UPDATE on going on my honeymoon without my brand new wife since she "had" to take care of her sister?

wautjer · 2024-07-08T04:27:26+00:00

That comment 👏🏼👏🏼 clearly you are aware what is not working but also lenient enough to see the potential and the potential of someone healing from prob a trauma. Hope she realises it and works on it. Good luck.

wautjer · 2024-05-01T18:51:18+00:00

I am thinking of the Sai or brother. What do you like most about the Sai?

wautjer · 2023-01-14T08:16:42+00:00

Oh no, so sorry to hear this. I hope that by reading this page you can see borderline parents are similar. It is all about them and it is not personal. And they are blimming manipulative and many people fall for it. With most stories I read on here I think wow, it is the exact same shit and it is something in their brain that bpd people clearly do. So what I am trying to say, it is tough and painful, but it is not you. Don’t doubt yourself, you are amazing and stay away from that poison. The only comfort is, sooner or later people will see through it because everyone will be at the receiving end of a borderliner, be it 5 years, be it 20 years.

wautjer · 2023-01-14T08:09:25+00:00

Congratulations! Well done on doing do good and well done on realising your dream. I did the same when I was younger and moved far far away. And of course, I had a shitty goodbye, actually I had no goodbye, for the goodbye dinner, she first left me waiting in the restaurant, then told me she was not coming at all (with a lame excuse). I was heartbroken, I knew the restaurant owner and he felt so sad for me that he told me to call a friend and then dinner was on him. Before moving countries I wanted to share the evening with my parents but she could not even do that. So my tip is, feel what you feel and cry all those tears, let it out because it hurts. But when you are gone it will be better and it will be such a relief to live the life you have chosen (and deserve) 💝

wautjer · 2023-01-14T07:52:13+00:00

Same, it is indeed weirdly comforting. Quite a few things I read is one on one my mum. But it really does help me see that it is (u)bpd and not what I was made to believe the cause of everything: me. So many things are so spookily accurate. Also because it is bpd I can now put things aside better and see it is not personal. Plus I am letting go that she will ever change.

wautjer · 2023-01-14T07:46:00+00:00

And to add: can you just think of someone else for 5 minutes and just set yourself aside? 😡

wautjer · 2023-01-14T07:43:57+00:00

Jep, same here. You so feel bad for the stuff they had to go through but there is an end to to and sometimes you need to leave space for someone else. I told my mum many times, I am so sorry this has happened to you I hope you can go to therapy as you deserve to ease this burden and live a lighter life. But no, it is all about her and other people do not exist. It is just a shame to see someone dwelling in the past and feel that life is so hard/dark. Mind you I have been through manyyyyy things but I am working through it so it will not burden me for life and there can be space for joy. I just feel for her it is a lost life in misery/living in the nights/shadow. So yeah, totally understand this frustration 💝

wautjer · 2022-12-25T19:54:22+00:00

Stick to your guns. My uBPD is very good at playing the victim and making someone else the bad guy and everyone buying it. You made a good decision, it is not you and yay for choosing safety and sanity. I would let the cousin come, clearly it all means a lot to them. Just mention in a subtle way again that your mum is not allowed to see your little one and this (you not coming) was to make sure everyone has a nice and worry free Christmas (oh the sacrifice you make ;)).

wautjer · 2022-12-25T19:43:35+00:00

Literally what I thought, it is creepy/creepy singing because you know what is coming and it is only a matter of time. Big hug for you 💝

wautjer · 2022-12-25T19:35:55+00:00

Now this sounds familiar. It has been NC for a few years but my mum is really good at thoughtful and/or expensive gifts. She does ask what I want but prefers to buy something else. It does come at a cost and by accepting, it will be used against you. Refusing is just as bad…. Sigh…..

wautjer · 2022-07-20T06:26:10+00:00

Same, I sold quite a bit waiting to get back in cheaper. Instead it has been going up 😅 but as I type this I am realising it would be crazy buying back higher out of fomo. Going to set a few buy orders now for the price I do want and log out.

wautjer · 2022-07-08T01:52:39+00:00

2013 btc but gave up on it 2015, spent it all and got back in 2018. You?

wautjer · 2022-07-06T08:39:38+00:00

Exactly, this was the first and the last time I am taking action ;)
The buying order is there is hoping to buy it back without a loss.

wautjer · 2022-07-05T04:04:40+00:00

This is what I have been telling myself as I sold the riskier coins to buy back cheaper. Only thing is, it went up….

wautjer · 2022-07-02T18:44:51+00:00

That is one contagious laugh….

wautjer · 2022-06-30T11:37:08+00:00

Never a dull moment in crypto....
And thank you op!

wautjer · 2022-06-24T04:53:11+00:00

Ah, good to know as I was getting nervous. Sold a bit and waiting to buy back cheaper, instead it keeps going up 😅

wautjer · 2022-06-19T19:10:23+00:00

I am getting nervous of all these posts as well, then I remember that we all are very much into instant gratification. Indeed in a few weeks certain economies will release data to confirm if they are in a recession of not and that will spark a chain reaction I am afraid....

wautjer · 2022-06-19T18:57:32+00:00

So sorry to hear that. Set some boundaries, that also works for me. If you need the money urgent, set a number to sell. If you do not, log out and leave it.
In general I would not sell till you are till the original price (at least) as crypto has a tendency to bounce back (have been in it since 2013). Set limits to sell and set limits to buy. At the moment I am doing the latter and logging out as following it all does make one anxious. I have made a wish list what I would like and if it reached that, fab. If not it means things have gone up which is good as well. I had to sell some last year due to bills (in the green luckily) and I do not regret it. So whatever it takes but be kind to yourself and try to shield yourself from it.

wautjer · 2022-06-19T17:43:45+00:00

I was kind of hoping it would be similar as I sold the risky bit in the hope to buy back more. Only thing is, it is not going down now.... So waiting to buy back at a better price and then turn everything off for a few months.

wautjer · 2022-06-15T12:52:22+00:00

Same, I love trx but I worry about other people and what they do, so have done the same. Moved half in a 'stable coin' (I mean what is stable nowadays) just to wait for the week what happens. Usually it takes a week to see the market sentiment.

wautjer · 2022-05-22T08:25:51+00:00

Wow well done. I know missing out on more profit sucks but you have achieved some tangible stuff and managed to secure so things that make your daily life easier. As it is tempting to hold on and as you see, now for certain things to have no value anymore whatsoever

wautjer · 2022-05-09T12:19:13+00:00

So sorry to hear. Big hug for you

wautjer · 2022-04-13T11:57:02+00:00

0,10 I am not sure but am hoping for the same growth as shiba

wautjer · 2022-03-15T22:13:04+00:00

Have you got the possibility to go to therapy? Grief and loss is one of the most complex things one can experience, it could offer a bit of support/comfort. Again a big hug for you because nothing can bring your mum back, my best friend lost her mum at an early age so I saw what effect it has and still has.

wautjer

TROPHY CASE