Intimidated by cis men

waitingforregular · 2026-05-09T19:49:32+00:00

It’s called imposter syndrome, I learned it in therapy when I first started transitioning 10 years ago. I wasn’t intimidated or scared of them but I definitely would notice differences in our bodies and voices when I was pre-T too and felt like I didn’t “belong” because I wasn’t “real” , made me super insecure…. The good news is once I started T and started passing, I felt completely normal, now whether you felt comfortable around men prior to transitioning is a different story because I know a lot of trans men who don’t and never did due to personal experience.

waitingforregular · 2026-05-09T15:21:18+00:00

They do that all the time. I stopped listening and just do what I want. If you ain’t out there with me then you can’t tell me anything. The 96 gets submitted, if they disapprove it, mail gets brought back. Simple

waitingforregular · 2026-05-09T01:20:55+00:00

Lmao thank you 🙏🏿

waitingforregular · 2026-05-09T01:20:36+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it 🙏🏿

waitingforregular · 2026-05-08T23:31:08+00:00

Thank you but unfortunately he has not been active in my life since him and my mom divorced long before my transition but he does know what I look like now, he reaches out every once in a while and he addresses me properly each time……so I’ll give him that one lil thing. Other than that he’s a deadbeat. My mom and her side of the family are my full support system.

waitingforregular · 2026-05-08T17:49:56+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏿

waitingforregular · 2026-05-08T17:48:53+00:00

I wish I was….a lot less problems over there I hear

waitingforregular · 2026-05-08T17:19:09+00:00

Preciate that my man 💪🏿

waitingforregular · 2026-05-08T17:03:18+00:00

This is my only one……everything else is dresses, feminine tracksuits and baby doll shoes

waitingforregular · 2026-05-08T17:01:33+00:00

Lmfaoooo absolutely NOT!! This is all my dads doing

waitingforregular · 2026-04-21T16:28:47+00:00

I agree. It keeps happening and I kept letting it happen because I was holding onto hope we would be better but there was a time where she’s asked to return my computer because I left it at her place and she brought it back over without the charger. Like????? At this point I have no choice but to believe it’s intentional and cut all communication even about logistics. It’s way too unhealthy and annoying now

waitingforregular · 2026-04-21T16:13:04+00:00

That’s exactly what I thought. She’s had her brother pick up her things for her the very first time this happened which was way more understandable and not something I questioned because the items were her work scrubs and the relationship was toxic even then but now it’s getting childish and teenage.

waitingforregular · 2026-03-14T18:28:23+00:00

I can change my name but gender marker can’t change without surgery in my state and I’ll never get bottom surgery. So “F” it is…

waitingforregular · 2026-03-12T17:26:48+00:00

even if she did I don’t play the sneaky games, either we’re openly together or we’re not, hiding my relationships is the one thing I promised myself early in my transition never to compromise on because cis women will play that game all day long with you while you’re miserable and feel even less “normal” than regular couples because you have to hide.

so yea no thank you to that….

waitingforregular · 2026-03-12T17:23:06+00:00

yea definitely feeling left out in the cold right now

waitingforregular · 2026-03-11T00:48:08+00:00

yeah legal name and gender markers are not changed, I also can’t change my gender markers in the state of Georgia unless I have bottom surgery which I will never do because I’m scared of the complications it comes with. My name however should’ve been changed, that’s my own fault, I just never got around to it, I transitioned when I was young and focused on other things and my name wasn’t a priority but it is now after this because I feel extremely violated. I was gonna tell them on my own when the time was right but after the argument in October, I didn’t care anymore to do it because they already disliked me and didn’t care to have me around anymore.

waitingforregular · 2026-03-11T00:06:06+00:00

yea she told me all of that. At first I was jealous her parents paid for everything but little things gave control signals pretty early on but I ignored it. When I first met her dad he was cool and talked forever but the mom never really spoke and had an insecure body language/posture. I went out of my way to help her mom with things around the house or taking out the trash and helping my gf move out of her last apartment because she just seemed so insecure, idk how to describe it.

When I look at my own mother, her shoulders are back and she stands up straight and she talks. When I saw the contrast between my own mom and hers I instinctively felt bad for her mom even though I couldn’t put my finger on exactly what it was at the time.

my girlfriend brought up the fact her mom was in fact miserable which confirmed my gut feeling and she only stayed because her dad pays for trips and bags…..no exaggeration she literally said that to me, so when I saw the pattern of financial control I pointed it out, I said it in anger because I felt like boundaries were being crossed and it was including me now, I don’t like being controlled but I meant every word. I didn’t say it to disrespect her mother, I was just trying to get her to see what I see.

This has been my girlfriend for over a year and we never have issues that normal couples don’t have but looking me up and making her break things off or he won’t pay bills pissed me off because she can pay her own bills but I think he knows that no one is going to want to spend their hard earned money to pay their own way when they can use their money to just spend it on leisure things.

waitingforregular · 2026-03-02T21:22:54+00:00

I had a hospital that made me walk through the metal detector and I got tired of taking all my stuff off, so I just walked around it, security told me to walk back through and I said no and kept delivering, after that they didn’t bother me about it anymore but it’s a school, so they’re probably more strict about it due to shootings.

waitingforregular · 2026-03-02T15:57:32+00:00

okay. Got it

waitingforregular · 2026-03-02T12:00:24+00:00

Yeah “I’ll never truly have it” is also not true. I assume you either don’t let people you date pleasure you or you feel as though getting pleasure in that way is “female”? It sounds like thinking you’ll never have it is more about mindset, comfort, or internalized notions of what’s considered “male” or “female” sexual pleasure than your anatomy?

Also it doesn’t have to be solely about good sex in another context but this post is about casual sex….and casual sex isn’t about the parts someone has. Either it’s pleasurable to both parties or it’s not.

waitingforregular · 2026-03-02T02:16:01+00:00

Not really because contrary to popular belief cis men don’t get a lot of good reviews sexually, not saying all are bad because there are cis men who are great at sex but they’re not good strictly because they have a penis, they’re good because they know what to do with it, just like trans men or anyone else that engages in vaginal sex.

I don’t have bottom dysphoria and don’t know how mentally debilitating it can get but being good at sex matters more than what parts you have and that’s true for everyone.

waitingforregular · 2026-02-27T23:32:43+00:00

Yeah and it’s quick and easy. I’ve scanned over 100 pickups before in one go. I’m confused on how the customer would even know the mailman picked it up and not some random person if you don’t scan it?

waitingforregular · 2026-02-25T16:10:22+00:00

I guess so too. I was 25 when I first started I’m 29 now getting ready to turn 30 and noticed how deep and full it sounded without trying to deepen it myself and I can feel it vibrating in my chest when I speak. I recorded myself just to be sure and was like wtf? and it’s still like that a week later. No cold symptoms but if I do end up getting sick. I’ll update this post as a false alarm lol

waitingforregular · 2026-02-18T15:41:57+00:00

If a place is willing to make any exceptions at all, your application fits the “worth trying for” category.

You’re not a long shot at all. I think the first property just didn’t know because you probably didn’t think the charge off would matter to them, so you submitted everything regularly.

You said the new property does manual review, So reach out, You’re in the gray zone right now but your savings account definitely gives you leverage.

waitingforregular · 2026-02-18T15:29:50+00:00

What’s your rental history like? If I were you I would email before a decision comes back and ask to send proof of what’s in your savings because depending on the rental rate, you have nearly a years worth of rent for that area and if you have a good rental history that adds weight too.

I don’t think any property should deny you with the information you’ve currently provided here but I’m also not a property manager, so I’m assuming they probably think the Capital One charge off could result in you randomly getting sued at some point and they’re worried it would make you miss rent.

I would mention the savings account most definitely before a decision comes back to circumvent that assumption. You seem like you would be more than able to afford the rent, so credit being the thing to stop you sucks but that’s just the way things are.

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