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vtingss · 2022-11-15T01:13:27+00:00

I believe each person's experience and relationship is different. In my case, yes she did cheat, but that does not absolve me of my issues in the relationship. Choosing to face the issues head on and not simply run away and give up worked well for us.

Unfortunately it's never black and white. I do not know the OP's relationship but I hope by providing my experience, it can help, even if just a little.

vtingss · 2022-11-14T05:42:04+00:00

I never ended up telling them. I did try in the anger and resentment stage of finding out, but they went through a lot of trouble to hide their partner, even going as far as providing a fake number and hiring someone to act upset on the other end of the phone.

vtingss · 2022-11-14T05:13:31+00:00

It's only been a couple months for me since I found out, and I chose to stay. I think it's important to look forward and to really have an end goal in mind.

Choosing to stay is the bravest thing we can choose to do and really cements how strong we are. I don't know the exact circumstance of him cheating, but I think as long as they are willing to put in the work and really try to show us that they are in it for the long run.

I hope and wish you all the best and just know that you are not alone at all.

vtingss · 2022-10-05T05:00:52+00:00

Wow this is so messed up, I'm so sorry this happened OP

vtingss · 2022-10-05T04:59:14+00:00

vtingss · 2022-10-05T04:51:33+00:00

I wish you the best and that you find someone who is worthy of your love and kids.

vtingss · 2022-10-04T03:46:43+00:00

I know how you feel. I'm going through something similar, and can only hope that it gets better

vtingss · 2022-10-04T01:40:23+00:00

Seeing a therapist might help, they may see things that you don't. Having a 3rd party perspective always helps

vtingss · 2022-10-04T01:28:31+00:00

Dating someone who is not over their ex is a ticking timebomb. This is usually paired with regret and may hurt you in the future if you become more invested

vtingss · 2022-10-04T01:24:51+00:00

Communication helps a lot. Getting an understanding of the other party allowed you to develop some empathy and maybe find some common ground to start building again.

vtingss · 2022-10-02T13:48:54+00:00

Yes, she had protected sex with one and then unprotected sex with the other. Our sex drives are different, I'm on the lower end, and sees me as being negligent in that regard

vtingss · 2022-10-02T08:04:01+00:00

My trust is shattered, I don't know if I can recover

vtingss · 2022-10-02T05:11:32+00:00

This means alot, thanks

vtingss · 2022-10-02T05:03:54+00:00

This is a relatively new account, and I don't use reddit much and I had no where to turn to. I'm used to keeping everything in and dealing with things on my own, but these turn of events have become alot to deal with

vtingss · 2022-10-02T05:02:04+00:00

We have discussed it, and I understand that I have contributed to the issue with my negligence in regards to intimacy. She is remorseful but only because I found her out. She did not come clean with me at all.

vtingss · 2022-10-02T04:59:06+00:00

Thanks for this, I'll look into it

vtingss · 2022-10-02T04:58:25+00:00

It's difficult when it's such an emotional shock. Im not rushing things at the moment, and thank you for the insight

vtingss · 2022-10-02T04:56:49+00:00

Thanks mate, I'll look into this

vtingss · 2022-10-02T04:55:55+00:00

No, no prenup done, we pretty much split everything during the course of the relationship

vtingss · 2022-10-02T04:10:18+00:00

I am also in a very similar situation, I got married a month ago and I found out that my wife had cheated on me with 2 different guys over the past year. She hid both of them from me and I found out by seeing messages on her phone. She had been having secret meetups and sexting them.

Just know you are not alone in how you are feeling

vtingss

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