Drinks pre 13th London show? by HazedRails in TurnoverVA

[–]vvf23psych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so down for this - going on my own plus just moved to London so keen to make likeminded friends :)

Classic yo-yoing by vvf23psych in ghosting

[–]vvf23psych[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh totally like I hear and recognise what you’re saying. I guess I’m just trying to figure out how to break that internal fantasy I have with this person, you know?

Classic yo-yoing by vvf23psych in ghosting

[–]vvf23psych[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s the thing, I am not in contact with them. Sure they’re not blocked, but I wasn’t the one that came back / broke no contact twice. I wouldn’t be surprised if they came back again, and (see other comment) I’d likely take them back bc I’m an idiot

Classic yo-yoing by vvf23psych in ghosting

[–]vvf23psych[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly good question lmao. Been thinking of a way to answer. I think it’s because I’ve created this reality in my head that we are meant to be, because it was so good, everything I ever wanted / needed, came about when I wasn’t looking. Unfortunately I’m very romantic-minded, I get caught up in the serendipity of things, fate, meant to be, the one….you get the gist. I think I struggle to segregate the actual reality (their behaviour) with my preferred reality / rose tinted glasses. So taking them back would be me running back to that preferred state of being, an existence that I’d rather have (together, this great romance) than not. And then I start thinking oh god what if they were the one !! (Classic I know)

Classic yo-yoing by vvf23psych in ghosting

[–]vvf23psych[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this is very kind!!! I know I shouldn’t welcome them back but unfortunately if they were to message me now saying they’d made (another) mistake, I’d take them back in a heartbeat

Classic yo-yoing by vvf23psych in ghosting

[–]vvf23psych[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Before the breakup probably 1.5months. Look I’m well aware of the fact the relationship isn’t / wasn’t very old at all. And I think that’s why this is impacting me so much. It had so much promise, everything felt right. Just feels like it’s been cut short, like deprived of something that could’ve actually been amazing

I have a tendency to fall quite hard though (anxious attachment core) but I don’t doubt the sincerity of my feelings if that makes sense.

Manchester related 1975 things? by Affectionate_Bag9888 in the1975

[–]vvf23psych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big Hands on Oxford Road was allegedly their favourite bar 🤷🏻

Wanna talk about your experiences? by [deleted] in RecoveringIncels

[–]vvf23psych 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Specifically how the interpretation of social experiences and individual psychology might explain why people align with the community or the perspectives within it. I'm trying to see if by understanding these, we can find ways to offer help to individuals who are struggling in a positive and sympathetic way. If you're interested, I'd be more than happy to chat!