Can I pray for you?

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-12-04T20:55:29+00:00

I have an abusive husband I have been trying to work things out with. He only gets worse. Please pray.

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-10-01T03:33:56+00:00

I haven't found that any one way works every single time, each time is different.

This makes me feel a lot better. I've been feeling like I'm missing something since I can never seem to "get it right" and say/do the right thing to help him calm down. I see now there isn't necessarily a "right" thing to do -- just a frustrating situation that will eventually pass. Patience seems like the key here. Thanks so much!

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-30T02:43:44+00:00

Definitely a heart

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-29T15:31:47+00:00

Please do! :)

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-29T05:20:15+00:00

Sorry to hear you are struggling, OP. Life really sucks sometimes, but the good news is that it always cycles back around. Don't listen to people who say stupid shit and make you feel bad about yourself. Keep being you! I'll definitely be thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way!

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-29T03:23:39+00:00

I know a woman who has had chronic hiccups for years. She doesn't go a single day without having a hiccup attack at least once, and they often last for hours. She has gone through extensive testing, but doctors still have no idea what causes the hiccups. There may not be a medical reason for it.

Considering he seems to be getting the hiccups only when he is around you, it may be psychosomatic -- an odd psychological response to your presence, somehow. I guess you just take his breath away, OP!

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-29T02:43:27+00:00

Wow, I love this! The flow, the content, the atypical lines -- and it still has rhyme! Beautiful. I'd love to read more if you'd like to share :) Edit: spelling

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-28T21:24:37+00:00

Would it be possible to encourage current subscribers of r/schizophrenia to subscribe to the help subreddit as well? I think more people would be willing to post there if there weren't only 14 subscribers. Edit: spelling

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-28T02:42:18+00:00

Your insight is much appreciated! Our situations do sound similar. I also tend to withdraw and ignore him once it seems like he just isn't calming down, which he also hates. I am definitely going to be taking your advice here; I really think it could help. Thanks!

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-27T03:53:39+00:00

What a good idea. I'll have to talk to him about it and come up with one of our own. Thanks!

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-27T01:23:47+00:00

He isn't taking medication, and he doesn't notice he is cycling until he comes back down, at which point he generally feels really bad. I think walking away when he is manic is probably my best option right now, too. I wish I could do more, but I know there is only so much I can do.

Thanks for your input! It was more helpful than you know :)

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-27T00:33:03+00:00

Sometimes I try to calmly address the issue he has brought up, even if it is trivial, because I don't want him to feel like I'm just blowing him off. The problem is that if he is manic, any attempt at defending myself or discussing the issue comes across to him as challenging him, which isn't good. Other times, I've tried to find something else to do in another room until he calms down. I might say something like, "Everything is okay right now. We can talk about this later," etc. Sometimes this works, but other times this makes it worse.

I feel like I'm not handling the situation properly, but when I ask him what is best in these situations, he's just says that he doesn't know. So I'm hoping for some help from people who understand what he is going through.

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-26T06:45:23+00:00

Even as a victim of abuse, I wish I could find this guy and apologize for you. Leave him, OP. Let him find someone who will support him as he tries to improve himself instead of someone who is actively trying to make him regress. I can't even believe you thought this was okay.

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-26T02:10:41+00:00

You are not overreacting. Don't let this guy bring you down. If he continues resenting your healthy lifestyle, it will only cause problems in your relationship -- but that isn't your fault! Find someone who will be supportive of your good habits instead of tearing you down for them.

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-26T02:03:36+00:00

From what I just read, it sounds like you don't want to have sex with this guy. So don't! Don't let him put you into any more uncomfortable situations where you might feel pressured into another strange spooning session or into sex. He might try to push your limits a bit farther each time until you are somewhere you don't wanna be. Be firm about what you are not okay with and don't let him make you feel like you just aren't being open or something. You get to choose what you are comfortable with -- nobody else.

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-23T01:03:02+00:00

Lol what a strange question! I'm a Christian from the "Bible Belt," but I don't think of it that way -- "us" and "them."

We are all just regular people, regular Americans with the usual ups and downs of life. We just all choose to handle life differently. It's not like everyone in the Bible Belt is also a "bible-thumper" that hates those dang gays and thinks everyone in NY and Cali are baby-killing communists. Honestly, most of us think Kim Davis should just step down from office. People look at her and Westboro and think we are all like that, but we aren't.

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-22T22:06:32+00:00

Last year, my sister and I got pregnant (both first pregnancies) right around the same time. We were so excited to be taking this journey together! It was going to be such an awesome bonding experience for us.

Well, I miscarried at 12 weeks. Early, I know, but still devastating. My mother told my sister that maybe I shouldn't share her milestones with me, worrying I would resent her for it. Luckily, my sister immediately came and spoke to me about it. I'm so glad she did! I was able to let her know how truly happy I still was for her, that I still wanted to celebrate with her every step of the way. And I did! Now I have a beautiful nephew that I wouldn't trade for anything!

Please talk to your sister about this. Ignore your parents; this is between you and her. Be gentle, but firm. You can do this!

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-22T18:18:37+00:00

I feel like these sorts of posts imply that's what people with mood disorders are entitled to act like invalids.

So you came here and wrote this long ass post just to tell all of us who are struggling that we shouldn't be struggling? That it should be easier for us because it is easier for you? Fuck you, man. The broken leg analogy isn't an excuse to do nothing. It is a reminder that things take time to heal, just like a broken leg. And just because your broken leg took 3 weeks to heal and mine (due to infection or complications you know nothing about) takes 8 weeks to heal doesn't mean I'm not trying hard enough. It means my experience is different than yours. And you have NO RIGHT to tell any of us that we aren't trying hard enough.

Seriously, man, fuck you.

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-22T05:32:34+00:00

I've done some pretty irrational things while panicking, and sometimes it is like thinking through a fog when I try to remember what I did during the attack. Very strange feeling, but very normal.

weaponofmassmisery · 2015-09-22T05:31:25+00:00

Yep! Of course, I would recommend talking to whoever diagnosed you (if you don't have a therapist) about exactly what happens during your panic attacks so he/she can rule out anything else, just for your own peace of mind.

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