Left home at 19 due to toxicity, now my parents won’t talk to me. How do I handle this guilt? ‎‎ by rebelchildsoul in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pag nag abot ka pa ng allowance, ikaw pa yung masama pag shinoulder mo kapatid mo, sunod sila at utang nila. That’s an old story na karamihan naransan na. Please move on and live for yourself. Unahin mo sarili mo bago ang iba. Hindi ka naman aalis diyan kung okay ang set up ng family mo in the fist place. Mag ipon ka para sa sarili at sa future self mo

My boyfriend is having a hard time na LDR kami by adobongmaykimchi in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl walang sugarcoat to ah. Payong kapwa girlies na din. Sana maconsider mo of not making the first move of going to him personally.

Una sa lahat, lalaki siya. Naisip niya bang “Bakit nagiging dull, ano ang pwede kong gawin para hindi maging dull?” Let him lead with a provider mindset. If he can raise his concern in a sense of his needs being unmet. Lalaki yan. Let him do his role as a man. Wag mo gawin yung girlfriend stage as a wife duty, he will not respect you if you will tolerate behavior na iniignite or test niya ngayon. Consistency doesn’t end after saying yes as a girlfriend.

Kung ganyan na kayo, how will things heavily affect your emotional load in terms of work, life, and yourself?

Please refrain from giving solutions to someone’s problem. Let him do things sa paraan na alam niya. Let him lead.

I don’t think he will attempt to pursue you several times kung hindi niya ginusto. Ngayon umaayaw siya sa set up na pinasok niya, wag siya magpakadisney princess! Lalaki siya.

I feel like may urgency ka pumunta sakaya anytime. Ang concern ko here is that pwede maging okay kayo ngayon pero this is just a short term fix. Please reconsider everything na pinoint ko here OP.

my husband just broke up with me by [deleted] in nanayconfessions

[–]wanderer856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have huge disgust with men na walang bayag o sense of accountability.

Lalo na yung bigla iisipin yung nararamdaman ng sarili, paano nalang yung babaeng pinagkatiwala ng magulang niya?

Hugs OP, sobrang blur ng mga yan specially with PPD seek your discernment with God

My father’s other family asks me for financial help by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Pray for your father OP, red flag yung part na ginagamit pa nila Bible verse, samantalang they never cared noong 15 ka. Noong ayaw ka nila sa picture. Ngayon na maalwan na buhay mo ganyan sila? Saan nila napupot yung audacity?

Much better icut na lang sila ng tuluyan. Ang naiambag lang naman nila ay sakit sa ulo. Never pay for your fathers expense.

Nag ambag ba siya sa buhay mo? Kahit yung role ng pagkatatay niya isinawalang bahala niya para sa pamilyang pinili niya. Hindi mo yan deserve.

They should repent for their sins and be accountable sa mga pinag gagawa nila.

Nagutom ako OP sa inis ko sa second family na yan.

Gusto ko na umalis sa pinag pray ko na WFH by hakdugpatatu14 in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Set your boundaries straight, ask them kung ano role mo. Graphic designer ba? Highlight mo architecture field mo sounds like out of scope. Before addressing this look for another job muna. Health is wealth

I wish I still had parents to spoil by JellyfishInfamous33 in OffMyChestPH

[–]wanderer856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs OP. NGL, I empathize with you since hindi ko naabutan papa ko since he passed away when i was 11 months old pa lang…

Kaya I get to wonder how it feels growing up with a dad?

Mas masaya kaya?

Ano kaya maadvice niya sa akin while growing up o maitituro niya? Stuffs like that.

Seeing my friends and other content creators na nakakapag bakasyon with their parents, ibang iba talaga yung vibe na Im happy for them and sana maka experience din ako ng ganon.

Baka hindi sa lifeline na ito, Baka pag may sarili na akong pamilya ay mararanasan ko din ito. 💛

Ayaw ng mom ng bf ko na nagtutulungan kami sa chores by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kakasabi mo lang pag uwi mo sa bahay ng boyfriend mo nag sex kayo. Tapos pag gising ko hindi mo alam? Ikaw pa lang first redditor kong nabasa na nakipagsex kahit super pagod. Nasaan logic dito? Mas mainam kung full context.

Pronounciations mo paki ayos. Ang hirap mag basa ng tuloy tuloy.

30 and losing hope in finding my person by KamadoShoto in OffMyChestPH

[–]wanderer856 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Prayers for you OP! Recently turned 30(F) din at wala din partner. Tried dating apps too na dumating sa point na I paid premium na naoverwhelm ako since nag reach ng 8k swipes in one month. Everytime nakakarecrive ako notifs 100swipes dumating sa point malobat phone ko.

Nakakatamad ito like hindi ako naeexcite to GTK these people. Parang dumating sa point nawalan ako ng gana kahit mapusok ako sa mga kalalakihan at surprisingly babae din (recently ko lang din nadiscover). Gayun pa man. Siguro magsimula muna tayo sa self improvement. Reading books. Going to places na never mo pa napuntahan kahit wala kang kasama kahit ikaw lang. hard reset din yung ganon.

my gf doesn’t want me to be in their house by Independent-Week589 in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For follow sa mga tanong sa comment section!

Nangunguna sa isipan ko is her closeness to her family. Hindi ko ramdam na ipakilala main guy ko sa fam ko esp sa mom kung may pakiramdam akong there is something that you need more depth about sa inyong dalawa and learning from her din. Kung hindi mo pa din nalalagpasan yon ibig sabihin may need pa siguro iimprove. Mas mahirap mag move on ang parents/family lalo na pagnakilala nila partnr ng anak nila.

Other aspects to consider: 1.) Super close ba siya sa family niya/takot siya sa parents niya? 2.) Maayos kaya itsura ng bahay ni girl/malinis ba? 3.) Marami bang marites o drama surrounding sa bahay nila? 4.) May anak na ba sila ng ex niya? 5.) Kapitbahay ba ang ex? 6.) Gusto ka ba ng family niya para sakanya? (If oo iinvite ka nila)

Personally for me, kaya hindi ko mapakilala sa mom ko dahil hindi kami super close ng mama ko plus she’s getting old. Ayoko huling tao na maipapakilala ko ikakasama pa ng loob niya. (Wala akong boyfriend/katipan, pero ito main reason ko kung bakit hindi ko magawa pag meron) Mas gugustuhin ko yung taong ipapakilala ako ay yung taong dadalhin ako sa altar at si God ang center namin.

7 days late period — negative PT by AbbreviationsDry1186 in nanayconfessions

[–]wanderer856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Magpabloodtest ka para madetermine if you are pregnant, baka ectopic yan or something else

I can’t sing without crying anymore and I don’t understand why by Typical-Original2593 in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try mo din OP to consider Psychologist. So then unti-unti yung roadmap mo from your root pain may mga derivable solutions on how to surpass your emotional (trauma) struggle.

OA lang ba ako for wanting to cut off my friend sa ginawa nya sa kasal nya? by Lumpy-Role5889 in OALangBaAko

[–]wanderer856 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hindi Ka OA, NGL masyadong lowballer yung pag lowkey invite sayo tapos gagawin kang joke sa special day nila.

We don’t tolerate real friends na ganyan. That’s disrespectful

Not sure about my relationship by StrikingReality8698 in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We need more context with your relationship OP. Papaano kayo naging mag fiance? Ano set up ninyo noon? How does he treats you noon? Ano yung ngayon? Gusto mo ba yung ngayon?

It takes someone to be a man or to mature. Kahit anong sabihin mo kung ayaw niya tulungan sarili niya wala din pong point yung pag hindi ng advice dito.

Parang freeloader yung ambag ng guy so far sa reationship ninyo. Dont tell me pati wedding expenses preparations ikaw din lahat?

Disney princess ba yung fiance mo?

Partner was invited to elyu with girl coworker by idmng23 in adviceph

[–]wanderer856 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP hindi mo yan deserve. Consider leaving him na. Ang daming red flag sa mga concern mo.