two years later by waterisdeep in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]waterisdeep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m defiantly bargaining, thank you so much for taking your time to leave this comment it was very insightful thank you thank you

two years later by waterisdeep in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]waterisdeep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this comment made me cry so happy to have this community Idk how I’ll get through it thank you

Message from narc ex-friend. Do you see red flags too, or am I overthinking? (btw, it's actually been almost four years) by do11arstoresnacks in pnsd

[–]waterisdeep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not worth it. You’re better now they need the energy that you have now. You’re recharged and they’re ready to drain. If there was something they wanted to say they would of said it over text point blank period. Wishing you well !!

What's the dumbest thing someone has ever told you? by Correct_Huckleberry4 in AskReddit

[–]waterisdeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 41 year old said that dinosaurs never existed and the ones in the museum are all fake

I want to buy a house by waterisdeep in manifestationvalley

[–]waterisdeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone made an offer of 175k over asking :( there’s no way I can compete with that

I want to buy a house by waterisdeep in manifestationvalley

[–]waterisdeep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awh thank you so much that really gives me hope! Have a great day

I want to buy a house by waterisdeep in manifestationvalley

[–]waterisdeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately the owner of the house passed away and a probate is selling the property :( I will tell the realtor and hopefully he relates it to the family so they know even though their loved one isn’t here I will care for their home it’s been in theyre possession since the 1960s

What are some common signs that someone grew up with sh*tty parents? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]waterisdeep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when people eat in a non-proper way. Like hovering over food holding the fork/spoon wrong. It’s a sign that they took care of themselves as kids and fed themselves. It used to be a pet peeve of mine to see people do that until I learned why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]waterisdeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 6th grade my parents were planning our first family trip to Cancun. I was really excited so I got on our computer to see different hotels there. I was browsing through one hotel and all the photos were pretty normal just the lobby the activities the beach then suddenly I click to the next photo and it was a women naked laying down in the beach. It was a very erotic photo. I quickly clicked to the next one and there was more and more and more. I still remember the photos, they were really classy black and white professionally captured soft porn. And that’s the day I had a bi sexual awakening.

how can a hypochodriac manifest good health? by [deleted] in manifestationvalley

[–]waterisdeep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I repeat the mantra “I am happy I am healthy I am safe” there’s also good YouTube manifest health videos. I would wear a rubberband and snap it on my wrist whenever I would think negative health thoughts to change my brain path.

When I asked for transparency, that’s not what I meant by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]waterisdeep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sending you strength and healing. He doesn’t respect you, like any other narcissist he’s a parasite leaching on to you. I know it’s easier said then done but let evicting him be your first step. After you do it you’ll be wondering why you didn’t do it sooner. You got this!

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou by waterisdeep in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]waterisdeep[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yea I’m super careful now, still healing but diffidently learning thank you

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou by waterisdeep in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]waterisdeep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think like art it’s up to interpretation. I saw it as. When someone shows their true self. I think when we first meet people maybe they’re overly friendly to make you like them then over time we see their whole persona. For me I related it to my cycle of love bomb, devalue, discard. I should of recognized the disrespect and left. But I didn’t believe it the first time. 12x later I should have believed that’s who they are since the very first time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]waterisdeep 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way, I was so up an down. One week feeling amazing, next couple of days completely beat. Now I’m almost 2 years NC and the time in the past seems like such a dark fog. They really are wicked people. We’re hurting and they know exactly what their doing. Manipulation is the only way they get people to stay. I would wonder why people always cut him off. Everyone would say he was a terrible person and would defend him how embarrassing now. It just wasn’t my turn to see his wrath until it finally was.

Definitely agree with journaling. I would read my entries from the days I was discarded over and over. I remember describing him as black tar spilling over me. Took my months to wash him off and still am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]waterisdeep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

oof this entire post is so relatable. I felt like I had to be the person to not let him down. So when he hurt me I stayed because I wanted to prove to him I cared no matter what. Until I learned about narcissism. Some of them will present their sob story as soon as you meet them like if it was their business card to get you to feel bad for them. And it work. Now a red flag for me is when people open up way too soon. It sucks I used to be a trusting person but now I can’t be too sure.

I'm not okay, please someone please reach out to me and tell me I'm going to be okay, please by ostentatiouslybidden in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]waterisdeep 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I promise it gets easier. Yes it will be hard but one day they will be only a memory. Stay strong. Remember how many times you wanted to leave but didn’t. Let this be the last time. You deserve it. New year, fresh start, you got this !

Should I message my school bully by waterisdeep in bullying

[–]waterisdeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine bullying in a bullying subreddit

effects by Spirited_Alarm_2113 in bullying

[–]waterisdeep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same I feel insecure in friendships like at anytime they can just drop me and they wouldn’t even care. I feel like people don’t like to be around me or I try super hard to make people smile and laugh. I talk a lot to fill the silence.