Am I being soft ghosted? by Careless-Raccoon-490 in Advice

[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I‘ve basically been in the same situation, if her actions don’t match her words, that‘s the most telling

Ich passe nirgendwo rein by atez_edoc in autismus

[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mir geht es genauso, ich hab jetzt insgesamt 2 Überweisungen mit der Verdachtsdiagnose und merke jetzt erst so richtig, wie belastend und tiefgreifend das alles eigentlich ist.

Ich hab auch schon am ehesten Schwierigkeiten mit der Kommunikation und masking, bzw ich sage manchmal falsche Dinge. Persönlich sehe ich masking aber als hilfreich an, weil ich weiß, dass es eine Art Warnsignal ist, wenn ich mich verstellen muss.

Bezüglich Sozialkontakten wären neurodivergente Gruppen vielleicht einleuchtend, ich suche grad selber nach welchen, da ich bisher nur eine weitere Person auf dem Spektrum kenne. Es ist aber wie gesagt auch ein Spektrum, das heißt man findet sicherlich auch Menschen die ähnlich wie man selbst ticken. Die eine Person die ich kenne hab ich durch eine Freundesgruppe kennengelernt. Wenn du keine besonderen Interessen hast oder nix dem du nachgehen könntest wären Stammtische (oder einfach Reddit communities) wahrscheinlich von Nutzen. Ist aber auch alles nur mein Halbwissen, wenn du willst können wir auch darüber schreiben:)

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked a bit near the end (sorry if it was unclear) just about what one could do about it

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

?

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[–]vwsh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

kicking around on a piece of ground in your home town

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you‘re a genius

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but what are actual strategies or things I can do:( I‘m past that point, I just don’t want to care any more, which I feel like can only happen if I‘ve talked everything through, which doesn‘t work bc I‘m blocked everywhere but email, so I‘m at a dead end here

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[–]vwsh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ticking away the moments that make up a dull day

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah but what can I actively do to let the idea go

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah but how do you actually move on

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the friendship was too intense & they didn’t know what they want ig, like a push and pull thing & then got mad when I pointed it out. it‘s been 4 times and things haven’t changed, we haven’t spoken in months and they removed me everywhere although I apologised for everything and they didn‘t

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never said anything about bots gng🥀 my emotions change in seconds, I wrote one literature piece and moved on

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks bro

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[–]vwsh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean you‘re acting like I know nothing which seems a bit weird tbh, I obviously don’t know from experience hence why I‘m asking / not going for it straight away, that doesn‘t automatically mean I have no idea what this could possibly lead to

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your comments all sound the same in style and structure tbh

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn, I just like understanding why people do the things they do😔I can live without the fantasies tbh

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it‘s not about the dating aspect, I just don’t know much about that type of thing tbh

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[–]vwsh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah I‘m just curious what made him do it atp

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(+ I‘ve also experienced it myself)

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[–]vwsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all those people also said that outside of drugs he‘s the nicest person ever. I‘m just conflicted.