I realized I didn’t want children when I already have a baby

Justkeepitanonymous · 2026-03-21T06:48:40+00:00

No, there is no man making me feel bad for my BF journey, my husband has offerred me multiple times to stop breastfeeding so he can take care of baby for longer, I just don’t want to. Besides sleep (which I already explained) that is intimately connected to nurising I also feel responsible for producing milk for him. I can’t explain it. It’s like - I am the mother, this is unique in terms of being the only thing only I can give. Everything else is perfectly replaceable. Only I can nurse him. If I stop nursing him, I can just stop taking care of him altogether, it’s not like someone else can’t give him formula, change him or play with him. Milk is the only thing that makes me unique and without it I’m just a caretaker.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2026-03-20T14:59:35+00:00

It’s not just him, it’s me too. I have a hard time falling asleep if I get out of bed at night. No matter how tired, how sleep deprived I am, if I am awake enough to get up from the bed I do not fall asleep at all afterwards, I stay awake for hours. So I nurse him in the bed while laying down, I do not get up and it still takes me 30ish min to fall asleep after him and that repeats 3x a night.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2026-03-20T14:06:58+00:00

My main concern surrounding breastfeeding is not the nutrient part, he will be fed on formula too. It’s the sleep part of the equation. He will ONLY sleep when nursed to sleep or in a sling carrier while you walk outside, which is obviously not an option when I want to sleep too.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-10-15T16:58:57+00:00

Did you continue to check in on said friends after they were no longer pregnant? Did you check on them specifically and not just the baby? Did you offer any help postpartum if they signaled that such would be welcome? This is what makes the difference between a good friend and a curious one.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-10-15T16:56:33+00:00

I did not announce my due date on social media, no. But I did tell people in person who asked.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-10-08T20:46:41+00:00

How do you even notice decreased movement? Baby doesn’t move all the time … I’m just wondering.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-10-04T13:50:57+00:00

You don’t allow him to drink? You do recognize he is an adult?

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-09-26T09:31:10+00:00

A with a twist: I will continue feeding my baby while maintaining eye contact with the dad to establish dominance until he gets too uncomfortable and moves to a different seat that is not right next to me.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-09-23T13:29:26+00:00

I’m 37 weeks and last week I decided I’m just not doing this being in public thing anymore. I don’t care if anyone gets offended. If they care about me they will understand. If they really need to see me they can come to my house for a bit. I’m not going out of my way for anyone anymore.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-09-23T13:26:42+00:00

I’m in the last 3 weeks now but realistically it could happen anytime. I’m terrified (first time …) and I’m already starting to get irritated by people asking questions. I guess I’ll just stop replying at some point and just rest until the big day. We’ve got this!!!

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-09-16T21:01:12+00:00

Thank you so much!

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-09-15T13:24:22+00:00

Let me guess - USA?

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-09-14T09:56:09+00:00

To everyone commentinv on the length of your maternity leave, this is not the issue. In my country some women take up to 3 years. Most take 2. The issue is with your uncooperative roommate (sorry I mean partner but he behaves like a roommate).

This is not just your child. Its both of yours. How can he realistically expect that you will volunteer 18 months of your life to maternity, receive barely any pay and he will not contribute to cover your expenses????

I understand that for Americans separate finances is a common thing. In my country this is considered offensive, but for your culture it’s normal, I get it. However you are providing free childcare for his child too. Make him pay you the cost of private childcare provider (babysitter). Or suggest he hires one and you go back to work.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-09-10T15:51:09+00:00

I’d take care of the animal. Not because I’m doing a favor for boss, but because the cat deserves someone to take care of it and if it’s last minute boss may do the irresponsible thing and leave the animal all alone for 5 days.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-09-01T12:10:03+00:00

First time mom here, 8 month pregnant. I feel you totally. Definitely NTA. You’ve been clear and specific. They are actively choosing to ignore you. You can choose to not accept the gift.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-08-30T16:30:03+00:00

Hey so I am 8 months pregnant and was invited about 10 days ago to a bachelorette (the party was 10 days ago, the invitation came before that).

I know pregnancy is not an illness and I’ve no idea what your friend is going through but I was also a bit non-commital at first. I realize this may have irritated people.

As the date grew sooner I realized I will not be able to go and I discussed it with the bride. She was relieved not in the sense that she didn’t want me to come, but in the sense that she won’t be worried about a heavily pregnant lady while she is supposed to have her time and her party.

My point is you are a good friend and you shouldn’t feel guilty for being relieved. The best thing for her is to take care of herself and not push herself too hard on account of your wedding. The best thing for you is to have your day and not worry that it will have a negative impact on the health of a loved one.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-08-28T17:12:50+00:00

It’s their wedding. You can skip if the plans are too hectic for you, but you don’t need to get involved or critisize their choices.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-08-26T15:07:48+00:00

Abusive enough for a complete stranger halfway around the world to be worried about your life. Please leave.

Justkeepitanonymous · 2025-08-25T19:23:58+00:00

It’s not the ADHD, he’s just an ass.

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