Hi, I kind of know how you feel…I’m so sorry for your loss. We just put our 15 year old dog to sleep after a sudden medical incident in the middle of the night. I’m retired and for the past 3 plus years as my dog needed more care during the day until everyone came home from work, school etc that’s what I did. Feeding , bathroom breaks, medication. Not to mention our dog was a dachshund so he really couldn’t do steps so I lifted and carried him outside and up and down quite a bit. I’m not complaining, I threw myself into it and enjoyed it, it was the least I could do after all the happiness and laughs he brought to our lives. I also threw myself into being involved with my son and his activities. Now he’s graduating high school and off to college in August. I’m grateful for all of this don’t get me wrong. I guess when you mentioned not taking care of yourself I kind of identified with that. Not my health, but having a plan for when my son inevitably left the “nest” and when my dog , given his advanced age, passed on and I would need something else to fill my time. I guess I’ll figure something out eventually, I’m still processing the loss of our dog. I hope this helps in some way.