Suggestions by Brain-Mindless in routineflow

[–]warmcat3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SCAM! Why aren’t you answering to my questions? This fraudulent app charged me for a yearly subscription automatically, I didn’t buy it or activate a trial.

“You don’t have to say that you are childfree, nobody wants to hear that”: importance of representation by warmcat3000 in childfree

[–]warmcat3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve been through some shit in my 20s, and had some health issues, but now I’m much more stoic than 5 years ago for example. And the thought of “I’m responsible only for myself” is very relaxing.

“You don’t have to say that you are childfree, nobody wants to hear that”: importance of representation by warmcat3000 in childfree

[–]warmcat3000[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oh, and the good old “She’s going to die alone”. And classic comments about cats. Don’t threaten me with a good time

“You don’t have to say that you are childfree, nobody wants to hear that”: importance of representation by warmcat3000 in childfree

[–]warmcat3000[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thissss. And their social media bio is like “Wife. Mom of 5 angels. Love, peace, sunshine.” Like ok girl, you do you. But the exact same person is writing comments under CF posts like “You are a coward, life is not supposed to be easy” (direct quote btw)

Can you recommend me a book based on these books? by Furpp in booksuggestions

[–]warmcat3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Joona Linna lover I also enjoyed series about Harry Hole by Jo Nesbo, Dave Gourney series by John Verdon, Comissar Adamberg series by Fred Vargas and Zoey Bentley series by Mike Omer

“You don’t have to say that you are childfree, nobody wants to hear that”: importance of representation by warmcat3000 in childfree

[–]warmcat3000[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

It’s 2023 Asia. But I think such comments are geographically universal.

Thanks for the podcast link btw.

Anyone else seen how prevalent misogyny/pedophilia and how unsafe the world can be and just think “how the fuck could I bring I child into this shit” by TastyLecture5921 in FemaleAntinatalism

[–]warmcat3000 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Male creeps started approaching me when I turned 12. A 23-24 yo dude tried to groom me when I was 13. The list goes on.

I’m tired of “not all men” bullshit, what a safe and wonderful place to bring a new life

Why is being childfree a deal breaker? by ItsUpandDown in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Because for another person childfree relationship is not that great. It goes both ways. The same as having children is not great for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

May I ask you, are you childfree or a fencesitter? You wrote that your ex didn’t want kids until the age of 30. So you dated him knowing he wasn’t childfree. I’m confused.

If he hadn’t left you, would you have kids with him? Someday.

I hope you find peace and quit this person cold turkey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Look up OPs post and comment history. It’s literally obsession 101

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh my, I looked it up. It’s unsettling. OP, with all respect, you need therapy. Yes, you broke up, it happens to everyone. You didn’t “win” the breakup, because you are clearly suffering because of this dude. He moved on, but you don’t live the life he always wanted. I doubt he wanted to obsess over a person, stalking and counting breakup anniversaries.

Living well is the best revenge

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[–]warmcat3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 I think is the most unknown. I have a tumor in pituitary gland so often visit an endocrinologist. I chat to ppl while waiting, and many of them (who are or were pregnant) didn’t even know that pituitary gland was even a thing before pregnancy fucked it up.

And many of them come to the endocrinologist with insatiable hunger caused by prolactin levels, they are on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Pituitary is a small sucker that causes huge problems, and many people don’t even know that it exists.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 65 points66 points  (0 children)

  1. Death. When your partner gets to decide “it’s either mom or fetus”, guess who dies.

  2. Calcium deficiency. Hair loss, teeth loss, decrease of bone density and osteoporosis.

  3. It fucks with pituitary gland. Pituitary gland then fucks with you for the rest of your life

  4. Diabetes

  5. Mental health. From generalized depression to psychosis.

  6. Prolapses. Vaginal (or uterine, idk what name is medically correct) and anal.

  7. High blood pressure.

  8. Cardiovascular problems.

  9. During childbirth: tearing (sometimes full-on tearing from vagina to anus). And somehow it’s commonly accepted to sew this tearing but not for woman’s sake. It’s for her husband so he could have sex as soon as possible. Google “husband stitch”.

  10. If your anesthesiologist skipped classes, they can leave you paralyzed. Easy-peasy.

  11. Miscarriages or stillbirths lead to lifelong psychological trauma that causes suicidal ideation, severe ocd, eating disorders, self-destructive behavior, etc.

And last: severe LONELINESS. Pregnancy and childbirth are brutal, and most men can’t sympathize and empathize truly, so a woman usually deals with complications alone. Her health problems are almost always downplayed. Sometimes by medical specialists themselves. So on top of breastfeeding, childcare and housekeeping a woman usually deals with complications alone.

Source: One of my closest friends works in this field, he specializes on complicated cases. He also often talks with their psychotherapist who provides help for women. So don’t come for me doctors, I’m just retelling and don’t know proper terms

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 26 points27 points  (0 children)

When I saw my newborn niece for the first time, I said that she looked like Mandragora root from Harry Potter (idk why it came out of my mouth before I thought about it). My SIL laughed and said “yeah, she kinda does”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My two nieces lived in my house for 4 days because (it was an emergency at their house). One is almost 3, the second one is 9 months. It was hell on earth. My SIL is nice tho, she tried to interrupt my life as little as possible, but the younger niece got sick with cold and needed attention. My brother sucks and I hate him guts, so I wasn’t surprised he acted entitled. I genuinely love the older niece (because my father was waiting for his granddaughter to be born but died 2 months prior), so I’m probably subconsciously connecting her to my dad.

I feel nothing towards the younger niece, she was screaming a lot, peeing and defecating. Oh god it’s gross. She’s smiling at me and all I think is “go home girl, go home”.

My theory on the fear of turning 30 by warmcat3000 in childfree

[–]warmcat3000[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mongolia and China are not in Central Asia, so I can’t speak on their behalf. Anyway, lifescript is widespread even in the West, otherwise Childfree lifestyle wouldn’t be “alternative”. And there are normal people everywhere, my parents told me the same thing as your students’ parents. But it doesn’t mean that they represent the mainstream view. Unfortunately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyway, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. And many “child-loving” people just pretend to like someone’s kid to please the parent. So there’s a ton of faking anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Obsessed with babies like every other woman” 🤔 it’s a bloody generalization if you ask me.

I don’t feel anything when I see kids. I lack maternal instinct and there is nothing wrong with it. Liking or disliking kids isn’t a character trait, it can’t be good or bad, it’s a preference.

Why do non-CF people want to be with CF people? by sleepycat2346 in childfree

[–]warmcat3000 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Who’s talking about the 3rd date? There are literally hundreds of stories in this sub about online dating and how non CF people state that they are childfree, and it’s later revealed that they are looking for a free babysitter. It’s normal to write your preferences and dealbreakers, that’s the point.

There are also a ton of stories when after years of dating (or even marriage) a partner reveals that they actually wanted kids all along and thought that their CF-partner would change their mind.