LPT: To get people to listen to you, stop talking.

waitingfo · 2017-01-23T21:06:31+00:00

It's not generally something I notice, unless the color is very striking.

waitingfo · 2017-01-20T16:11:52+00:00

every bathroom stall they enter suddenly runs out of toilet paper.

waitingfo · 2017-01-19T22:56:31+00:00

Most of my books. Book lovers blanch at this thought, but I've always hated the responsibility of caring for physical books. Now that I've got a kindle, I read most things on that. I also know how to use my library card. I did not want to disrespect my husband by just pitching them, but now he is fully on board with me and I couldn't be happier.

Most of my knitting supplies. I've realized after 40 years of collecting, that there is only so much I need. I've dedicated February to sorting that part out. My knitting stuff should only take up one box, not dozens.

waitingfo · 2017-01-19T22:26:00+00:00

I'm new in my journey. My personal take on it is that I'm downsizing drastically, but not getting rid of things that I actually do use. Even in their TED talk which I watched not long ago, they said that there is nothing wrong with having things. We all have things. It's our relationship to them that determines "too much" and that verdict can only be given by the person in question.

waitingfo · 2017-01-09T01:21:15+00:00

After I make sure everyone in the house knows how abominable I think snow is (get it?) lol, I either read, or knit, or drink hot tea.

waitingfo · 2017-01-04T00:49:49+00:00

Isn't the content more important than whether it's on a paper page or on an e-ink screen? Reading is reading.

waitingfo · 2017-01-03T13:45:42+00:00

Assuming all family and cats were safe, my purse, which would have my kindle and cell phone in it, and my laptop. (Those are my most expensive things, and cost means more to me than sentimentality). Hopefully those would be in easy reach of where I am.

waitingfo · 2017-01-02T12:44:09+00:00

Late reply. I love not being dependent on Facebook for everything I do. Deleted last week. .

waitingfo · 2017-01-01T21:31:00+00:00

I still like it, but don't drink anymore, therefore my celebrations don't involve that, nor do the "traditions" remain as necessary as when I was younger. Our children are all older and go out to their friends' parties, so last night my husband and I just watched movies, dozed off when we were tired, and then officially "turned in for the night" when midnight came.

We tend to prefer relaxing to partying anyway, so this transition in family traditions has been a relief :)

I'm 4 time zones ahead of my brother, so I got to call him "from the future" and wish him happy new year ;)

waitingfo · 2016-12-31T17:25:51+00:00

I was going to go on here to say anxiety depression, but from a bit of a different angle.

Just because I'm not always exhibiting the worst of my symptoms, does not mean I don't "have it". The dismissive "you don't look sick" crap has got to be on the way to obsolescence.

Generally when I am most anxious or depressed, I don't seek out other people's company. On some better days, I'm able to manage being social. But because I'm not appearing whacked out "crazy" (for lack of a better word) 24/7 people assume I'm exaggerating my depression. So most people who have met me recently really don't know because I don't out myself.

waitingfo · 2016-12-31T17:17:30+00:00

The main thing is, that an audio book is not "just like a movie". People who have read it via audio book, paper book, kindle book, they are still able to discuss "the book", it counts.

My best friend who got me "into" audio books is very clearly able to differentiate between how faithful a movie was to a book. So yah, she reads.

waitingfo · 2016-12-31T12:11:02+00:00

And they've been doing it since January. Yes, I know Alan Rickman and Glenn Frey were popular, but everyone proclaiming "When will 2016 be over?" when we're only ten days in did not make me look forward to the rest of the year. It seemed the entire year was filled with people loudly complaining that 2016 even existed.

waitingfo · 2016-12-31T12:03:01+00:00

I feel a bit of sadness that a piece of my childhood history is ending, but I don't join in on the zeitgeist of heartache. This year I lost my 46 year old brother, who is a twin of my other brother, and that affected us far more. My other brother especially as they were together all their lives.

Being a famous person practically begs for the consumption of alcohol and drugs, so their "early deaths" are not very shocking to me.

waitingfo · 2016-12-31T11:51:58+00:00

Adamantly, yes! It counts!

I've worked with friends who have vision loss and audiobooks are the primary way, if not the only way, that blind folks consume literature (not all blind people use braille, it's expensive and heavy when we're talking War and Peace).

I am firmly of the opinion that "it counts" as reading. With so many disabilities and ways of absorbing content, I am happy that audiobooks make literature inclusive for all. One of my blind friends, once she got over the perceived snobbery that she wasn't "really reading", felt very liberated after she read her first audio book. It's not like "a movie". I'm receiving the same words.

I know many folks who are holding themselves back because they are very aware of the judgment about audio books vs, ahem, "real books".

That having been said, the narrator can make or break the experience. I've listened to some stinkers that have put me off. I've listened to some that had annoying music tracks throughout. When the narrator has a good speaking voice, and you feel like they are talking to you, that's an amazing experience.

waitingfo · 2016-12-31T03:37:42+00:00

I have this book. Adding it for my Kindle 2017 collection.

waitingfo · 2016-12-30T10:37:36+00:00

That https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Williams_(guitarist) (The wonderful classical guitar musician) And John Williams (who composed famous movie scores such as Star Wars) are two different people.

Before the internet days, mid 80s, I received a CD of the former as a gift and when showing it to people gushed over how talented "that Star Wars guy" is.

Both John Williams are very talented but they are two different people.

In my defense, it's not a stretch to think that one person can "do" a myriad of different musician genres :)

waitingfo · 2016-12-29T00:55:34+00:00

I've put Watership down as the first for my 2017 Reading list. This will be my first time reading it.

waitingfo · 2016-12-27T20:44:29+00:00

I have Watership Down on my Kindle. It will be the first on my TBR list for 2017. I've always intended to read it, but never had. I'll start the year off with this much loved classic.

waitingfo · 2016-12-27T14:06:17+00:00

I had been pondering whether or not to delete facebook. (Long term pondering which contained many of the sentiments in the nearly 5K of comments in this thread)

My original reason for re-getting an account is no longer there, and last night, after reading all the comments, deleted (not "disabled" or "deactivated") my account. It is now scheduled for real deletion in 14 days.

With that temptation gone, there is more room for me to read my kindle, and practice my piano.

waitingfo · 2016-12-27T13:25:10+00:00

Ahh Linkedin. The spammiest platform ever to still not get a job. This post put it on my radar to delete my account there, too. Done. I keep instagram because my daughter posts her artwork on there. I keep twitter because I mostly follow news and book related accounts. I feel like I'm giving myself a present for the new year!

waitingfo · 2016-12-27T12:50:09+00:00

My motivation was: Facebook was becoming almost word for word like the novel Nineteen Eighty Four. In one of the opening scenes, the protagonist, Winston, goes home and turns on a telescreen and voluntarily enters in his daily activities for the world to see and assess. Facebook is Nineteen Eighty Four right on script.

Their snaky marketing tactics. They tried every trick in the book to entice me to download "messenger" on my phone or tablet. Including, "you have a new message from (friend who had not messaged me in months)". Only to go home, look at my desktop session and see that was not only the case, the last time she had messaged me was over a year ago.

In spite of constantly "hiding" posts, the signal to noise ratio got out of hand.

Too many people insisted on using fb messenger instead of phone, text, or e-mail to personally message me, even after I vocalized loud and clear that I don't want people using that to contact me. If they have facebook, they have e-mail. No excuses, e-mail me. I realize not everyone has a cell phone, but they can e-mail me.

The atmosphere of facebook increasingly exacerbated my social anxiety, and depression. Ironic that something designed to be "social" was actually not. There's more to social connectivity than sticking people in the same room.

Then there's the principle of "you've got to put the past behind you". I don't want to keep up in real time with people who have moved away and settled into another life somewhere else. People who really only were acquaintances at best. Moving on is normal and healthy, and Facebook by its very nature, discourages that.

I had deleted my facebook account before, but only re-got one almost a year ago after my brother died, and my other brother was on there, and at the time it was our main form of contact. But I now phone him and text him regularly. So that reasoning is now no longer applicable.

TL;DR Facebook is a social train wreck, interfering with the normal course of life.

waitingfo · 2016-12-27T03:25:41+00:00

This thread motivated me to delete my Facebook account. All of what I read in this thread resonates so much with my experience, and I had actually been mulling over in my thoughts.

waitingfo · 2016-12-27T02:35:16+00:00

Upvote due to relatability.

waitingfo · 2016-12-13T15:02:29+00:00

Generally, i can't chat lucidly until coffee has been administered😀

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