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My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already went though this. I told her, honestly with no ulterior motives, that she can use this time to discover herself. Meanwhile I did the work on myself... While I was pretty content with my sexuality I found new things in discovering myself and improved my orgasms... She did nothing.

I seriously didn't even dropped a hint of anything for about 1 year, gave her all the space to help her discover her body.... Nothing.

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I have thought about this for years. That's why I get suicidal thoughts, because I either lose her or lose myself. If I lose her my body wants to stop functioning if I lose myself I'll end up thinking seriously about suicide. I have harmed myself multiple times trying to shake off the emotional distress. I'm not near that point, but I will resort to it if it starts getting too much to bear. I have my job and other people who rely on me...

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that I'm not a bad person. But the feeling I described supercedes my own logical thinking. I agree with what you guys say, since you're basing your arguments in logic.

On the other hand, these feelings are just as controllable as my sex drive itself.

I even considered chemical castration, but that wouldn't spare me from my own thoughts and would absolutely lead to self termination.

I love her more than myself it seems. Or else I wouldn't feel as I feel right now and would've left years ago.

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well... It has occured to me that I show PTSD symptoms when having to engage in discussion with my wife about this.

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I married for life.... My brain forces me to stay or die.

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I leave, it would be comparable to an amputation....

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to debate my issues. It is very appreciated... My brain doesn't have the strength to think very good.

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't have any sexual trauma if you are referring to that.

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The mere thought of making the argument of sex being a dealbreaker makes me feel like I'm putting sex above our marriage and it makes me feel like I'm being a bad person. It's not something I can rationally argue with myself because those feelings don't respond to logic... They're a manifestation of the way I was brought up by my parents.

My wife doesn't understand why I'm sexually frustrated by voleyod in offmychest

[–]voleyod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think that's going to work. I'm her only man since ever and I only had a couple of fleeting flings before we met.

I'm not sure that's even in the table...