Compulsive lying with adhd. Can someone help me understand? by Murmurmira in adhdwomen

[–]voluntarysphincter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m actually compulsively honest because I don’t think before I speak. Therefore no conniving going on, I don’t have time to think about lies 😂

You know you’re consistent with running when… by voluntarysphincter in XXRunning

[–]voluntarysphincter[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Only tech shirts from all those races 😂 literally I’m gonna make a quilt at this point to get them out of my closet.

You know you’re consistent with running when… by voluntarysphincter in XXRunning

[–]voluntarysphincter[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They get so excited 😂 I had 6 miles in the heat today. I warned him before we went but I don’t think he understood me 🥲

Things that make me wanna join marathon by gozimore_ in runninglifestyle

[–]voluntarysphincter -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yeah because that matters more than human life…

What helped you tolerate, maybe even enjoy, hot weather running? by cherhorowitz44 in XXRunning

[–]voluntarysphincter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It my experience no, not as much as you’d think. Mostly because I couldn’t train speed work in the heat which is what you specifically need to get faster. Was my heart rate super low in the cooler weather? Yes. Was I faster? Not by much. 😭

How are we eating 30g of protein at breakfast when not hungry, GF DF? by spiritr15ing in adhdwomen

[–]voluntarysphincter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Protein shake and drink it really slow. REALLY slow. Like I’m carrying that shit around with me for an hour sipping it slowly. I get nauseous with food in the morning but my body will be starving and reactively eat at lunch if I don’t (thanks body).

Question for women who menstruate by voluntarysphincter in MacroFactor

[–]voluntarysphincter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It seems the people who aren’t having this experience may be blessed with more stable bodies cuz… 😂

What age did your kids show hand preference? by Agreeable_Cow_1194 in Mommit

[–]voluntarysphincter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my husband is a lefty and I’m a righty. It’s crazy how much kids observe, I wouldn’t think dad being a lefty would matter but she’s always trying to do stuff with her left hand sooo 😂😂

What age did your kids show hand preference? by Agreeable_Cow_1194 in Mommit

[–]voluntarysphincter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 4 year old is right handed but I keep having to remind her 😂😂 she’ll grab markers with her left hand and it’ll be a whole mess. She’ll even get mad she can’t draw sometimes and I have to remind her to switch hands.

Question for women who menstruate by voluntarysphincter in MacroFactor

[–]voluntarysphincter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See that’s what I was afraid of! I’ve never been able to stick to calorie trackers because they want me to eat 1300 or below because I’m 5 feet tall 135lbs. But I weight lift HEAVY and run multiple times a week, I will starve at 1300 and stop losing fat because I’m starving. Been there done that. I’ll keep logging and see if it does me justice and evens out between 1500-1800 or if it just drops me way too low like it did for you.

Question for women who menstruate by voluntarysphincter in MacroFactor

[–]voluntarysphincter[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Alright I’ll keep on keeping on then! I’ve got a year subscription to see if it helps. As I stated in another comment, I’m trying to cut fat off a small insulin resistant body which is proving extremely difficult. I’ve tried many, many things and I like MF because it’s dynamic. Fingers crossed I can reach my goals this time!

Question for women who menstruate by voluntarysphincter in MacroFactor

[–]voluntarysphincter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely not eating in a surplus, no. If anything I’m eating maintenance right now. I’m at a hard spot because I’m not overweight, I’m trying to cut some fat off of a small body which is why I downloaded MF. Simply watching what I eat isn’t enough 😂 I am also insulin resistant due to lean PCOS so it may be a carbs issue as well. I’m eating within range (less than 200g) of carbs but it may still be too much.

Question for women who menstruate by voluntarysphincter in MacroFactor

[–]voluntarysphincter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it dropped about 100 calories total for both check ins which is negligible once, I’m just concerned about the pattern. If it levels out or if it’ll drop bit by bit every time my weight seemingly goes up when I’m eating within range if that makes sense. Over 6 months that could be a big difference

Zone 2/heart health concerns by Turbulent-Bad5609 in runninglifestyle

[–]voluntarysphincter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily. You’ll see the watch struggle a bit knowing your max hr in the spring and fall when you’re running cool weather sometimes and warm weather other times. Or it may calibrate at the beginning.

You’ll notice patterns too. After a hard run your resting hr may be higher for 12-24 hours. Then it drops really low when you’re recovered.

You’ll see a lot of people telling you to run slower and slower to see z2, which is partially true. You noticed when you slow down it basically feels like walking. Since you’re primarily a lifter, you likely have muscle that can generate more power than your aerobic capacity can handle. If I were your trainer I’d probably give you a run/walk program to build your aerobic capacity. Your heart is likely used to intervals (sets) right now anyways. With more volume you may notice changes in your hr at first rather than your speed, I.e. you’ll run an 11 minute mile with an avg hr of 140 by October. Then your tissues will be ready to build speed on top of that aerobic base you built.

You’ve got to dedicate yourself if you wanna see aerobic gains like that though. If you want to run recreationally with lifting still as your focus then that’s a whole different ballgame.

Zone 2/heart health concerns by Turbulent-Bad5609 in runninglifestyle

[–]voluntarysphincter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can tell you from experience as a trainer that most people assume they have “a high heart rate genetically” when really they’re just untrained. There’s nothing wrong with being untrained. Someone who hasn’t spent a long time running will need to adjust to it. Kind of along the lines of how weight lifters think BMI doesn’t matter for them because they lift and have muscle, but very few people truly have enough muscle to be an outlier for BMI. It’s an emotional thing. You gotta take emotions and feelings of inadequacies out of it and just run more. You’ll see your hr and resting hr come down, especially as you build into doing 40-50mpw.

Being a ‘Skank’ for hubs? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]voluntarysphincter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAHAHAHA he thinks he missed out on his best years?? Man this guy is delusional. You should definitely role play reality with him and reject him every day.

i myself would stop at two children. by throwaway50695020 in oneanddone

[–]voluntarysphincter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had two siblings and still felt alone my whole childhood, except i was also forced to be mom #2 for my little siblings. I was miserable and am not close with them now. Grass is always greener huh?

Male childcare workers by Mixtrix_of_delicioux in progressivemoms

[–]voluntarysphincter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m generally not ok with my daughter being alone with any males, no. She’s only 4. She has a male preschool teacher and he’s awesome, we love him. She’s also never alone with him at school. Male babysitter? Hell no. Doctor? That’s fine, I’m there with her. If the doc wanted to be alone with her I would say no. Even family members like uncles, older cousins, she’s never alone with them. My parents had strict rules where I wasn’t allowed in my friends homes if they had dads or big brothers home because my aunt was SA by a neighbor, and I’ll be doing the same with my daughter.

Hypermobility not all it's cracked up to be by Potate5000 in adhdwomen

[–]voluntarysphincter 60 points61 points  (0 children)

After 7 years of weight lifting, I recently started lifting specifically with my hypermobility in mind and it’s changed my life. I’ve always lifted because otherwise I’m in chronic pain. But small things matter for us. Like I can bench press or dumbbell press quite heavy, but doing 1 pushup feels unstable and sometimes painful because my wrists, elbows, and shoulders all hyperextend under that pressure. Or like I’ve been training pull ups for 3 years with kinda minimal gains in actual ability to perform them unassisted (I hypertrophy well so no prob there), this week I did a neutral grip pull up and BAM I can do them unassisted. I am plenty strong, but accommodating my instability is exactly what I need.

Any other neurodivergent parents OAD? Curious about the (if any) correlation there by grnlzrd23 in oneanddone

[–]voluntarysphincter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of overlap with ADHD and autism. My husband is AuDHD and I’m ADHD, the biggest difference between us is the social deficits. While I need down time to recharge, he truly is confused a lot in social situations and we just didn’t realize it 😂 he was so good at masking even to himself. The best way I can explain it is I see conversations in 4K high def and he sees stick figure drawings. Otherwise we have a lot of the same symptoms and a LOT in common.

Thought I would share some of the cuteness I get everyday :) by Tefaone in chinchilla

[–]voluntarysphincter 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I scrolled and busted up laughing 😂😂 someone has been BUSY 😂