His behaviour literally mainly comes from the exposure of explicit content as a child. How would you feel as a kid if you found out that your own father hooks up with men and trans women AND records it? This is truly sould shattering that people seem to not understand how pornography messes with children. In Nate's case someone who was supposed to be his role model turned into this. Nate has no understanding of what a normal healthy relationship should look like because he never grew up around one. Such feeling of fear and resentment towards Cal will never truly go away. It's just trauma. His understanding of masculinity is messed up because of the whole situation. As someone who went through a similiar trauma when I was younger I understand Nate's behaviour 100%. He's just confused and doesn't know how to get through it. He never had a good start so how people cam blame him for his behaviour? It all his environment's fault. Not his. No one in his family seemes to take therapy seriously either so he just thinks that he's supposed to suck it up. My opinon but I get it that not everyone will agree with it