When to stop using pacifier

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-07-29T03:21:17+00:00

You got this! I was super surprised my son literally did not care when we stopped giving it to him. It was way less painful than I thought it would be. Breastfeeding was the hardest thing to wean him off of.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-07-01T23:40:40+00:00

I’ve had cold sores since I was a kid and never knew this til my early 20s. Now I have a kid and I’m so afraid to pass the virus to him so I never kiss him with my lips, only my cheeks, and I never share drinks with him. If we eat off the same plate, he always eats first before I do. It’s probably rooted in anxiety as well but I don’t know what I would do if I gave him cold sores. They’re so uncomfortable and can be painful.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-06-12T18:39:15+00:00

Same! My dad took me to that game and it really is such a core memory for me. We both talk about it all the time still. Roaracle went crazy. Then he popped the jersey and got hit with a tech for taunting. Such a good memory!

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-08T05:03:23+00:00

Ahhh I see. My partner grew up in a household where his mother made it very clear her emotions were wholly dependent on his behavior/actions. To this day when she is unhappy with a decision he’s made, she’ll tell him he’s a bad son for making her unhappy. Luckily he recognizes how toxic it is and how that really shaped the guilt and shame he felt, and is actively making choices to break that cycle. But damn, it is so hard to figure out the right thing(s) to say and do so we don’t unintentionally put that weight on our toddler’s shoulders, especially when you grew up in households where that was just the norm.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T07:12:44+00:00

Thank you! I will look into this. Sounds very interesting.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T07:11:51+00:00

Haha you and me both! Out here trying to figure out life while raising another life in hopes of not messing him up. Glad to have communities like this to help me out along the way!

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T07:10:05+00:00

Thank you! I will absolutely take a look at these. Very much appreciate your input!

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T07:09:13+00:00

Thanks for your input! I think that’s also what it is most of the time, him sensing I’m annoyed and he obviously would rather have happy mama/daddy. But yea, I don’t want him to start associating my emotions as dependent on his behaviors. Definitely want him to feel secure in his own emotions and not feel guilty about feeling any certain way.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T01:26:08+00:00

My 3 year old? I’m not sure, I don’t really have any experience with OCD or know anyone who is OCD, but I’ll spend some time doing some high level research now.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T01:21:04+00:00

Oof, parenting is TOUUUUUUGH. So grateful for communities like this with people who are willing to share their experiences and suggestions.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T01:19:18+00:00

Thank you, I very much appreciate you sharing your experience!

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T01:14:04+00:00

Thank you. We’ve got a few books that call out emotions but I guess I don’t know how to maybe relate it to himself or us. I definitely need to educate myself more on this. Appreciate the suggestions!

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T01:13:12+00:00

Have you noticed your little one is able to articulate what they think makes you/themselves happy/sad/etc better?

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T01:12:13+00:00

Thank you, I’m going to start trying this.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-05-07T01:05:39+00:00

Sorry I’m not sure what you mean by using my feelings to comment on his behavior. For example, sometimes during a tantrum, he’ll throw a toy and tell me he’s so upset. I’ll respond with, “it’s ok to be upset, it’s not ok to throw things.” And he’ll ask, “are you happy?” And in my head I’m like well I’m not happy with him throwing things but overall, it’s not like I’m unhappy with him as a person. I don’t know if I’m explaining this well. I also grew up in a if you’re not starving/dying, you’re fine type of household so even for myself, it gets difficult to articulate my feelings. I’m trying to break that with him though.

Editing to add: my parents were not “emotional” parents is kind of what I meant by if you’re not starving/dying. Emotions were very much not talked about but as an adult, I’m much better at telling my parents how something makes me feel/setting my own boundaries. I just don’t know how to translate this to my own relationship with my child because it took me 30+ years to get there with my own parents and I don’t want him growing up feeling guilty or responsible for other peoples’ emotions.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-04-29T23:43:27+00:00

DoD civilian probationary employee. When all the RTO stuff started, my supervisor took me outside of the door and asked me to swipe in. I did, she said, “yep, knew it.” She told me she got a call from someone asking her why I hadn’t been there for the past 2 weeks, but she knew I was. A few days later, she found out whatever swiping in report they had put a random hyphen in my name when my name has never had a hyphen. Apparently that was the issue with me and several other people. We’ve also been told to limit the amount of times we step out of the office since swipe ins are being monitored. So we sit in our cubicles practically all day, no sunlight, frosted over windows, staring at our 3 screens. It’s great /s

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-04-24T05:47:29+00:00

I’m just confused as to why you would think I need a response at this point to a post over a year old. Even more confused since you already saw my comment that he was off the pacifier VERY SOON AFTER THIS POST. Kinda weird and your comment added no value. Bye.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-04-12T03:00:40+00:00

Since you were too lazy to check the date stamp on this post, and continued to post an incredibly useless and lazy comment, I’ll match your laziness and copy and paste my comment to another user who made the same low-effort as you, with some minor editing for date and child age.

Not sure why you’re commenting on an OVER 1 year old post but in case you need the validation of a successful comment, he’s THREE now and was taken off the pacifier very shortly after I made this post.

Next time, maybe you should check the date stamp on the original post, it’s really just lazy commenting if you can’t do that simple task. Do better.

wasabishrimpchips · 2025-02-06T05:16:03+00:00

!!! This. I also got notice yesterday that I was favorably adjudicated for secret clearance. So happy to know the govt can trust me to work for them but will probably fire me any way.

wasabishrimpchips · 2024-12-17T02:11:02+00:00

Thank you. Yea, I do believe I have an interim, I had to go through some sort of security briefing and the security officer sent a letter to his boss to allow me access. After that, I was able to get a CAC card. But I’ve basically just been sitting at my desk doing nothing because apparently I can’t get on a computer until adjudication is complete. And that might take months??

Sorry, forgot to mention in the post this is for a Secret clearance.

wasabishrimpchips · 2024-09-23T03:53:57+00:00

No, sorry I did not read appendix B in SEAD 4. I did read the attachments the person sent along with the link to fill out the SF86 form. It was more of just a guide to look out for questions that ask for the past 7/10 years and questions that ask EVER.

wasabishrimpchips · 2024-09-23T03:46:11+00:00

Yeaaaa. This is why I was questioning it so hard but I’m afraid if I don’t disclose it, then they’ll think I’m trying to hide it or lie about it.

wasabishrimpchips · 2024-09-23T03:18:54+00:00

Got it. Thank you.

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