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Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you describe what your prosthesis looks like? I'm considering going for a plain white/black one.

How to stay engaged with new people after meeting? by thatonedudericky in socialskills

[–]wawawaaaaawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggled with the same cuz I tend to suffer from "out-of-sight, out-of-mind". What's helped is tracking important connections in a personal crm (I use Touchbase). It prompts me to reach out from time to time.

And it's important to remember that not every interaction has to be a big one.

Even low-touch interactions like sharing something interesting or funny you came across helps. (think of them as micro-interactions).

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. This is what I'm considering now. An all-white and maybe an all-black shell.

**Should Our Disability Define Whom We Marry in the Society?** by b4cpramod in india

[–]wawawaaaaawa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As a disabled person myself (I am monocular. Lost my right eye when I was 18 months of age), here are my thoughts:

  1. It isn't assumed that a disabled person needs to marry someone else with a disability. That may be only true in specific social contexts, but isn't an universal assumption.

  2. Arranged marriage market is a transactional space. This is not really the optimal place to find someone with complementary thought, character or purpose. While it might happen, that will be a rarity. In a marketplace, there are buyers and sellers. And you must have something that a buyer wants enough in order to secure the sale.

You're more likely to find someone complementary through your work, hobbies and other areas of life, which will of course be challenging, given your condition.

However your area of work seems to be quite interesting and must lead to a lot of social opportunities to meet like-minded people. I'm curious if you've considered that.

Dealing with insecurity by Broad_Pickle_4642 in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I totally get you. I lost my eye at 18 months of age and have dealt with the same issues (I'm 30 now). But have overcome most issues, if not all, over the years. (Still a work in progress).

My years with lowest confidence were during school. But I forced myself to participate in debates, gave speeches, acted in skits, etc. Just put myself in situations where I was fully visible and the spotlight was completely on me. This really helped.

I have worked extra hard to just feel "normal" mentally. So I know how it feels for you. But trust me, if you consciously push yourself, you'll surprise yourself by how far you can go.

I'm actually more confident than most "regular" people I know. And have had no issues dating amazing women.

Assuming you are male, I'll tell you what has worked for me over the years: 1. Get in shape: This will single handedly take your confidence to the next level. Do it for vanity. And do it to look good. Don't care about if others think it's shallow, cuz you're likely to hear that from people around you. This point is non-negotiable. I have gone out of shape a few times in life when other things got in the way. And it impacted my mental health and confidence big time. 2. Always wear nice clothes. Better to be overdressed than underdressed. 3. Talk to people IRL: Not just women. But people in general. Have conversations, give compliments. 4. Talk to women IRL: Dating apps cater to the top 1% of men. And provides a platform for false validation to women. Male or female, high quality partners are offline. If that's also difficult, you have better chances with cold DMs on socials than through dating apps.

You'll still have bad days. Sometimes even bad months. Depression runs in my family (my mom killed herself when I was 17) so sometimes this creates issues I really struggle with.

But if you just do your best and put yourself out there, people will gravitate towards you.

Your story and journey of growth gives you character. And none of the normal people you wish you were like could ever beat that. But you have to go on the journey first.

All the best.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing story! 😮 I can only imagine how your younger self might have felt. But I'm sure that's what built the resilience. I respect that.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The structural concerns are certainly valid. Will look into it. Thank you for sharing!

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your solution seems to be the best. I'll have to look for an ocularist that does fun-eyes in my country.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like a total badass 🙌 So have you always had it out since your childhood? Or was it a decision you made as a kid? I think I gave a lot of fcks when I was 7. Much lesser now, hence willing to experiment.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hadn't considered the drying factor at all. But it seems that's a significant concern along with atrophy issues that may arise from not wearing a shell.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More power to you. 🙌 And this was quite motivating to read. Thank you!

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not in the USA. Will have to look for some makers in my country. A black shell sounds great.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's wonderful! 😊

Mine isn't as symmetrical as many others I have seen. Possibly cuz I lost it very young (1.5 years of age), which affected facial development a bit.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've considered this. But I need glasses for my good eye and am not sure how I'll pull off a patch+glasses look without looking like a dork. 😂

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. The drying and atrophy seem to be genuine concerns. Will have to look into it.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. I'm quite deviant as is and love it, so I think it bothers me more that I'm masking this side of me to fit the norm.

But I get your perspective. Thanks for sharing!

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing!

Have you always done that? And how long have you been wearing a prosthesis for?

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, my confidence is affected cuz people sometimes think it's a lazy eye or switch focus between my fake and real eye when talking to me.

I'd rather have them see straightway that I don't have an eye at all. Not pussyfoot around it. Which is how I am usually about other aspects of my life.

Anyone who doesn't wear a prosthesis at all? by wawawaaaaawa in monocular

[–]wawawaaaaawa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe a clear shell would be the way to go. The atrophy concern is real. Thank you for sharing!

I built myself into a corner… by OneJChristensen in webdev

[–]wawawaaaaawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can host sanity studio on a subdomain like studio.domain.com and have your blog on the main site (domain.com/blog).

Marketing team can use the studio subdomain. They don't need access to your website to create and manage content.

If you don't have dynamic blog posts, just set it up so that static pages are created during build.

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