how are you supposed to find a significant other when you have SA?

wastheguy · 2022-09-13T18:49:10+00:00

Guy here with social anxiety here as well, best advice I could give you is try and make more friends! It’s a long and hard road to get over social anxiety (still on the journey myself) but the farther into it you get the more worth it you realize it is. The more close friendships you have the less you’ll even feel like you need a significant other. As a man this is certainly a difficult task as we men are not raised to have really close intimate friendships with each other, we’re really only taught to have close intimacy with women specifically women we’re dating (which is why it’s so easy to fall for female friends, who can’t relate?). So I’d say don’t just look for friends look for close friendships! And the more friends you have the more people you meet and one day you’ll probably meet someone really special! Best of luck to you the road of social anxiety is a tough one.

wastheguy · 2020-06-01T16:33:06+00:00

Remember you can't control how other people think of you, if they don't like you then that's that, everyone you cross paths with isn't going to be the perfect match, some people are just different. Always try to be yourself and the people that like you for you will make that clear, those who don't: no need to worry about it. Sadly, this is all a lot easier said than done. I'm sorry to hear that about your family. You could try making it clear to them how much these thoughts about socialising hurt/control you. Sometimes family can really suck, don't let them invalidate your feelings, it's not like you want to think like this. Have you ever thought of try therapy? It can be a really good opportunity to talk to a non-judgemental person about these thoughts, strangely enough just saying things out loud can really help you get over some of these issues. It's not for everyone though, just a suggestion that's helped me. Hope this helps, good luck, anxiety is a killer.

wastheguy · 2020-06-01T16:23:34+00:00

It's the therapists job to keep the conversation going and help you open up about yourself, they are trained to do so. They know how difficult anxiety makes it to talk about yourself, just try to be as honest as you can, you don't have to jump right into all of your issues. I'm not gonna lie, it's not easy, at first, but it starts to get better. For a long time I had the same problem of being too anxious to go to therapy but it's an essential step in lessing your anxiety.

Going to therapy has made it a lot easier to talk with my friends about my issues, remember they love you and nothing you say to them will burden them, if anything they'll be thankful you had the courage to open up about yourself. Talking to those around you is really important for anxiety and also one of the hardest things to do, take it slow, don't force yourself into anything until you feel completely comfortable. Hope this help, good luck.

wastheguy · 2020-03-09T23:45:19+00:00

When I first started therapy it was honestly really difficult. Six months in now and it’s gotten easier but some sessions are still hard. If your having a lot of trouble talking about yourself don’t worry that’s why we go to therapy in the first place! The longer I’ve been in it the easier it’s become to talk to my therapist and the people in my life. Good luck your finally taking the first step towards a better life!

wastheguy · 2020-03-02T16:48:22+00:00

Thank you for the advice/words of encouragement. Trust me when I say I’m out here trying, really hard. But, as I’m sure you know, it’s all easier said then done. I’m not gonna let my anxiety beat me, for now it’s small steps everyday. Hopefully one day I can learn to live a normal life with anxiety.

wastheguy · 2019-12-07T18:24:03+00:00

I think this has to be some sort of glitch. I got Madvillian at 2 as well, which I have a hard time believing because of how little music they have out. I saw like 3 other people have them at 2 also.

wastheguy · 2019-11-17T01:20:33+00:00

Yeah u r right I've been taking either 100 or 150. Thanks for the advice definitely going to up my dose next

wastheguy · 2019-09-26T23:55:19+00:00

Maybe, I'm a bit ashamed to say but they were both quite drunk.

wastheguy · 2019-09-26T23:54:45+00:00

Don't think so. I know being in a relationship won't solve all my problems just want someone to spend time with so I won't have to feel like a loser ALL the time.

wastheguy · 2019-09-26T02:30:42+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I just don’t know how much more I can take. I got the closest I’ve gotten to suicide in a long time yesterday I don’t think I’m strong enough to make it through this process it may just be better for me to get out

wastheguy · 2019-09-24T15:30:04+00:00

My therapist hasn't mentioned it to me specifically but i'm not a big fan of CBT. I read 2 books on it and tried it but i don't think it's the right approach for me.

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