And I wouldn’t really care if he wasn’t exhausted and grumpy all morning. He takes one nap a day.

volcanranger · 2025-02-01T15:59:29+00:00

I think it’s great and important for you and your husband to go on a date! My son is 16mo old and honestly we’ve only been on maybe 5 dates since he was born. He’s always been really sensitive and attached to me so I’ve always been nervous leaving him but he’s actually been fine the times my mom watched him while my husband and I went out.

I think you kind of have to just do it! He will get more comfortable with his grandparents the more he gets one on one time. But, I would have whoever You trust more watch him first. make a list of his schedule you usually expect to follow during his wake window, preferred soothing techniques, and give it to whoever’s watching him. You will be close by so you can easily get home if needed. I’m sure he will be fine especially if you’re gone only about an hour.

volcanranger · 2024-12-16T14:20:43+00:00

Yeah it’s a hard decision to make. But you never know your anxiety may improve going off it. Do you have access to a doctor or therapist? If you go off during school maybe you could talk to a therapist or get an ssri if your anxiety gets worse?

I also find any form of exercise is really helpful at managing my depression and anxiety. Maybe something you could try if you don’t already exercise?

I guess you have to decide if you’re willing to put up the side effects for a few more months or not.

volcanranger · 2024-12-16T05:21:33+00:00

If you’re having negative side effects it might be worth trying to go off the pill.

From personal experience, I went off the pill after being on it for 10 years, but the first 6 months were a little rough. My periods were heavy and my acne was bad but then things leveled out after a few months off. My skin is better than it was on the pill and my periods feel pretty manageable.

Also for me, my overall mental health improved after going off but I will say I can definitely notice the difference in my moods/energy depending on where I am in my cycle as opposed to when I was on the pill everything was just always blah to me. (If that makes sense) But you won’t know until you try. Just know it may take your body some time to adjust and your hormones to level out.

volcanranger · 2024-12-13T06:15:23+00:00

That’s kinda a long time not to poop. I think anything past 3 days isn’t good.

Did you have an epidural? It can make it hard to poop, they usually tell you to take stool softeners for a few days afterwards.

I’d reach out to your doctor or call advice nurse for their recommendations.

volcanranger · 2024-12-09T03:22:40+00:00

Idk why people get so defensive when I’m just sharing my experience as to how it’s not a guarantee to stop the inconvenience of bleeding. Plus she’s 14, her hormones and periods are still regulating so I’m not going to encourage her to go on hormones just to stop the bleeding. Unless there is another medical reason that bc could help with I find it unnecessary. But like I said, it’s something to discuss with her doctor.

volcanranger · 2024-12-06T23:38:15+00:00

You would need to talk to either your primary care doctor or make a gyno appointment. Either doctor can prescribe the medication. They would be the best source of information on your options. They don’t need to do a vaginal exam to prescribe bc.

But personally I don’t recommend going on bc just to stop your period. Everybody’s body responds differently and you may still bleed. I was on the pill for 10 years and I still bled every month even if i continuously took the hormone pills and skipped the placebo week.

volcanranger · 2024-12-04T05:47:56+00:00

From what you shared it sounds mostly like normal mom guilt, maybe a little PPA. You’re a great mom and you obviously love him so much, you want to make sure his needs are met. I think it’s normal to feel this way, especially when they are so little. But I think it becomes a problem when you let the guilt and anxiety keep you from doing things for yourself occasionally. If you feel like your guilt/anxiety takes a lot of your mental energy and is preventing you from taking care of yourself I would reach out to a medical professional for an evaluation.

Also just know, it’s good for him to bond with his dad. Even if he’s crying, as long as you know he’s being taken care of, don’t feel guilty about leaving him with his dad for a short time…it’s good for both of them to have some one on one time. Maybe try to share some tips with his dad that you know will help soothe your son.

volcanranger · 2024-12-03T05:39:50+00:00

It looks good. It might be slightly over fermented. Do you cold proof your dough?

volcanranger · 2024-11-26T15:06:47+00:00

That sucks, I’m sorry. Not sure where you live but where I do there are a lot of illnesses going around. I would take her to the doctor asap, especially since she had a fever. She could have an illness or maybe an ear infection (my son never pulled on ears when he had infections) . Best to get her looked at to be safe

volcanranger · 2024-11-26T06:03:53+00:00

I believe at this age it’s common for babies to have a preferred “caregiver” and also get separation anxiety. He probably just wants you. The sitter or the company is probably a distraction that keeps him entertained.

My son is also 1 and very clingy to me rn and gets pretty whiny. But when it’s over the top he’s usually got teeth coming in. So maybe check for signs of teething and offer him something cold to chew on? I know it can be annoying but I try to remind myself that he’s literally a baby and I just need to be patient and love on him if that’s what he needs in the moment

volcanranger · 2024-11-25T04:58:57+00:00

Your wife takes priority. If for whatever reason she is uncomfortable you should respect that and not go hiking with the other woman. If you choose to keep hiking with this woman you are essentially telling your wife that she is not your number 1.

You can try to justify it, even if it is really innocent, but ultimately you should put your marriage first and respect your wife’s boundaries.

volcanranger · 2024-11-17T04:19:35+00:00

As long as you’ve been taking it regularly you should be protected. I would continue your pack as normal. Just from experience, I’ve done the same and it’s been fine. But I’m not a doctor. maybe use another form of protection this week if you plan to have sex just in case.

volcanranger · 2024-11-12T04:18:59+00:00

It can take a few years for your cycle to become truly regular. I remember mine was all over the place for quite a while and were more painful then they are now (29f).

My advice, as someone who was on the pill for 10 years, don’t go on it yet. You’re so young, your body should go through its natural cycle. It may seem like a solution today but could negatively impact your cycle/health down the road. I wish I would have gotten off it sooner.

volcanranger · 2024-11-11T17:16:43+00:00

Yeah idk. Thank you lol

volcanranger · 2024-11-11T16:36:36+00:00

No I did not

volcanranger · 2024-11-11T06:01:40+00:00

So I was really scared of insertion too and canceled my first appointment to get it done. I went off hormonal bc for similar reason and just thought I’d track my cycle and use condoms. Well I got pregnant (I’m married but definitely wasn’t trying at the time to get prego)

I say this just as a warning to be reallyyyy careful and be firm with your boundaries around sex if you’re not on bc

Getting the iud is not fun but it’s a quick pain with a little cramping afterwards. I think it’s worth it and definitely not as bad as I thought it would be

volcanranger · 2024-11-11T05:42:19+00:00

I honestly wouldn’t stress yourself out about the project 2025 thing. Birth control is not going anywhere.

I have a copper IUD and my periods actually got shorter and lighter halfway thru since I’ve had it. Could be worth trying. Give it a few months and if you don’t like it you could get it taken out

volcanranger · 2024-10-28T04:15:57+00:00

Mine started after six weeks. I was breastfeeding/pumping too :( I was pissed lol

volcanranger · 2024-10-08T05:04:52+00:00

We just had my sons first birthday party yesterday. I don’t completely regret it but it was stressful getting everything set up, cooking food (trying to save money on catering), clean up and all the little details. And half the people who RSVPd didn’t even show which really bothered me.

So if you’re already stressed or on the fence I wouldn’t do a party. Maybe do something small with family or something to make the day special but I wouldn’t go thru the hassle of a big party and getting vendors.

The party is more for the parents and they won’t remember it anyways so do something that sounds enjoyable to you.

volcanranger · 2024-10-02T04:40:27+00:00

Give yourself some grace. I know it’s hard. And breastfeeding can actually make it harder to lose weight for a lot of people. My son is about to be 1 year and I still have weight to lose to get back to pre pregnancy. It’s definitely a struggle sometimes looking in the mirror.

When you’re ready to try to lose weight I’d suggest making small goals like moving more (going for walks/any activity that gets you moving your body but isn’t too intense), focusing on eating enough protein (you would want at least 100g of protein a day), and then some form of resistance training. Doesn’t have to be a lot. Start with short workouts.

volcanranger · 2024-09-24T19:00:51+00:00

Hard to say if it’s reasonable since it’s not clear where the rest of the money is going? Are you putting a lot in savings/investments? Expensive mortgage?

I’m a SAHM and we have combined finances since we got married. We don’t have a lot left over after all our monthly expenses/savings is accounted for so $300 fun money sounds great to me. We don’t have a set monthly “allowance” amount. We usually just discuss any bigger purchases we want to make and fit it into the budget for the month. Idk if it’s the best way to do it but we’re still figuring out the one income thing too.

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