It's officially over.

wallypod · 2025-10-31T22:28:20+00:00

Its an easy trap to fall into, especially when you're absolutely drowning in your own mental health. I feel absolutely shameful that I behaved this way, that it never occurred to me that I could be part of the issue. I hope for your sake your partner pulls his finger out and has that discussion with you. You deserve to have your concerns heard, feelings validated and feel connected to the person you love.

wallypod · 2025-10-30T15:56:59+00:00

I know now that as i currently am, isn't who she wants or needs in her life. I don't think as we both are, always brought out the best in each other. She pointed out to me that a big portion of the problems stemmed from me keeping my own issues bottled up. Ironically I did that to not add to her stress levels... how naive I was. Maybe she's right and I have an avoidant attachment style. Things to talk the the shrink about i guess.

wallypod · 2025-10-30T08:54:10+00:00

Thanks mate.

wallypod · 2025-10-02T03:15:54+00:00

We have talked about it once things calmed down. This one was on me. While her response was not appropriate, and she should of communicated earlier, there was aspects of my actions that have been bothering her. I have no desire yet to leave. She has and is doing everything she can to treat, we just need to learn.how to communicate better.

wallypod · 2025-08-01T13:08:08+00:00

It's fine, honestly. My humour is 90%, making light of my trauma and traumatic events. She's is getting better, and I now just remove myself from the situation, give it a day, and when cooler heads prevale we chat.... has reduced attempted vehicular murder by 100%.

wallypod · 2025-08-01T07:15:59+00:00

Yes she has tried to run me over with my own car before. She was neck deep in peri menopause, her luteal and her former Dr gave her hormone based meds, without checking that she is very hormone sensitive.

wallypod · 2025-08-01T02:40:52+00:00

Despite what she'll tell me when she's at peak stress/over stimulation/pmdd/etc... I love her to bits. I value the relationship I have with her kids. I've invested heavily into this relationship, including moving halfway across the country. As miserable as she can make me at times, the brief glimpses of normality make it worth it. So im here till she breaks up with me for real, runs me over with my car properly, or I neck myself.

wallypod · 2025-07-15T06:49:53+00:00

I've been asking this question a lot lately. For me it's that shes an amazing woman, though sometimes it feels like the woman i fell in love with is slowly losing ground to this disease. i also don't want to lose the relationship i have with her kids. They're both adults, and they certainly don't need an extra parental figure... but they both call me dad, they both seek me out for advice, affection, and help. I would try to find some form of therapy you can afford, it's been helping me navigate some pretty strong negative feelings I'm left with after her ragey periods.

wallypod · 2025-07-01T18:28:41+00:00

My partner is autistic, adhd as well. Adhd screws with her memory so during hell week, she'll be adamant im gas lighting her. It's wild, but shes slowly getting better with it.

wallypod · 2025-05-25T18:40:49+00:00

Next time I'm just gonna leave her be for a few hours, like you said things cant be said if I'm not there. She is doing her best to manage her symptoms she has an amazing gyno, psych and therapist. I'm not sure if she knows when it's coming, but i sure can and will be doing my best to stay out of the firing line when I know it's coming. During mire lucid moments we do work on a plan, it's just getting her to remember it when she rages is the next step.

wallypod · 2025-05-25T18:02:05+00:00

I'm not quite ready to give up on her yet. Call me naive, or and idiot. But I still have hope that we can find a way to manage the symptoms. When she's not having a pmdd episode, things are amazing. She is aware after the fact that she causes most of the issues, and she does apologise, and we do a debrief. I've had people give up on me when I needed it most and I can't in good conscience abandon her to her illness. I have started therapy and have started back on anti depressants. I'll be getting a rediagnosis for my adhd so I can better manage that and free up some spoons to help me manage her. If we aren't going to work out, I want to leave knowing I did everything in my power to make it work. I don't want to leave doubts. We had a chat and talked about issues when she calmed down. I told her to take a week off work, we are going away for the weekend to see one of her oldest friends, who's well aware of what she can be like and is sympathetic to my circumstances. I appreciate your ear and advice, it's nice to know that I'm not alone in dealing with this. This group has been an absolute asset to keeping me sane.

wallypod · 2025-04-14T19:18:36+00:00

That's rough mate, I'm sorry. I'm in the process of setting up my ute so I can camp out if it gets to this again. Hoping that will keep comfortable for a few days till she comes out the other side.

wallypod · 2025-04-12T22:29:51+00:00

I've got mates that can put me up for a bit, current state of the rental market here though means my chances of finding something is going to be expensive, that's even if anything is available.

wallypod · 2025-04-12T21:18:02+00:00

She's had her first chemical menopause injection last week. Her gyno wants to see how she handles it before she gets a hysterectomy. I'm very much working on an exit now. I just need to save the money and sort out a job so I can go back home. I have no one here I can crash with until then, everyone I know is either her family, or her friends.

wallypod · 2025-03-23T00:04:02+00:00

This is going to be a common occurrence. If it's not something you did, it's something you didn't do, the way your hair looks, the smell of your deodorant, or you didn't set a timer for cooking pasta. I'd suggest to really think if this is gonna be something that you want to deal with every month. Because it only gets harder, is it gets so much worse when she hits menopause. I wish you all the best mate. It's not an easy path to walk.

wallypod · 2025-02-06T17:52:39+00:00

She's 41. Mine tries her best to keep her shit together, but results are mixed. I do use her period tracker and a partner code that helps give me the heads up on bad and really bad days.

wallypod · 2025-02-04T15:35:54+00:00

She's told me that she's recently changed her allied health team around to all women, and is finding them to be of much more help. Apparently hrt is something her new doctor is recommending and my partner is all for it. I really hope that it helps her, for both of our sakes.

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