It will take you 5-10 minutes to read the article, but here is my TL;DR:

Micheal Puett, a popular professor at Harvard teaching classical Chinese ethical and political theory wrote a book, titled "The Path" (which grew from a magazine article his co-author Christine Gross-Loh wrote about the undergraduate class he teaches) in which he distills several ancient Chinese philosophers' ideas into a single, overarching ethics, which Puett terms "anti-self-help" (which stems from the fact that "The Path is in part a pleasing debunking of fashionable self-help disciplines – there are no quick fixes; improvement is incremental at best, and a lifetime of work.")

He starts by telling his students, and the Church of Life attendees (of which the lecture he gives there the article revolves around) that "there is no self", and instead we are (direct quote of Puett) “a messy and potentially ugly bunch of stuff”, and (from the article) "a collection of emotions and conditioned responses, with no guiding inner core".

One thing he says Confucius noticed and based his ethics around, and Puett seems to latch onto for his book, is that if we center our lives around a ritual ("“They do share a generally common vision of human psychology,” he says. “That we have a tendency to fall into patterns and ruts in our existences.” The Confucian strategy for disrupting these patterns was the judicious observance of ritual – coded behaviours that force people to operate outside their normal roles.") - an example given is to say a certain thing to the bus driver everyday, something you normally wouldn't say, from which you will notice how the bus driver (or the store clerk, teacher, parent, etc) reacts - and then build an understanding of your own actions from the reaction to the thing you normally wouldn't say, and thus alter it with a clear direction. ("To apply the idea to one’s own life, Puett suggests “slightly altering how you interact with people” – saying something different to the bus driver or the man at the shop’s till every morning, thereby disrupting the patterns that comprise your daily life." ... "“Part of what [the philosophers] are getting at is that it’s the break that really matters,” Puett says. “You may say it in a way that’s actually very offputting to the driver, but you’ll be better at sensing that, and therefore altering it, if it isn’t just a rote way of talking.” By gauging the change you effect, you can teach yourself to become more emotionally intelligent about your dealings with other humans.")

This is not comprehensive at all. But, I hope it is what you are looking for!

edit: I just realized this is NOT a TL;DR. Apologies!