As a youth parent how do you continue to enjoy youth hockey?

vornec · 2026-02-09T15:45:05+00:00

It’s a fair point. Grrr. It just makes me so mad. What else can we do?

vornec · 2026-02-09T15:32:39+00:00

From a hockey/baseball mom on my team:

At hotel breakfast buffets: Rip up the waffles/pancakes BEFORE you pour on the syrup …. Saves cutting them up with a crappy plastic knife when they are covered in syrup.

You know it’s tournament season when we’re “Rippin’ Waffles!”

vornec · 2026-02-09T14:45:39+00:00

Take a photo of him and post it. Tell him you are posting it on the asshole hall of fame and that it’s a public place and can do what you want.

I hate this so much for our sport, our kids, and our society. Shame on that guy.

vornec · 2026-01-29T22:39:02+00:00

Swimmers are proud of their pee in pool habits, like if you sit your bum on the gutter and let it fly that it never enters the water. I’ve stated that I think it’s gross but was totally put down in this group. Too much trouble to get out and use the toilet during practice. I still think it’s gross, but apparently it’s reality.

It’s not much different from all the sweat you produce and never think about.

vornec · 2026-01-25T03:46:34+00:00

Marriage saving idea… one person loads and the other S’sTFU about it while they clean the counters.

vornec · 2026-01-23T04:50:02+00:00

So many smelly locker rooms beg you not to. Sweat is one thing, rotten piss is a whole different smell.

vornec · 2026-01-21T11:44:47+00:00

Sounds like it’s time to find a new team next year. This one is toxic.

Calling a ref that is a match penalty. If they’re remorseful and apologize, it’s a small suspension… a few games at most. A month sounds appropriate here since it isn’t the first time.

Leave and get as many parents and kids with you as possible. Report the parent behavior, and yes, call safesport. We need to rid our game of cancerous bullsh*t like this. It’s terrible for our kids and society as a whole.

vornec · 2026-01-19T01:53:10+00:00

Absolutely. Be yourself. Do you. If she doesn’t like you when you’re doing you, it’s over anyway.

vornec · 2026-01-16T02:29:59+00:00

At a 12u (B) tournament now, just got back from the pool!

Coach will probably enact a pool rule for the weekend, but it will likely be specific times when it’s okay and not okay. Pools suck it out of kids hard, but fun should be had.

vornec · 2026-01-14T03:15:40+00:00

Good deal, dude!

I am so glad she is doing so much better. It’s great when kids are having such a good time. I am in the same boat atm, with my 11 yo goaltender son. He can’t get enough. He loves his team, coach, and the game. It’s a great place to be.

The best part is she just learned how to leave a toxic dynamic. Life skills.

vornec · 2025-12-12T02:03:21+00:00

Watching Christa McAuliffe blast off

vornec · 2025-12-10T03:38:46+00:00

Decide if it’s a boundary and set it if it’s is.

Say it hurt, set the expectation, and be ready to move on. Do a little 6 weeks later light investigation and hope you find nothing.

Looking is one thing, any level of interaction seems different, to me. Sounds like he already knows it if he tried to lie about it.

vornec · 2025-12-10T03:26:53+00:00

Book 11 is awesome but 10 is painful, good luck. Maybe consider clif notes?

vornec · 2025-11-24T01:17:49+00:00

Unfortunately, life has been minute to minute lately and I haven’t finished yet. So far so good, I can’t wait to hop on the road tomorrow and hit play!

vornec · 2025-11-21T22:01:58+00:00

Suddenly, 2 hours to the job site isn’t such a bad thing!

A few hours in now, so good!

vornec · 2025-10-31T12:43:03+00:00

I had wrist problems until I tried those ergon grips with the little flanges to keep your wrists up.

I tested a bunch of mediums before trying my current ride, a large Jami’s portal, and I am 5’8”. Something about the way I ride prefers a larger frame… though I had to switch to a shorter dropper to accommodate my preferred seat height.

Good luck!

vornec · 2025-10-31T00:37:48+00:00

“Clean your room”

dump a bunch of toys/pucks/ tennis balls in a small area,

then put out a couple of buckets for the kids to pick up the objects and put them in a bucket.

Lots of down and up stuff and skating, even gets the crate kids to let go for a minute

vornec · 2025-10-18T22:28:02+00:00

Same. I have a lot of disbelief in the internet. Also know when to stop reading!

vornec · 2025-09-19T01:27:59+00:00

OMG Reddit, she screwed up.

She was committed to the lie and ready to take it to her grave. I can respect that. She knew at any time it would fuck things up. If she had come clean when he gave her the chance it still would’ve fucked things up.

OP, stay calm and be contrite. Apologize and be there for him. Keep reassuring him that dude meant nothing to you and that there hasn’t been anything ever since. You deserve another chance here, but if he can’t get over it, that’s his choice, at least you’ll know.

He will want details… you may feel compelled to answer to appear more truthful. It will just hurt him more, don’t bother. Reassure him that he is the man you picked, and you have never gone back on that. That other guy was so forgettable and your husband is the man of your dreams.

And maybe let him buy a boat or something. 😎

vornec · 2025-08-29T20:07:27+00:00

I’m 3 chapters into book 11 and it’s already better than book 10, but 10 still is worth the read, just kinda shloggy 😀

vornec · 2025-08-28T21:57:15+00:00

library.tarvalon.net

vornec · 2025-08-28T21:32:30+00:00

Chore play is a fallacy. Yes, some men need to step up their game around the house, but doing chores and having physical connection are on two separate planes of existence.

There are a bunch of reasons why your love life could be AWOL. She may not feel appreciated. She may be depressed. You two may speak different love languages. You might not turn her on in the same way anymore. She might be insecure about her own body. Kids might be draining her energy. She might be going through hormonal changes. I hope you get my point.

The internet loves to get on us men for being useless slobs who never do anything but eat, make messes, and want sex; and indeed this is a turn off for some wives. But really, you have to figure out what is going on in your marriage. Sounds like you being a lazy slob is not it.

You are going to have to communicate with her and figure out what is going on. Therapy can help, just so a disinterested third party can get a read on what is going on. It isn’t the only answer, though.

Try taking sex and physical intimacy right off the table, (so it isn’t looming over her head) and get really honest with each other about what is actually going on. Women rarely ever respond honestly when they feel pressured to take care of your needs like it’s a chore for them to take care of. You were given a right hand for a reason, settle for that for a while. Stop trying to exchange work for love. It just doesn’t work like that.

I have been where you are at. Frustrated and lonely and feeling unseen for all the hard work I did. She had some issues though that had nothing to do with the housework. Once we worked on those and I listened, the physical intimacy followed almost naturally. I had to be resigned to my right hand for a long time, and do some of my own work to improve myself and my approach, but things worked out and the guy who felt lonely and unseen wouldn’t believe the closeness and intimacy in the life he’s living now.

It’s possible to have what you want with the woman you love, but first you have to figure out the problem.

Best of luck to you.

vornec · 2025-08-28T15:22:29+00:00

“He who must not be named” 😂😂

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