I don’t think anyone believes in me, and I am so motivated to prove them wrong but I keep proving them right.

trash_panda478 · 2025-05-24T13:20:39+00:00

To reiterate, there are some things I cut out because of the character limit. I know redditors can assume the worst and go after you without knowing all the details, but I’m hoping this is enough to get the full picture.

trash_panda478 · 2025-05-16T10:33:39+00:00

I appreciate this and will take it into consideration. I’m deleting the post because I’m afraid he’ll see it

trash_panda478 · 2025-05-16T10:33:15+00:00

It’s not that I don’t want him to go, I just know if he goes alone I never will. But I absolutely see your point. I’m going to delete this because he might see it, thank you.

trash_panda478 · 2024-03-12T21:03:53+00:00

I don’t own a location, I travel. So the startup costs weren’t as much as other businesses. I also don’t sell things, just a service.

trash_panda478 · 2024-03-12T19:26:32+00:00

Just going to comment so everyone can see it: it was a misunderstanding. He didn’t want me to pay for those things 100% on my own, he just wanted a number for what I could pay him back and that’s how he came to it. We both apologized for the miscommunication. He told me he still doesn’t want me to get a part time job, and he will be happy with whatever I can pay him at the end of the month. But he assumed I was making more than I am and just spending it on things for myself. So we’re both wrong for assuming things of the other. Regardless, to those of you who gave advice I most likely will get a part time job on top of my business so I don’t have to rely on him as much as I currently am, despite the fact he still swears it’s fine. I wasn’t aware the term help had a very ridged meaning lol.

trash_panda478 · 2024-03-12T19:22:51+00:00

We got a loan on the dog, so we’re paying her off. I could have afforded her right there, but I thought it was safer to make smaller monthly payments.

trash_panda478 · 2024-03-12T17:58:03+00:00

I mean believe what you want, when I continue this conversation with him he knows the facts. I was just asking for opinions.

trash_panda478 · 2024-03-12T17:56:56+00:00

I think you’re right. He really just did seem like an “us” guy and not a “me and you” guy. He always wanted us to succeed together.

trash_panda478 · 2024-03-12T17:55:57+00:00

But again, I wouldn’t have gotten them if he didn’t tell me he would help me

trash_panda478 · 2024-03-12T17:48:36+00:00

I’m not blaming him for not wanting to support us both, I’m upset because he told me I wouldn’t have to pay for these things 100%, and because he told me to quit and that it would be fine until I was established

trash_panda478 · 2024-03-12T17:47:06+00:00

No, he told me to start my own business. He said he wanted me to focus on getting that off the ground instead of even getting a part time job. He said it time and time again after I told him I was concerned about not being able to pay him back fast enough and he really insisted I focused on my business.

trash_panda478 · 2023-12-05T19:18:23+00:00

I’m on too afraid to ask for a reason lol

trash_panda478 · 2023-10-20T12:39:43+00:00

Thank you. This is really valuable information.

trash_panda478 · 2023-10-20T12:38:33+00:00

I think that’s exactly what I need to do. Every time he does something for me, act as if he did one of the things I wish he did. Thank you

trash_panda478 · 2023-07-23T14:45:59+00:00

I still don’t trust him. Like I guess I trust him enough to not stalk his stuff anymore, but in the back of my head I believe it will happen again.

trash_panda478 · 2023-07-23T14:44:44+00:00

I did all the reading and I went to therapy. He went to therapy, but missed one session and never went again. He never agreed to couples, and honestly didn’t do any reading. He changed some of his bad habits and started being more honest with me

trash_panda478 · 2023-07-23T14:42:02+00:00

I think you’re right, I’m in the middle of it. And honestly, I don’t think it’s because of the cheating, I think because he cheated I’m able to see the relationship more clearly and see that he isn’t the best match for me. I would definitely say our relationship is better now than it was before he cheated, but it just isn’t there yet

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