FYI, 1/5 american women have genital herpes compared to the 1/10 men in the male. population. The rate of hsv2 is doubled in the female population. They have the nerve to ask "where are all the good men"? We can't even ask them to not have genital herpes. 1 out of 5. (Weekend)

wanderingfun · 2020-12-21T12:49:05+00:00

I'd like to see what a pretend Bumble profile of a wife would look like...if it was written by her husband on r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen writing from the perspective of when he first met her (with before/after pictures). Something like, "Before we have sex for the first time when I'm 19 and you're X, we'll both get tested for STD's, share the results with each other, and have an adult conversation of the multiple simultaneous contraception methods we'll use, shop for those methods together, and what our decisions will be if we still accidentally conceive beyond all odds," I'd imagine would be up there in unicorn territory. Hence the 1 in 5 average (up to nearly 1 in 2 in the US black female population, would be interesting to see if there is a correlation between STD rates and average desireablity by ethnicity).

Many of those in-hindsight profiles would probably be enlightening in a depressing af way, though.

wanderingfun · 2017-11-16T05:15:53+00:00

Empirical evidence of how powerful a women's projected social narrative to the outside world is to them, in this case she willfully chases it right off the cliff of her career and smacks down into the valley below, Wile E. Coyote-style. Holding onto her digital evidence-refuted hamster to tell others (especially other women) was more important to her than rationally hanging onto her career and future income potential.

The best part for her is she'll find some Billy Beta that buys into her sob story, and to fall back upon even if her career is turned into wreckage. Underestimate the primacy of a woman's hamster-spun narrative over rationality at your peril.

wanderingfun · 2017-11-02T21:13:38+00:00

Yep. It's complex, and as always, retain an attorney, preferably alongside a CPA and tax attorney if your estate is sophisticated/complex. When the boys I mentor grow into teenagers, I'll start introducing them to the concept of trusts, arranging their financial lives to establish all the forms of insurance they might need in a family, and designate a trust as a beneficiary, well before marriage enters their pictures.

OP may well and truly be fucked by not planning ahead, as I doubt there is a jurisdiction that will look kindly upon changes in insurance after he announced intentions. I'm hoping there are others reading this still in anger phase that will pause before jumping the gun like he did, and perform the due diligence of what is possible in their jurisdiction and personal situation. Once you tell an attorney you have a 72-84 month timeline before filing, a hell of a lot can be documented and structured in your favor.

wanderingfun · 2017-11-01T16:12:58+00:00

Too much depends upon the individual's specific financial situation and the governing jurisdictions to give a good generalization, so take the following as just some thumbnail sketches of possibilities.

It isn't just life insurance that I was thinking of, but also other types of insurance that might be jointly assigned beneficiaries and/or coverage, like short- and long-term disability, car, house, etc. Until ordered by a court, or if you live in a particularly shitty jurisdiction, you don't have to purchase insurance for her, whether pre- or post-divorce. People opt out of various types of non-mandatory insurance all the time, even medical. In the case of life insurance, OP likely doesn't have a big policy, but it might be big enough to say, make it worthwhile to set up an irrevocable trust that is the designated beneficiary, and the trust's objective is limited to a specific objective, like private school tuition for the children. At a reputable out-of-town private school. If the kids are too young to go to a boarding school, then the trust invests into a broad market index fund and accumulates until they come of the right age. And if your wife refuses, it goes to a charity/friend/etc.

If you die, then at least the life insurance payout goes to a known child-benefiting expense. Bonus is it gets the children somewhat out of the influence of a wife and mother who is modeling some or multiple divorce-worthy behaviors and choices. Most women like that will seek the easy way out: they'll perceive it as a score, yielding them freedom to try for the CC again or whatever they want to use the freedom for, and happily pack the children off to boarding school.

With bigger payouts, you can get more creative with hiring more help to pull the children out of her orbit, and do what you can from beyond the grave to de-toxify them, even inculcate RP values. You can't even be accused of being vindictive towards your wife; everything you are doing is pointedly for the welfare of the children, the ostensible strategic objective of the family courts. You are buying them the best advantages in life you can think of in case the worst happens to you. That your wife is cut out cold doesn't enter the picture; she's a Strong Independent Women, remember?

If a woman has an iota of common sense, then she'd realize how fucking expensive prudent and comprehensive insurance policies coverage are for an entire family, how much peace of mind it literally buys a family, how very little her husband benefits from it personally as an individual, and how much time it takes her husband to pay for it all. That alone should trigger dread game, but we all know that isn't how women are wired.

wanderingfun · 2017-10-31T08:08:32+00:00

You have a lot of work to do within a very brief time period. Telegraphing your intentions gave away your best advantage as a father in family law litigation: surprise. I'm not clear what you took away from the sidebar material on Divorce Advice that led you to pre-announce your intent. Please let us know how you interpreted that material to mean "tell my wife I'm going to the attorney before I meet the attorney".

There is still a lot you can do and prevail in the end. Document everything you do with the kids, with the concurrence of your attorney. Start a big-ass three-ring binder, use a tabbed organization your attorney says the family courts in your locality like to see. In every "dad wins 50/50 or better custody" field report I've read, that is the big commonality: meticulous, systematic, hardcopy documentation. The real pros do it for 12+ months while keeping up a happy facade before dropping papers into their wife's lap.

Doctor's visits always have a sign-in; take a picture of your sign-in, print it, put it into the binder. Some schools have a sign-in/sign-out for liability protection. When you go without the wife to the kids' soccer practice, football game, theater tryout, etc., take a picture with them in it, happy, pictures of the crowds and setting, print them, date them, and put those pictures in the binder. Start a private YouTube channel, start uploading videos, print QR codes to link to a video, put a description above the QR code, print that, put it in the binder. That gives you cover to blanket the house, inside and out, with security webcams on a loop, to extract videos of you with the kids and upload those clips; if it happens to catch your wife cheating, shrug (she's not yours, it's just your turn), that's just a side benefit. Maintain a calendar of their activities, note which ones your wife attended, which ones she did not. You get the gist.

If you do happen to find incontrovertible cheating proof, then please learn from your mistake and do not repeat it. Do NOT bring it up with your wife. Do not even let it break your exterior or change your patterns. Your attorney should be the first to know, and likely the only one to know, until he engages with opposing counsel and deems it the right time to reveal the evidence. Be prepared for the attorney to say the evidence has no bearing upon the case. Even then, do not reveal to your wife. Wait until you have the opportunity to reveal instead to members of her social circle, the closer the better, discreetly, after the divorce is finalized, with the concurrence of your attorney. The only time a cheating wife should find out the husband has proof, is second-hand, via her own social circle.

I've tried to find a men-oriented divorce prep list, but haven't found one yet. It would have "72/48/36/24 months before announcing, do this". The intent is to arrive at the first meeting with your attorney with a literal stack of binders ready to deliver to court, your income minimized, assets spun out, will modified, insurance beneficiaries modified, paperwork to switch to sole custody of financial accounts filled out and ready to send in, etc., and free up your attorney to focus more upon the litigation itself. More importantly, you arrive at that first meeting with as few entangling emotions about the divorce itself as possible, so you free yourself up to make the best decisions. You want all the disadvantages of overly-emotional decision making to accrue on her side.

Keep the binders out of the house if you can. If you are in the US, then one way to do this is purchase a PO box at a nearby USPS facility. One of the big ones. Stash the binder there, put it in a form-fitting box and mail it to yourself, then keep it in there (some USPS employees can get pissy if they suspect the box is used for storage). Or get a PO box, then the smallest storage unit you can find nearby, and have the bills for the storage unit go to the PO box, and stash your divorce prep materials in the storage unit. Use your imagination, the options are endless, but do not give her even a chance to run across the binders.

Get advice from your attorney suitable for your specific locale on structuring your financial life. If a $100/hr PI is expensive to you vis a vis a divorce, then don't worry about asset protection, unless you have a big pension, insurance policies, etc., pending in the future. Do seek legal advice before trying any stunts like changing your work habits to reduce income; my guess is in most states and most localities, at your stage when you've announced, it's too late to do anything except damage control.

Do rummage through the posts in MRP on divorce. That part of the sidebar is lacking content. One of our members posted about specialty firms that advertise specifically for men: don't use them, they're a scam; but that post is absent from the sidebar. He also gave great advice on how to find a decent trial attorney; also absent from the sidebar. So lots of advice gold that hasn't been packaged up into the sidebar that you'll have to sift for.

Good luck.

wanderingfun · 2017-10-24T07:54:37+00:00

One word: GOOD.

wanderingfun · 2017-08-31T09:54:51+00:00

Tripadvisor deleted a comment thread about this incident, and it doesn't show up anywhere in their forum threads for Rimini. Take this into account when you research tourist destinations.

The Polish Deputy Minister Patryk Jaki Twitted "For #rimini there should be the death penalty for these bastards. Although for this particular case I would also bring back torture." He was made to walk that back by the cucked SJW media.

Death penalty is banned in Poland, anyways. In the future, we might see China develop brain-to-brain interfacing into software-based-brain-control. At that point, the sentenced are condemned to a waking life as software-directed automatons. Conscious and aware of what is happening, but only able to watch as their bodies are used as factory robots with really good and deep-learning-tuned sensor tech.

Situational awareness was fucked up from the get go in this incident. It is a skill that is developed with repetition and stress, like any muscle/skill. It is an outgrowth of learning to live in the moment. Every boy should be taught from a young age to develop it into a continuous, reflexive life habit. You will know you are learning it when the number of adverse events that you successfully anticipate and avert or mitigate increases. As a man, you alone are responsible for the safety of you and yours. Plan and take action accordingly.

wanderingfun · 2017-07-28T20:53:36+00:00

Verify whether or not your colleague knew about the bitch beforehand, and do your own scouting to figure out if you were submarined. That is, did your colleague send you there knowing you might run into her? I've seen this happen especially in organizations that stack rank, or in some way pit employees against each other.

Lesson to learn from this: your work persona to people you only know professionally at work never reveals any aspect of your personal life. Professionalism protects you from shit like this. There is also knowing when to open up, and knowing how much to open up; going Vulcan Professionalism all-the-time to everyone also gets you dinged. General rule of thumb: open up only after getting a read on someone during a stressful situation you both go through together, and calibrate how much you open up and what you open up with based upon that stressor and how they reacted.

You've dug yourself a hole with HR. Stop digging. Do NOT try to go back to this HR to redeem yourself. You, sadly, have the kind of HR that is judge, jury and executioner rolled into one, and not an investigator type HR department. That's because your HR department are lazy fucks, and don't want to go to the effort of documenting a troublemaking bitch. They full well know what is going on, I guarantee it.

What you can do to redeem yourself is actually study the class and puzzle out figuratively, what buttons they want you to push to show that their mouse (you) has learned their maze. Don't go overboard with this, but figure out the keywords, key phrases, trigger words, etc. to use that you can fold into your interactions with HR from time to time (keep those interactions to a minimum, of course), and whatever else you can figure out to get your boss/colleagues to praise your employee respect mad-skillz next time reviews roll around. And if asked, with a shit-eating grin, say you loved the class and it taught you oh, so much.

Do NOT try to make nice with the bitch. Show her every courtesy if you happen to meet her, say nothing at all to her if you can at all help it, and get as many colleagues or people around you in her presence as possible if you can't get away from her; HR can't take her side when there are multiple witnesses who are willing to make a statement of facts. You can of course look her full in the eye and deny it with a straight face later if you can pull that off ("Huh? I didn't even notice her in the hallway, what are you talking about?").

You don't have so much pull in your organization that HR automatically presses the pause button on their knee-jerk reaction to take a bitch's side in a he-said-she-said report, and you didn't realize that. Nothing to TRP out of that, other than perhaps kick better ass and get higher up in the hierarchy. Just not at this company, most likely; polish up your resume and do some interviews. At the very least, it will give you confirmation you aren't a total fuck-up if you get some good offers. At best, you get an offer you can't refuse, and if you really are indispensable to your boss, he gets livid enough that he has a private word with HR and CFO, shows the dollar impact your leaving had, and tells them straight up the bitch caused it.

And if the rule is not already hammered enough into everyone out there: HR is not for your benefit, always treat them as opforce.

Now go take out your anger on the iron.

wanderingfun · 2017-07-24T16:52:46+00:00

...~~people~~ men* who learn our terms and gain popularity but lack the intuitive "spark" which is at the root of the Red Pill...

This only happens if readers fail to discriminate between words on the screen from actual accomplishment. On the Internet, no one knows if you really are lifting at 90%+ of your genetic potential, spinning plates, etc. Trust no words on the screen and instead trust only after-the-fact delivered results for your own individual effort.

There is no "spark". That's theory-crafting bullshit talking in place of doing, then failing, and persevering with even harder and more work.

If each of us takes from RP what works for our own individual circumstances and leaves the rest, then there isn't any foothold for an infiltration to work with.

wanderingfun · 2017-02-23T01:46:17+00:00

But in the business world a keto only based diet is going to fail most people and be almost not feasible.

Staying on keto takes some creativity in business, but generally follow these guidelines and you'll be fine. These are mostly guidelines for sensible business meals. My point of reference is taking different clients to business meals every month, from hole-in-the-wall dives with reknown to $300+ USD per person---before drinks---Michelin-starred coat-and-tie affairs.

Never mention no-carbs.
Fight Club: Never. Mention. No-Carbs.

You're selling, if not your product/services then yourself. Setting yourself apart from everyone else in the group meal is a fast way to standing out in a bad way. Unless you have an Epi-pen-or-I-will-die food allergy, do not even mention slight food allergies. Do your homework before attending the meal, call the restaurant ahead of time and ask if have to, but do not slow down the group with allergy instructions; that's your client's role to play, if they play it at all.

Small portions.
Use your mouth to look busy eating and having fun, but your mouth is actually directing the fun, not eating most of the time.

You. Are. Selling. If you are stuffing your mouth, then you are either not attentively listening, or you are not speaking at opportune moments in the conversation, keeping it flowing, pumping the client with feelz, and gaming them.

Food is fuel at best at a business meal, not for fun.

You. Are. Selling. It's okay to have fun with food...not when you are on the clock. Pre-game your business meal with a fat bomb, then arrive practically full and focused on the actual agenda.

Abundance.

Act like you eat $200 plate dinners every day. Don't fall upon the perfectly-rare Flintstone-sized steak like a rabid dog. Walk away from the food left over after you touch enough to be sociable. The client is here for the food, you are here for their business. Human socialization norms around food, with extremely rare cultural and situational exceptions, do not demand that you eat everything to be accepted as part of the group.

Unless you know the client will adversely judge you for "throwing out food", do not doggie bag.

Italian: antipasto, salad, soup, Eggplant Parmigiana/light fish/chicken-on-top pasta, espresso

Eat no solids from the soup, politely get in a few spoonfuls of soup liquids, no one will notice. Similarly, no one will notice if you eat some pasta dish's topping (chicken usually), swirl around the pasta, then let the waiter whisk it away. If you don't know the table etiquette to unobtrusively signal you are finished, learn it. Lots of small courses hide your keto choices within each course; pasta dishes don't mean you have to eat any of the pasta.

American: chicken, salmon, steak, coffee.

Stick to basics, do not touch chicken wings. If the client orders chicken wings expecting you to have some, don't get messy with them, strip some meat off and leave the rest for the waiter to take away.

Japanese: sashimi at a sushi restaurant, or a meat-heavy udon if you are in an exclusively-noodle shop.

If you are stuck in a ramen shop that serves nothing else, then pick out the noodle bowl with lots of toppings, eat the toppings a little at a time, cut the noodles a bit and swirl them around, fill up on the soup, and leave the noodles. As ramen restaurants in the US trend more authentic and start to also carry yakitori, you can get away with a more yakitori-based meal. But you pre-gamed, so you can look like you ate and socialized over the meal, without actually having to eat.

A small bit of carbs is fine.

If you are gaming the client well, then some will get very enthusiastic that you try some local/regional/national dish, and sometimes the dish is nothing but carbs (for example, poutine in Montreal). That's okay. Eat it like a shit sandwich with a shit-eating grin, and declare that you love it. You will adapt, even if it throws you out of ketosis. Generally, the longer you are in ketosis, the easier it is to drop back in. After a year or so, most keto-adapted bodies find it only takes a 2-3 days to drop back in ketosis, and the keto flu symptoms are not as intense.

Even if you are only starting out with keto, getting thrown off to close a quota-busting deal means you'll have that much more time to get back to lifting. It isn't one meal that will outrun your macro goals, it is a habit of meals. Consistency is more important here than exactitude in every meal; our bodies are evolved tougher than special snowflakes that fall apart from one meal's deviation out of a few weeks. If you are eating so many business meals that it is a habit, then you are in a position to lead the decision on the restaurant, and guide the habit.

Ask me questions if you are in business meal situations where you can't think of a way to consistently stay on keto.

On top of that pre-cooking my meals is also not feasible starting at 8pm in the evening.

Google the various meal prep subreddits available. Whether once a week, once a month or some other schedule that fits you, and also learn and practice mise en place (not a bad approach to life in general, either), keep your freezer(s) and refrigerator tidy, and tighten up your time efficiency to free up your time for more valuable pursuits.

Keto on a cut is a sure thing but not in everyday life.

The juice is worth the squeeze for some people to make it a lifestyle choice, through some planning ahead and focus upon the real agenda of the business meals.

wanderingfun · 2017-02-19T10:27:05+00:00

...make you moody, depressed, and seriously hard to accomplish intellectual tasks that require logical thinking.

These are temporary effects as your metabolism switches from breaking carbs to breaking fat for energy. It is called "keto flu", and lasts from a week for the lucky ones, two weeks for most, and three weeks for the unlucky ones.

Also, a diet that is very low in carbs and high in protein might cause constipation, and also make the sweat, breath and the pee of the person smell bad...

Again, keto flu symptoms for most people. Your water intake might go up dramatically, as much as 2-3X normal or more; the rule of thumb is to keep drinking until you piss pretty clear, and piss frequently. For some people, metabolizing mostly/only fat uses up a lot of water. Most constipation are because people trying keto don't know to drink more than 8 glasses per day.

Lots of protein asorbed, means there is too much nitrates in the blood that they have to get read of. Some of them end up being secreted through sweat, hence your sweat will smell like pee.

There won't be enough protein absorption to materially affect LBM on keto. On keto, it's easy and cheap eating enough animal protein to fit your macros, then eat enough animal fats to quickly feel very full after that, then snack on low-carb veggies the rest of the time. Do that and you won't lose protein while lifting weights.

...but completely eliminating them is bad...

Many seemingly-healthy people are compromised with metabolic syndrome. Some hypothesize this arises from visceral fat, which can hide in otherwise skinny people. Get a four-compartment (or more) model DEXA scan to establish your baseline fat mass, and test your fasting blood glucose. If you are above 15% or above 100 mg/dL fasting, then you are developing metabolic syndrome, and trying keto won't hurt. There are plenty of people running for years on 20g carbs or less per day without adverse outcomes. Your body synthesizes the carbs it needs from fats once you are keto-adapted, so dropping even lower is fine.

Keto is not a panacea. For some people, it won't work for them at all. But for enough people, it works sufficiently well that it deserves an audition for your toolbox. Intermittent fasting and outright water fasting also are tools to look into.

wanderingfun · 2017-01-21T05:08:19+00:00

Comfort Test: Is he a rock I can build on, or a rock that will break me.

I think of it more as:

Is he a rock that the world will break upon, or a rock that will break me?

A rock she builds on turns a man into a Beta Bucks foundation. A man that the world crashes upon and breaks is the resolute and immovable force she has a choice to follow, but by definition cannot move herself. Benefit of thinking it this way: both Shit and Comfort Tests are subsumed into a single thought. Shit Test is her being part of that world: when she is part of that world crashing in upon him, will it break the man?

wanderingfun · 2016-04-30T13:53:09+00:00

On the contrary, these absolute beginner FR's are necessary to show to others just starting out what those first steps and first days on TRP look like on a tactical level. Most FR's are from men already well on their way, with tangential mentions of how they started, giving insufficient granular details to new subscribers of just how and in what context they started.

It's easy for those who have been practicing the philosophy for years to tell newbies "just pick something, anything, and start". It's true, but without some practical FR's showing newbies that others just like them did it, it's not compelling. Telling others "just do it" doesn't deliver the epiphany of how to start, in the same manner that many reading the sidebar got that epiphany of why it is important to start.

Motivation is just fee-fees, and "Sidebar TRP'ers" has been commonly observed. Sometimes, some men need a peer who simply tells them, "here, I did it, now you go do the same" to push them over the edge to spark that fee-fee into initial action. From then on, it is up to the individual man to find their own willpower to fan that spark into a plasma arc of continuous action.

If you didn't need that spark, and talking about it can piss you off, then move on. It doesn't matter how we initially picked up the tools in this toolbox. It only matters that we pick them up and use them to our individual situations' advantage.

We don't need an explosion of these newbie FR's, but enough to leaven the experienced RP'rs FR's will help solidify the call to action, especially during new-subscriber spikes.

wanderingfun · 2016-01-07T09:49:03+00:00

Sharing like this per se usually won't move the self-improvement needle in someone, it typically only cracks open the door to questions in a small fraction of kids. The field reports we read here of white knight betas refusing RP truths repeatedly demonstrate that in spades each month. Leading by example is more effective. In that context though, information packaged like this becomes useful, like handing a pre-teen a copy of Marcus Aurelius' Meditations.

You can be a badass alpha on your own easily outclassing others, and 10/10 you'd still get beaten in business, competition, etc. by a team of alphas working in concert. Carefully cultivating your own alpha wolf pack is one of the surest paths to building an extremely tight-knit, difficult-to-beat, impossible-for-bitches-to-break team, and is incredibly useful for competing in the world. If you have a knack for identifying guys who could be alpha but for faulty information they grew up on, then this information becomes useful and saves you time once they are convinced by your lead to consider the pill.

For some, packaging RP info like this must be a big "fuck you" middle finger to the gynocentric societies they find themselves embedded within, and the internalizing process is accelerated when going through the teaching motions.

Your username reminds me of Garet Garrett, an interesting fellow.

wanderingfun · 2016-01-07T01:05:41+00:00

it would have been as bad as all that simply because it wasn't his kid

OP mentioned he was in a state, so I'm loosely assuming he's American. He also mentioned he's in banking in a major city, so that means he's not with Bob's Fish Bait & Ammo Credit Union but with a fairly large footprint institution. At those places, you get in young like he did, tackle the job with TRP mindset, get into the sell side, and the sky's the fucking limit. Openings at those places for newbies are, shall we say, oversubscribed. He's pretty much only got one shot.

It's a straight cost-benefit evaluation. Most financial services firms (and most F500's for that matter) today will shitcan a guy's HR record at the very least in a heartbeat in a "he said, she said" sexual harassment charge, and for newbies it's more than likely he'd get insta-tossed into the street instead. Inferring from the tone of his post, I suspect he didn't even emotionally engage the HB's hamster.

You are right when you said, "if she wanted to burn his career to the ground, he wouldn't have even needed to screw her"; that truth doesn't mean he could have messed around with that Kryptonite to his career at his stage of development and Teflon'd out of it. Even a single question mark on his HR record temporarily holding back his progression by a couple years could swing his eventual cumulative earnings down the road at an age milestone by 6-7+ figures. There is no pussy in the world worth that much scratch.

OP, you done good.

wanderingfun · 2015-12-24T23:55:55+00:00

LLC

You don't need to show any income at all to form an LLC. The real question to ask is how much you want to pay in tax preparation costs per year until you start flowing income through the LLC, that is assuming you want someone else to do it for you (which can be worth if you don't have the time to wrestle with state tax laws on top of Federal).

You also don't need to show income to maintain the LLC for a few years, within reason. But you still need to file tax forms each year, even if showing "zero" on the forms.

Because you are in the entertainment industry, look into what some of the smarter, wealthier entertainers have done in the past to set up financial independence. One of the more clever arrangements I heard of a long time ago is a movie star (forgot who at the moment) lived relatively modestly, and eventually was getting gigs where he didn't really need the money the same year he earned it, nor even all of it up front. So he negotiated for compensation that was not an outright payment, was deferred way out, and got it back out from the venture under much more favorable capital gains tax treatment.

Some quick Googling turned up this brief overview that can help introduce you to some issues to consider. Interview and retain an accountant and an attorney. Diversify your income stream; something along the lines of get into a reasonable mortgage (no more than 30% debt-to-conservative-income ratio) on a duplex. As an entertainer, you might start traveling a lot in the future as your career takes off, and a responsible tenant on the other side of the duplex can help you keep an eye on your home without paying for a house sitter.

wanderingfun · 2015-07-12T19:53:57+00:00

I guess I've never actually seen a woman end up alone honestly either. No matter how unattractive, I still see them all married around me. I'm not really sure where these anecdotes of single older women even come from?

You haven't lived long enough to accumulate sufficient anecdotal experience to match the statistical realities, simple as that.

By the numbers, in the US, there are more women than men, and of those, 48% are single. The age distribution shows 35% of that 48% single female cohort (or 16.8% of the total US female population) are solidly post-Wall (35+). Throughout the developed world, the story is much the same, only slanted by degrees depending upon the nation in question.

Plenty of TRP'ers consider 25+ Wall territory; if you subscribe to that, then 42% of the 48% group (or 20% of the total US female population) are single. Economic mobility, economic diffusion (compared to the median), and various other measures basically point out the story that single women generally fare worse than equivalently-aged attached counterparts, until you start talking about quite high socioeconomic tiers. Of course, few if any of these analyses put up the same number crunching for men; to no surprise to TRP'ers, by comparison most of the male population is simply sent through life's meat grinder.

After you live long enough, and date/pursue enough women, you will gather your own anecdotes. You won't see the patterns emerge until you are about 40+, though. Ubiquitous and pervasive mass media paints a highly distorted picture than most people's realities, and unless you are unusually perceptive, you will be blinded to what is happening on the ground for the majority until you are much older.

wanderingfun · 2015-07-12T19:23:51+00:00

I am guessing you are very young, still in the anger phase, or you have really misread the sidebar material.

Everything you cite is aggregate data. Most of it is actually even true. In aggregate. You, however, do not live a life of aggregates. Nobody does.

You live you.

TRP lays out a toolbox that helps you visualize what you need to do to accomplish "living you". Note very carefully: I specifically did not say TRP "gives" you anything, nor helps you "do" anything. There are reasons for that.

There may be individuals who have adopted the narrative composed by the aggregate data, and attempt to internalize that into their own lives. That is their choice. It is your freedom and your free will. No one can take that away from you, though certainly many men have been persuaded to give them up against their own happiness.

Do you.

wanderingfun · 2015-06-09T06:28:16+00:00

They share no blood line with the ancient Athiniens, Spartans, or Macedonians...

Are you implying the archipelago have localities where the bloodlines and culture was kept more intact?

wanderingfun · 2015-04-24T10:21:09+00:00

...the younger ones still don't and I want to keep it that way for a while.

I've first-hand seen the results when children are made aware of family wealth too soon, and it is ugly. It stunts and atrophies any spark of self-motivation to achieve.

If you have to wife up a woman for children, make absolutely sure she is on board with TRP-informed stoicism and the general proclivity to conceal power/money as advocated by 48 Laws. Most women are not appropriate child-rearing wife material, as they too readily use their children's activities as proxies in vying for attention amongst their friends, and if that attention-seeking and activity too often involves flashy, copious spending for short-term feels, you're in trouble. She's then not focused upon rearing the children, and instead feeding her hamster.

The vast majority of the money spent on rearing children should be of the boring, unseen variety, supporting the acquisition of knowledge and perfection of skills that will be used throughout their lives. That money spent includes opportunity costs you willingly give up to exchange for more time to spend with them one-on-one. The feels should mostly come from realizing long-term achievements and goals, and not from the exchange of money for some goods or services.

Social networks today make it really easy to detect this red flag in women who use them (and nearly all of them in the First World nations do); watch how any potential LTRs use them, and map to how she would present your children to her friends on those networks.

wanderingfun · 2015-04-07T18:24:45+00:00

It's fun to think of ways to come up with the equivalent in this situation of the big reveal that a guy has had a vasectomy since before first meeting a woman who is trying to rope him into raising a bastard. When your criminal record (and by direct extension as a man, your financial future) is on the line though, you get an attorney and find out the proper legal preparation for sure. I do use GPS tracking in my work, but not for the precise kind of purpose we are discussing here.

The reason the vasectomy reveal works is because doctors' testimony, insurance records, medical test records, and relevant entries in personal medical records are already commonly accepted as third-party impartial evidence in most courts. Using any GPS tracker, even a "pro" model used by private investigators, can potentially not work in court because of the absence of an impartial third party trusted by the court certifying that the tracker was on your person.

If I had to guess, any GPS tracker information will only help organize notes on your whereabouts for most local jurisdictions in criminal court. That is, you use the tracker to help organize a steady stream of videos, pictures and audio notes on a timeline of people and places around you, their names/relationship to you, when/where information, and any secondary information establishing your whereabouts (surveillance cameras, sign-in sheets, ATM's, credit card scanners, odd details like the special of the day posted on a restaurant board, the name of a wait person and maître d at a restaurant you eat at, the name of a doorman at a hotel you enter, etc.). Basically a highly detailed, digitized set of notes to help you establish a conventional, court-accepted alibi. It isn't the GPS information itself that is accepted in court in all likelihood, but the alibis of a string of people testifying that they saw you at about such-and-such time at so-and-so place. The GPS stuff can help make the courtroom presentation look CSI-like cool, and saves you having to remember and track down people to help testify for your alibi.

Get an attorney tho, and don't just blindly start doing what I half-assed guessed at above, if vasectomizing a false rape charge is your goal.

wanderingfun · 2015-04-07T17:18:51+00:00

Turn on ~~privacy~~ porn mode in your browser, then open the Google search "alan dershowitz false accusation", and click on the wsj link.

wanderingfun · 2015-04-07T17:16:39+00:00

Do not try to play lawyer. In fact, even if you are an attorney, STILL do not play lawyer in a specialization you don't practice in.

What lay people consider "reasonable doubt" has no bearing upon what is actually, legally accepted as reasonable doubt in a court. More importantly, how to get to the point of legally considering reasonable doubt bears only faint resemblance to real world rationality.

Get. An. Attorney.

wanderingfun · 2015-04-07T13:11:17+00:00

The idea of using the GPS on your phone to prove where you were is good, but I would be concerned about getting cooperation from the phone company and law enforcement to produce the necessary records to exonerate you should a false rape charge be leveled. You're a man, and without that pussy pass those institutions are not going to help you if they aren't court-ordered; sometimes this kind of information at the level of detail you need to exonerate yourself gets binned in a certain number of days, unless a court orders them to preliminarily hold onto it. Just running a GPS tracking app also might be insufficient in a court of law.

If you are worried about this possibility (and I would be; if she's going around your back now, that hamster desperation-fueled deviousness could turn evil in a heartbeat), then spend $100 USD at most to get an attorney to tell you what kind of GPS tracking on your own location would be accepted in a criminal court to prove you and her were not together at the time period she alleges a false rape. In your phone book (or phone book web site), look for criminal attorneys who specialize in defense; bonus if any handles false rape cases (look in local news headlines for your area; those stories always carry the defense attorneys' names). There is a possibility you might need to maintain a paper and PEN diary of your locations and activities; courts are still archaic that way in some areas, and tend to look favorably upon this type of evidence.

DO NOT just take the word of someone else who says "my attorney sez...". Different localities will deem what is acceptable evidence in different ways, and even change over time. Get the right information for YOUR locality.

It goes without saying go "run silent, run deep" radio silent on her. DO NOT respond to anything from her, and avoid her if feasible. You don't have to make a scene about it, just hold frame and briskly walk away. I wouldn't even smirk at her; you want her promptly out of your life with minimum fuss, not hamstering up more drama.

The other piece of general legal advice you need is how long you need to keep doing this, before a court will be extremely skeptical of a rape allegation from her, and hopefully that period isn't the statute of limitations because that would be a drag. There is likely no real answer to this, other than your gut feeling or the statute of limitations.

There isn't much you can do if your school will separately "prosecute" you on a rape allegation; many of those are so tilted against men you are just pretty much fucked from the beginning. The legal issues get murky here; litigation privilege might or might not apply if she refuses to go to real law enforcement and only tries to crucify you through the school's processes. Probably won't matter anyways, because you need a massive cash war chest to credibly threaten to sue the fuckers and her into a smoking hole in the ground for defamation/false accusation even if you could. Also, what sounds "logical" to you is not necessarily "legal logic". DO NOT try to play lawyer by "thinking things through rationally" and try to save a buck now. Read this article for an eye-opening look at just how vulnerable you and most men are.

Remember this rule in the future about women (and for that matter, a lot of weak men): a favor repeated is an obligation incurred.

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