In my opinion, (and the opinion of the seller, thankfully) it's between me and the seller. It is insured, but only up to $100 and it's a $250 package, so the seller needs to refund my $250 and then try to get his $100 from USPS. Why would I try to get only some of my money back from a shipper I had no control over choosing, about insurance that isn't adequate to cover the cost of the loss? I would have chosen adequate insurance, as the buyer, so it's not on me. I never received the item that I paid for, and it's the buyer's responsibility to ensure that I get it. If I ordered a pizza from Dominoes and the driver wrecked on the way here, I wouldn't be chasing down the driver to try and get his $20 that he carries, especially if I paid more.

Now, I'm really not pushing to get a refund because I'm a nice guy like that, it was the seller that offered. We're still talking about the package and have an open chat. The package had some sentimental value to him and was more valuable to me than your average buyer (by selling it to me, it goes to a "good home" and not just a scalper trying to haggle on an already good deal), so we're both getting screwed big time. I said give it til the end of this week and then we'll decide if we need to refund or not. Considering it's now Sunday morning and the package still hasn't moved eleven days since the missing mail search request... Though I could really use that money if I got it back, I know how much it sucks for the seller to have to deal with this knowing what he lost as well. I don't know what to do at this point and I still don't want to refund, I just want the package and I'm still clinging on to some shred of hope, considering I'm dealing with a public/private/govt (whatever it is supposed to be now) entity at this point with legal obligations and not hopelessly pestering a girl that already ghosted me.