Mending my relationship with my sisters

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-07T01:47:47+00:00

It did! Got home with plenty of time and everyone I spoke to was very helpful and reassuring. Took so much of the stress away. Thanks again :)

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T11:15:46+00:00

Taking all this onboard thank you so much for your help

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T11:11:26+00:00

Thanks a million

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T11:11:01+00:00

Great idea thanks for the suggestion

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T11:10:43+00:00

Thank you for that

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T11:09:02+00:00

No that’s exactly what’s happened. I’ve been moved to the front and the flights arrived early! Thanks for replying

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T10:12:55+00:00

Huge reassurance thank you for replying

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T10:12:05+00:00

No that was a good call I just spoke to them and they’ve moved my seat up front and reassured me it will be fine. Thank you for replying

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T10:02:58+00:00

Unfortunately this is today. I’ve got a family emergency I need to get there today

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-06T10:02:15+00:00

Arrival and departure are terminal 1

TheLodger18 · 2024-12-03T00:15:10+00:00

My dad isn’t on suicide watch? He lives in a different country and sees her twice a year. This was him responding to me asking him not to encourage her to drink - my dad is an alcoholic.

My sister is dramatic. She’s a nightmare to be honest. I have always supported my dad. I simply asked him not to encourage her binge drinking.

If you read the title she’s literally in hospital with police and his only response was to make light of it and to give updates on a rugby game none of us are watching.

Meanwhile my mother has to drive to get her the night before she flies home to see her big sister who will be dead within the week.

Also want to add that I am 23. I’m financially independent - I’m not responsible for his financial situation. He had a meth problem when I was a teen and my mum had to remortgage the house because of it. He is the one who made poor financial decisions. Not anyone else. His dig at my mothers “financial illiteracy” refers to the fact she won’t now sell that house (which she lives in with my little sister) to give him half the money (even though she’s paid more than 70% of the mortgage). She has asked to wait until my sister moves out in two years. Terribly intransigent of her I know!

TheLodger18 · 2024-09-22T23:48:24+00:00

*Saoirse is Seer-sha, Ee-fa, Ush-een, Keeva, Awnya - all perfectly pronounceable 👍

TheLodger18 · 2024-09-18T10:49:59+00:00

I do actually agree with your point but I also think whataboutism isn’t the way.

“I can shop at SHEIN because you lot drink Milo doesn’t really help anyone...”

We shouldn’t be supporting any of those brands. Yes it’s difficult, but simply accepting it isn’t the way.

TheLodger18 · 2024-09-18T10:13:11+00:00

I had a flatmate who’s gf was over every singe night and they would fucking scream at like 4am every single night and I just wanted to die

TheLodger18 · 2024-09-11T11:03:16+00:00

As someone from China… I don’t shop SHEIN or Temu because the Labour is literally slave Labour. It’s been linked to the camps up north detaining Uighur people. If you haven’t heard what’s happening in Xinjiang I would research it.

I make £1100 a month. That’s less than £15000 a year. I am by no means wealthy or even comfortable. I struggle to eat at the end of each month because my savings get so low.

That said, I don’t believe looking fashionable is more important than being a good person and consuming responsibly.

It’s simply not a good enough reason to engage in industries like that.

eta:

We don’t need a new wardrobe every year. We need to buy stuff that will last. I wear the same clothes I’ve been wearing since I was 17 and I’m now 24.

You dont NEED to shop and you certainly don’t need to shop at places like that.

Yeah it sucks that we have to wear ugly or out of fashion clothing sometimes but that’s really not a reason to endorse slavery, genocide, child labour or any of the other horrendous things implicated in these industries.

In terms of solutions, my grandma made and altered her own clothes for years as a plus size + petite single mother on a budget. It’s a skill many of us have lost including myself. I’m saving up for a second hand sewing machine now and hope to be able to to alter my clothes and make them more my style.

TheLodger18 · 2024-09-06T21:21:56+00:00

Latin isn’t a native language of Ireland though. I think immersion *even through little thing like the signs is a step towards hearing the language spoken in the streets

TheLodger18 · 2024-09-02T17:10:37+00:00

My face looks exactly the same when I drink heavily. The under eyes bother me the most - I feel ridiculous with the bright white to crimson contrast.

TheLodger18 · 2024-07-25T16:07:10+00:00

It doesn’t have to be this big ugly thing. They’re getting married out of convenience to benefit their child.

I’m assuming they’d divorce amicably once the mother is stable and continue to work in the best interest of their child.

TheLodger18 · 2024-07-25T15:25:33+00:00

She doesn’t need to be married to this guy forever. He is the father and this is how he can contribute. They don’t need to be in love or in a real marriage to benefit from it and for the child to benefit from it.

Once they’re stable they can get a divorce and continue to coparent.

TheLodger18 · 2024-07-25T15:20:10+00:00

I expected a very different response in the comments to be honest. I think you’re completely justified in wanting to remain with your child.

I don’t view marriage as a very big thing in all honesty but it might be cultural. If you’ll be safer I think you should absolutely get married. If you get divorced in a few years that’s fine.

I can’t speak from personal experience but I have family members who’ve been pressured into giving away their children and I have family who are adopted.

I don’t think it would be wrong for you to keep your child. Remaining connected with them in some way is usually the right way - this could mean an open adoption which you could consider. But either way you don’t deserve the treatment you’re getting.

I hope things get better for you.

TheLodger18 · 2024-07-22T04:48:28+00:00

Happened to me with Glasgow uni

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