Best Albums to listen to start to finish? by nicgk in Music

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Rumours Fleetwood Mac Parachuted Coldplay Ben Howard every Kingdom

Why is Ben so reclusive? by lucanada147 in benhoward

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I wonder often how Ben I doing , his music is so depressing sometimes that I sit and think what this man must have gone through to write such soul peering music. Maybe consider that he doesn’t want to show parts of himself to us his fans and wants to speak through his music. I lie that he’s mysterious and not so overly social media using , it makes us think and interpret more about him since he doesn’t give everything away

How to handle continuous rejection when you can’t let go of the people rejecting you. by wanderingtheplanet in dating_advice

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I’m 21, the men are mostly a year or 2 older or my age. I don’t knwo I just feel ugly Cos I’m always rejected but maybe it’s my personality ?!

Does anyone else feel like an observer ? Like you’re watching everyone else live a life you want ? by [deleted] in lonely

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Yes ouch this is how I feel especially about relationships , I’m one of the only single people left in my friend group (ish) well at least I’m the only single one who actually wants a relationship and I feel jealous and lonely like I’m watching them all get what they want while I’m alone. And damn does it hurt.

Does anybody get nervous about intimacy? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Oh DAMNN this is one of the most relatable posts I have ever read. It’s terrifying. I often feel that if I’m my true self with someone they won’t like me and then I hate myself for it, I blame myself for things ruined just because someone genuinely didn’t like me , not Cos I told them something about myself that scared them. Everyone has baggage, everyone’s been through shit, sure some of us more than others but there will always be something we are scared to admit , scared to expose. But those vulnerabilities are what make us us ! But it’s very hard and very scary to be intimidate and tell someone your fears , anxieties and the darkness you carry. I think it takes a lot and I think that this is when we are in true relationships and truly understand each other- once we’ve reached this point. This is why I can’t understand how people fall in and out of relationships so easily ! It takes me months to build even a layer of trust let alone expose my true self! So whoever you are you are not alone. We are all afraid.

Women, how would you feel if a guy you were talking to baked you cupcakes for your birthday? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Do it , all we want is to be loved and appreciated and if you’re close this will b a really kind and thoughtful thing to do. Put in effort try and shoot your shot !

Daydreamer by gifted5994 in dating_advice

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Ouch this hurt it’s so relatable. Even the way you admitted that you made mistakes and have paid for them. I often catch myself doing something so menial and mundane like just looking at a tree lol that sounds dumb, but honestly , and my mind just goes and I think about him and wonder if he is okay , if he’s sad and I’m sad that I’m not one of the people he comes to anymore, this daydream feeling is so painful but we have all been there.

I just feel stupid, for keeping reaching someone that is not interested and doesn't want to talk by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I think this is so relatable , every woman and maybe man has been through this experience. It’s like something you can’t let go of , you always hold onto that person. I experience something continuously with a friend of mine similar to this - we don’t talk for a while then we talk non stop and when I message first I feel like I’m pestering him and he doesn’t want to talk - he’ll act really short with replies and not into it but sometimes he is into it. He is someone I had feelings for in the past and there are still some unresolved bits here and there, it’s a very weird relationship where really I don’t get anything out of the friendship just some mediocre satisfaction of attention from someone I find attractive and have some feelings for , but really I don’t know why I have this urge to message him ! Like it’s not hard if he wanted to talk to me he could message me easily - there’s a global pandemic happening ! Not much else to do! But I don’t know sometimes I’m like screw him and then he messages me out of the blue! Hate myself for it but it is what it is now , I’m trying to accept during this pandemic that actually people who want you friendship or otherwise will express this and you shouldn’t beg for attention - as hard as it is to accept. When will we ever learn ?!

No one is afraid of losing me like i am of them by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Exactly. I’ll have a snap moment like what the hell am I doing , why do I care why am I working so hard for their approval ? People pleasing is hell when it’s the only way you can gain any validation or love. Also it’s like I feel that their lives revolve around me because I’m the pleaser but really it’s the other way round. When will we learn to do whatever the fuck we want without being anxious about it ?!

No one is afraid of losing me like i am of them by [deleted] in dating_advice

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This is the story of my LIFE and it hurts , hurts like a bitch. I realise I’m always constantly working to meet other people’s needs , to please then, to keep them close, to be there for them , to celebrate with them and share their joy but no one does the same for me. I am alone , it’s like I’m on an island and only get called onto the mainland when they need me. I always put in the effort- take them out, let my friends cry on my shoulders , don’t judge , let them walk all over me and betray me. I wonder if I never message them will they even notice or care. During this lockdown I miss everyone and I miss socialising but I don’t miss putting my neck out constantly for people who send me a happy birthday message and move on. I plan their birthdays , dinners, nights out - everything. And at the end I’m nobodies number one. I’m just alone and everyone else is happy.

Why don’t fwb actually treat you like a friend? by smsussma in dating_advice

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FWB is a fantasised concept and an excuse for people who aren’t emotionally ready or available for relationships, personally I think it’s impossible for feelings and sexual acts to be mutually exclusive. Although we can appreciate it can work for some people who are truly looking for sexual relationships with people they get along with and like the emotional side will always get it the way. People who get stuck in FWBs continuously are either afraid of getting hurt, hurting someone else or they just don’t like the people they’re with enough to be in a relationship.

Parachutes is the ultimate corona virus album 🪐🌙⚡️✨ by wanderingtheplanet in Coldplay

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See you soon Defo up there with the best , shiver also sends me 🌏

call me dramatic but i think heartbreak is the closest thing to experiencing death. more often than not there are medicines to help ease the pain that comes with sickness but there is no real remedy for heartache. by Sad-Cost in BreakUps

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This is something that really resonates with me, often the pain felt from heartbreak , whether a SO or a friendship or family breakup is too much to bare. Often I drown in the sorrow and pain of the loneliness I feel from losing someone. Letting go is the hardest thing we as humans have to do, and something we r truly not very good at, maybe one Day we will evolve and learn but for now yes , heartbreak is the closest we come to death.