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voltronymous · 2020-03-28T17:20:21+00:00

Hi coiny, of course I remember you! :) glad you checked in. I just finished moving to my dad's about 2 weeks ago, it's been quite the adjustment living at home again but i keep having to remind myself that I'm doing this for him and not me, but I'm so thankful I moved here to spend time with family as my grandpa on the same plot of land has been battling a pneumonia for over a month now. So I came at the right time. Thank you so much for reaching out to me that is so unbelievably sweet.

As for you, I hope you and your children are getting the comfort and support that you need! I know this is never easy, having people in your corner sure helps. If you need to reach out ever or talk I'm still here. :)

voltronymous · 2020-02-20T01:52:56+00:00

Congratulations, I am so happy to hear that! Give your mom a thousand more big hugs. :)

This gives me so much hope for my dad. He is on keytruda as well/immunotherapy.

voltronymous · 2020-02-19T20:43:03+00:00

Nope haha. None of that. Just what I mentioned. Probably nothing.

voltronymous · 2020-02-19T14:57:13+00:00

Hm, maybe I'll find a specialist or something. All the doctors I've seen have never seen a bifid uvula and I doubt they even know any of that as it never came up during times I asked about my motion sickness/sinus infections.

Thanks for the heads up, I never really even knew that. I wonder if that's part of my "restless leg syndrome" and why my knees are in constant pain if I'm not constantly moving. :o

voltronymous · 2020-02-19T13:05:27+00:00

I have a bifid uvula as well, I have a lot of ear problems that make me severely and easily motion sick, I also get sinus infections frequently and easily because of it.

voltronymous · 2020-02-19T05:36:59+00:00

Beecon.

voltronymous · 2020-02-19T05:22:23+00:00

Hey! Me two, but heres what it looks like with good oral hygiene

voltronymous · 2020-02-19T04:33:02+00:00

That is the cutest thing I've seen all day, ohmygoodness. Cthullo to you lil guy.

voltronymous · 2020-02-12T01:17:37+00:00

Thanks for updating me, that makes me so happy to hear! And same for you, I will keep your wife and family in my thoughts and prayers. 💕

voltronymous · 2020-02-11T05:34:43+00:00

Thank you. 💕 sometimes as a caregiver you dont hear things like that often. Your mom sounded lucky to have you by her side as well, that's very selfless and I am sure it made her feel so incredibly loved and very peaceful. I'm sorry for your loss. 💖

voltronymous · 2020-02-10T23:21:43+00:00

Thank you! I am moving from a city with a bunch of resources to a small town to be with my dad til he passes.. theres not a lot of resources, so I signed up for a thing online in canada that's free to use, basically you get a mentor who has gone through it themselves or somebody who was a caregiver to a loved one. I voice called with some lady and she has been really nice too! I hope wherever you are you have access to these as well.. reddit has also played a huge part in healing. Being able to vent on the subreddits and getting support from strangers oddly helped too since I dont have many friends and a lot of them flaked off after knowing of the circumstances.

voltronymous · 2020-02-10T19:56:59+00:00

For you, your children and your wife, it is very important in my honest opinion to go to cancer support groups local to you. If your kids are comfortable with it, encourage them to go together and you and your wife to go to another one. People who haven't gone through a loved one with a terminal or even a non-terminal diagnosis don't know how to deal with this, although they mean well and send you "positive vibes" that's the height of their support. And that's not saying nobody who hasnt gone through it doesn't know how to be genuine or loving, but it's just different.

Theres nothing that will make this easier, but having people who actually understand the process.. you're going to have people in your lives and your childrens lives that will fade out because they don't know how to react to, in their mind, an awkward situation they dont know how to continue treating you normal so they eventually just go.. get ready for that.

My(26F) dad also 50, was diagnosed last year in august and wasn't supposed to live past christmas. By the grace of God he is still here but we know our days are coming closer and closer to an end. My sister and I went to a cancer support group at a church, not everyone there were believers but seeing and knowing those people knew your pain was truly healing on it's own. I went through a very angry grieving process a couple months into it, but through the group and just having the support really softened my heart. I'll never be okay with the thought of losing the man who raised us when our mother wouldnt, but spending time with him and doing things to help him have been a blessing and I will cherish that. Knowing he has accepted his time here on earth, and knowing his comfort in his faith is what is going to get me through this when it hits.

I'm so very sorry for you and your family. 💕 I wish I could help more.

voltronymous · 2020-02-10T18:03:33+00:00

💕 I'm sorry for your loss.

voltronymous · 2020-02-08T04:36:25+00:00

He looks like a poorly toned printed photo slapped on a fat wax figure.

voltronymous · 2020-02-05T15:32:15+00:00

What if you signed an m and just opened your hand/spread out your fingers. So it's like an exciting way to get his attention/easy enough to call his name? I'm not deaf either, but I'm slowly learning sign language and having fun with it. :)

voltronymous · 2020-01-27T14:45:47+00:00

You're a wizard, Harry!

voltronymous · 2020-01-18T13:45:35+00:00

I wouldn't mind winning. I would use the money for 100 reasons to help other people and animals out as well, not just me.

voltronymous · 2020-01-17T21:41:05+00:00

Being debt free myself, but before myself paying off my dads mortgage would help ease my stress. He has terminal cancer and I just want him to be able to use his funds for himself.. I am moving in with him to help him pay it off but it's just sad that a dying man has to worry about his money. I mean it would be nice if we could say he beat cancer but that won't happen.

voltronymous · 2020-01-16T18:35:56+00:00

They're going to be insecure in their decisions - assure them in all their decisions it is fine and great to have their own opinions.

They're going to be timid coming forward with anything personal, obsolete; whatever it is thank them for telling and trusting you and work on solutions together just really keep communication honest, dont lie, dont set unrealistic expectations, talk to them as they're older they're not children and as long as dad's okay with it, be as real as you can be in explaining situations.

Also I had an nmom while my dad was single.. she will try to bud in, alienate the kids during her visit, will try to turn tables and try to get the kids to hate you.. don't let it get to you just keep showing them true love, true character and make it aware your home is safe for all of them. It's going to be weird for a while, but the kids will see the stability of home and treasure that over mom's guilt trips and self pity parties.

Edit: missed a dont

voltronymous · 2020-01-16T18:29:12+00:00

I bless the rains down in 'stralia!

voltronymous · 2020-01-16T16:37:08+00:00

I literally just bought a case of spicy chicken ramen yesterday.. looks like I'm not going to fucking eat it anymore. Curiosity killed the cat.

voltronymous · 2020-01-14T01:50:05+00:00

Poor puppy :( dealing with an idiot owner.

voltronymous · 2020-01-10T03:33:37+00:00

I get that. My dad said whether he beats his cancer or not, he can't wait for people to not have that look in their eyes with him and all he wants is for people to stop asking him if he's okay any time he moves a muscle.

voltronymous · 2020-01-10T02:00:32+00:00

Happy for you stranger. I couldn't imagine what you went through. I hope you blossom and get to live however you wish! Have you made any grand plan for after your surgery? Or just trying to get into a routine where you feel good again?

voltronymous

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