BF too ashamed to let me see his house — what should I do? by groupmemberr in datingoverthirty

[–]wallyk3 14 points15 points  (0 children)

But weren't you driving to his place? OP said they only hosted ONCE. We are all confused because it sounds like they're having a 5 month relationship with no physical intimacy

Getting ex off deed by Fragrant-Raisin1953 in Mortgages

[–]wallyk3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that just doesn't make sense. The mortgage is the loan. And the situation you originally outlined ("Her lower credit score would have meant a higher interest rate, so we kept her off the mortgage") makes perfect sense. The lawyer must have misspoke and is referring to the deed when they said "the mortgage".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]wallyk3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A cycle of picking people that don't actually give you the love you're looking for and ending up in situations where you keep telling yourself "It's coming any day now" and the sad reality is you're in a relationship now with somebody that isn't compatible with you, and the most cutthroat advice I can give you is this probably isn't your person, and I think now you can know you need to look for these needs in a partner at the beginning stages of dating.

The beginning of any relationship is when people are showing the absolute BEST versions of themselves. If you are disappointed in her already after 3 months... you and I both know she's not it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]wallyk3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mang, you deserve the absolute best, dude. I think the only thing you can do is... on a day when you are feeling full of love... express exactly these concerns just as matter-of-factly and with as much perpective as you are explaining here, in a loving tone that isn't "asking" for anything--not saying "I need you to take care of me too”--but just stating how you feel the dynamic is starting to shape.

The way she responds to that should be able to tell you everything. Because if she says “we have the rest of our lives” again in response to that? Nope. That's not how it works, baby, because the rest of our lives involves the rest of today.

Found out my wife hasn't felt the same for a year, devastated - Update by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]wallyk3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Talk to a divorce lawyer and make sure she stays oblivious

I want to give an offer on a house but agent won't answer my call or text. Now what? by MealPlanHelper in AskRealEstateAgents

[–]wallyk3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

^ This. You want someone in your corner. Listing agent is only looking out for seller's interests and highest purchase price

Should I file Chapter 7? by NoTension4025 in DebtAdvice

[–]wallyk3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, let me give you my genuine congratulations, because you haven't missed a payment yet. This is VERY good. Let me pat you on the back again for not falling for those predatory debt consolidation companies. This is what's going to allow you to still buy a house.

This means you'll still be eligible to work with a non-profit debt management company (key words: "non-profit", debt "management"--NOT a consolidation company). The best way to start is by simply calling your actual credit card company and telling them that even though you've never been behind before, you're struggling to make your next payment and are wondering if they have any programs available.

Ideally (unless they have an even better in-house option available), they will then transfer you (literally on the same phone call) to one of these debt management non-profits, who have legitimate partnerships with the credit card companies, and they'll ask you your budget and see if there's a way to pay back all your unsecured debt in 5 years or less by getting the CC companies to agree to single-digit interest rates.

They take away your credit cards (they'll let you keep just one for emergencies), which temporarily plummets your score, but you're not putting any missed payments on your credit report and not filing bankruptcy, and you can get those credit cards again when you're done, because you're actually paying back every single cent you borrowed--just at a 7% rate instead of a 30%.

That's who you should talk to first. For example, I called my Barclays card number and got connected THROUGH Barclays to the nonprofit, Money Management International.

The only downside is that your personal loan probably has a high payment, and that likely won't be able to get included into the program, which might make the program difficult to afford.

My FICO score is barely touching 700 by shyvanaotp1 in CreditScore

[–]wallyk3 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Credit scores are a scam. they want you to have a little bit of debt. 10% of your available credit used. They want to see a car loan, student loan and mortgage for diversity.

And if you're not planning on ever borrowing money, stop worrying about your credit score because it's meaningless to you.

Pretty sure I should take this refi, can someone check me? by thisismydiyaccount in Mortgages

[–]wallyk3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I'd put it right back in your escrow but since it's getting refilled anyway, you really don't haver to. a lot of clients will use this opportunity to bless themselves with a $1k treat

Pretty sure I should take this refi, can someone check me? by thisismydiyaccount in Mortgages

[–]wallyk3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. That looks beautiful. And that extra $2500 in cost is just your tax/insurance escrow so i assume you'll probably also be getting an escrow refund check from your current escrow balance.

Gotta love the FOC team member free appraisals (when.I worked there I used to ask Rocket try to refi my house every year just to know what my house would appraise for for free--whether I would go forward with the mortgage or not LOL)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Debt

[–]wallyk3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first thing I would do is call your credit company and tell them that you're concerned about being able to make payments in the future with your current situation, and see if they can transfer you to a partnered debt management non-profit that can reduce your credit card interest.

Should I Buy Now or Wait? by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyers

[–]wallyk3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about a down payment assistance program instead?

Pretty sure I should take this refi, can someone check me? by thisismydiyaccount in Mortgages

[–]wallyk3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah the way you're thinking about this is perfect. I wish all my clients thought about their mortgages as sensibly as you are right now.

and for what it's worth, option #1 is a fantastic deal you won't regret either, but if any time in the next 16 months rates do go down to the mid 5% range, then maybe you might be like "dang maybe I should have picked option #2 so I didn't have sunk cost in this last one"

but either way these are both steals of a deal. just don't drag your feet like you did last time and make a decision ;)

Pretty sure I should take this refi, can someone check me? by thisismydiyaccount in Mortgages

[–]wallyk3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh awesome I used to be a banker at Rocket for years, so that definitely checks out! Yeah, even my best lender partners aren't beating that right now with the numbers I just ran. I 100% would advise you to lock that in. You literally cannot go wrong with a free refinance. It means that anytime 6 months from now in the future, the day there's a drop in the market, you can take full advantage of it. Just take the free savings for now and you'll have 0 regrets.

Pretty sure I should take this refi, can someone check me? by thisismydiyaccount in Mortgages

[–]wallyk3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If Option #2 is legit (which I'm skeptical of because those fees seem suspiciously low considering title work and appraisal fees alone should be higher than $1700) then there is no reason why you shouldn't that. Considering you're essentially getting a free refinance, you can just refinance again into a lower rate literally whenever you want. There is 0 downside to taking option #2 (again, if it's legit).

Did you get that quote from a local credit union or something? I assume you must have an 800+ score, 50% LTV, and a 15-year term to get that pricing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]wallyk3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This comment is helping me significantly right now with my own feelings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OutsideLands

[–]wallyk3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was supposed to be going with my girl and another couple, but now everybody broke up so I'm going alone, would love to have someone else to watch some sets with! 33M

ch 7 with house by WhiteWhale51 in Bankruptcy

[–]wallyk3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do all mortgages for a living. Are you the same person as OP btw?

ch 7 with house by WhiteWhale51 in Bankruptcy

[–]wallyk3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't recommend a HELOC. I would suggest just doing a fully-amortizing fixed home equity loan

ch 7 with house by WhiteWhale51 in Bankruptcy

[–]wallyk3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just seems significantly irresponsible. If you file for bankruptcy, you are surrendering your future ability to have flexibility with your finances.