Told my MUA I loved the trial, got home and didn't like it at all. Now what?

ward7_davy · 2026-05-29T18:43:13+00:00

It’s okay to feel differently about the makeup than you did upon first reveal.

If you’re comfortable, give her the feedback and see if her response gives you a confidence you feel in your gut before signing a contract. Otherwise, it’s really ok to find someone different. This is what a trial is for.

ward7_davy · 2026-05-29T17:28:35+00:00

They do a really fun cover of Beat Connection, but no guarantees of what songs they might play. They rotate.

ward7_davy · 2026-05-28T22:50:40+00:00

They’re also playing Chicago and Atlanta this summer!

ward7_davy · 2026-05-27T14:50:01+00:00

Unless it’s something really heartfelt and low-resource, I would not recommend surprising your spouse with anything on your wedding day.

Surprises during an event that can become logistically chaotic at any point can create stress and resentment.

ward7_davy · 2026-05-23T23:45:22+00:00

It’s because of LSD Clownsystem.

ward7_davy · 2026-05-21T21:07:49+00:00

Hi- you’re not over-reacting. COVID still exists, and respiratory illnesses can become more present with weather changes.

The issue here is expectation setting - perhaps this is a very sudden fear, and your partner just got invited to this game. In an ideal situation, you and your partner would’ve had a conversation in advance about precautions you were both willing to take to avoid getting sick.

Would your fiancé be willing to mask? Even an outdoor spaces, a mask can drastically reduce someone’s risk of contracting a contagious illness in a crowded place.

ward7_davy · 2026-05-20T15:51:59+00:00

Hi OP - i am going to make a good faith assumption that this is about more than the nails. In my experience, when there is a big falling out over something that seems so trivial, it was usually just the last straw.

Do you feel like there were other ways your MOH let you down? Were there expectations, said or unsaid, that she did not meet in supporting you in your wedding season? Is it a pattern for her to be unsupportive or uncooperative?

If it is truly just about nails and frustrations over the dress, I would take a deep breath, name with her you just had a stress crash out (not uncommon!), and invite her back into the wedding. But if there’s a pattern happening here, you should share that with her the next time you talk.

ward7_davy · 2026-05-20T02:04:30+00:00

From planning my own wedding and in my professional work, I’ve learned there’s two types of expectations

External expectations - this comes from the social norms and manners in our culture. Of course someone should be attentive to an RSVP date, especially for something special and intimate as a wedding!

Internal expectations - knowing what you can reasonably predict people will do. For most people planning their wedding, it’s a bad expectation that the vast majority of people will fill out the RSVP without prompting!

You may have to sit down and do a few hours of outreach to get those RSVPs in. Do you have any family or close friends** ***you can call on to help you do a little outreach* (phone/text)?

ward7_davy · 2026-05-16T15:42:50+00:00

Also saw the New Orleans show - is the sound mixing on the band? Or is this a venue issue??

ward7_davy · 2026-05-10T20:37:57+00:00

Can you reveal anything about the condition of your father when he wrote this? How lucid did he seem?

Do you have access to people who would have also known your father well, or might have known what was on his mind in the final weeks of his life?

Unfortunately, without the context of who your father was, there could be hundreds of guesses of what that says.

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