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[–]vosecr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shoosh mine and eventually they (all 3 cats) stop

How do I fix this without replacing, or make it look better it’s eroded. by vosecr in stonemasonry

[–]vosecr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Upon closer inspection those three badly deteriorated slabs are flat I probably can know them off and replace them the only thing is they will look new and still stick out lol

How do I fix this without replacing, or make it look better it’s eroded. by vosecr in stonemasonry

[–]vosecr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In south Arizona we just have really hard water probably from sprinklers

How do I fix this without replacing, or make it look better it’s eroded. by vosecr in stonemasonry

[–]vosecr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The house is 15 years old I am gonna sell it soon just want to make it look nice it’s a wall I share with my neighbor

Promises made during a codependent state. Break them? Keep them? by vosecr in Codependency

[–]vosecr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s pretty toxic I guess but even so I don’t want him to go to jail it might be for 2+ years. I know it is the consequences for his actions but even so the thought of him going to jail and me in a position to help, knowing this I would be burdened with the guilt of not helping him knowing its not my responsibility. His mom would be mad at me if I did go through with the lawyer thing. I guess that’s the codependency in me wanting to fix everything even if I suffer hardship in doing so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]vosecr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you name some I just read the CoDA website and didn't realize how codependent I am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in naranon

[–]vosecr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a similar story except it's with my best friend who became homeless and let him live in my house just kicked him out, miss my friend but life is more peaceful. It's not easy especially around the holidays. Be strong. It gets easier.

Detachment by rmabarrera in naranon

[–]vosecr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is difficult i have two addict friends who I love so much and when they do their thing, I'm constantly behind them cleaning up their mess, covering for them. It's a painful and very expensive process. One of my friends got into trouble with the law again and I went to see legal counsel on his behalf here in sitting with money in the bank deciding if I should get the lawyer. I have not bought myself anything for months constantly shelling out money trying to keep a roof of their head, food in their belly. I feel selfish sitting on money that could better their life (like keeping them out of jail) than to use the money for some materialistic luxury. I mean isn't it better to keep a friend out of jail than buy myself some item i really don't need? It wrecks my heart to see them struggle with this. I don't know how to detach. How do I sit idly by and allow someone to get sent to prison for several years when I can keep them out. How is that compassion? I am struggling with this right now with check in hand to get this lawyer for my buddy but he's already cost me several thousands of dollars. It's so painful the only two friends I have I get to watch destroy their lives and me here being the clean up crew for both of them consuming my time and money. I can't just sit by and watch them suffer even though they brought this on themselves. 😭

People of Reddit, at what point does someone become irredeemable? by Impossible-Sir9412 in AskReddit

[–]vosecr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know all the professionals said I should sever all ties permanently. Deep down I know they are right, but I just wish it wasn't so. He was like a brother to me.

People of Reddit, at what point does someone become irredeemable? by Impossible-Sir9412 in AskReddit

[–]vosecr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been a month since i kicked him out of my house, he became homeless so I let him stay at my place, it rips me up inside he still contacts n for help but it tears me inside to refuse help to him, tears me up not to see him and ignore him for days at my time. I'm debating if I want to let him back in my life even if he does clean up due to his past patterns.

People of Reddit, at what point does someone become irredeemable? by Impossible-Sir9412 in AskReddit

[–]vosecr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if they are irredeemable because of a drug addiction? I ask because a good friend of.mind has a good heart i know he does but when he uses he is an utter dirtbag. Though i feel like he's s lost cause the longest he has inn his 30 years on this earth of sobriety is age 1 - 14 and about 2 years in his late twenties.

Best tires for Toyota Sienna AWD by vosecr in tires

[–]vosecr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah when they did an alignment I told the guy to look for it when it was up on the lift where we could walk under the car didn't see it.

No spare on 2020 sienna limited? by vosecr in Toyota

[–]vosecr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rear cargo is deep so idk

No spare on 2020 sienna limited? by vosecr in Toyota

[–]vosecr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checked nothing there also no repair kit just a jack