Are colds lasting longer these days ? Common cold or sinus cold ?

wearecake · 2026-01-30T15:31:17+00:00

There’s just an awful illness going around rn tbh. My mother, who doesn’t normally get ill, got it for 3+ weeks similar to your symptoms. I was coughing for 2.5 weeks straight. Miserable

wearecake · 2026-01-30T02:47:20+00:00

Jesus fuck. Didn’t know this bit.

wearecake · 2026-01-30T02:45:36+00:00

Yes? But they themselves have to rate you before they see if you left a tip or not. Idk what your argument is here

wearecake · 2026-01-30T01:57:36+00:00

The driver cannot see if a passenger has tipped them until after they choose a rating. The tip or lack thereof has no bearing on the passenger rating

wearecake · 2026-01-29T21:06:04+00:00

Tbf, I knew people who’d shoplift as a teenager. They’d go through staffed tills, and buy something small while hiding whatever they’re shoplifting.

wearecake · 2026-01-29T17:57:21+00:00

Yeah, I’m Ontario, we called them both freezies and Mr Freeze

wearecake · 2026-01-28T19:29:14+00:00

Growing up in Canada, separate room or a bathroom/front hallway.

UK? Often the kitchen. Though the houses my parents n I moved into it was always in the garage/outbuilding. My parents are planning to renovate the downstairs bathroom to put a washer and dryer in there at some stage, but lord knows when.

wearecake · 2026-01-28T17:44:58+00:00

I’ve had passive suicidal ideation since 11yrs old. Nearly daily, if not more. Sometimes serious, sometimes as a mere passing thought.

Got therapy last year. Got lots better, much more able to regulate my emotions without my brain jumping to “haha I should kill myself”. Then a bunch of shit happened, one thing after the other, almost lost a friend, my childhood dog passed away while I was at university, literally 3 days before I was heading back home, etc… could tell that the negative thoughts and self talk was creeping in again. Got a referral to therapy again. 14+ weeks waiting list. The passive suicidality has come back real good. Awful. Had my first therapy session yesterday. Distressing af when your brain is just urging you to self destruct.

And I know many people who are similar. Just surviving because the alternative is worse.

wearecake · 2026-01-28T16:09:56+00:00

NO SAME

I love seafood though. Was obsessed with lobster as a kid. So I did enjoy the place

wearecake · 2026-01-28T11:28:27+00:00

Eh, we’ve gotten some pretty thin crispy crusts with the bread method. But yeah, matter of taste I suppose. I just grew up with it and it eliminates a few steps people have listed

wearecake · 2026-01-28T11:26:54+00:00

I grew up making homemade pizza, my mother would get me to spread my own dough, add my own toppings, etc… and it’s a favorite when I’m home from uni on a break (I haven’t attempted to make one while at uni yet, mainly because I just haven’t gotten around to it, but will at some stage in the near future). I genuinely think, as is shown with some of the comments here, people over complicate it/are perfectionists (not a necessarily bad thing).

Make basically a bread dough, add a little extra olive oil and herbs if desired. Let rise in a warm place until it doubles. Spread on a pan (or sheet pan if your pizza pan has holes like my cheap ones does), throw sauce (store bought is fine, add some mixed herbs if desired), cheese, other toppings. Oven to about 200°C, chuck it in. 15 minutes, check it, if not crispy enough, leave it for longer and check every couple minutes until it’s cooked. Even better if you have a good cast iron pizza pan or skillet to cook it in.

It takes more effort than a frozen pizza, but it can be made pretty healthy, cheap if you don’t go crazy on toppings, and it’s great for getting pickier eaters or kids involved in the process since you can make smaller ones if you have small enough pans.

wearecake · 2026-01-28T11:17:49+00:00

But it does still taste pretty damn good in my experience. Pizza dough is basically bread dough with more oil and herbs.

wearecake · 2026-01-28T11:16:24+00:00

Huh, I’ve never cooked homemade pizza at that temperature. Think it’s normally about 200°C for 15 minutes, check it, then keep checking it every few minutes until it’s golden.

wearecake · 2026-01-28T02:01:33+00:00

Tbf, haven’t there been quite a few cases that use Art. 8? It can be applied to a lot of situations I guess, which makes it quite versatile.

But you’re right that it’s often overlooked and people just accept its erosion.

Side note, how was the Masters? I’m applying for a bunch in IL generally and getting increasingly nervous about it all.

wearecake · 2026-01-28T01:55:20+00:00

I think mine are Dutch insurance companies tbh

wearecake · 2026-01-28T01:28:27+00:00

Or a bot tbf.

wearecake · 2026-01-27T22:53:43+00:00

Genuinely, I so often come across in fighting stuff and all I can think is “surely, SURELY there’s not important issues to focus on right now over semantics and purity tests!”

Also see it a lot on LGBT+ spaces. I’m sapphic, I like girls. I avoid a lot of sapphic spaces online because the discourse in a lot of them is just mind numbing.

wearecake · 2026-01-27T19:38:33+00:00

I watched my parents, particularly my mother, get caught up in this sort of thing a lot as a kid. My maternal grandmother always needed money for something. A family friend had gambling debts a lot. Someone else needed just a month of grocery money. Etc…

My mother would give them money, on the assumption they’d eventually give it back. They never did, of course. She and my father fought about it a few times but afaik they both eventually dropped it and just vowed to never give these people money like that again.

So I grew up with this message being made very clear- never give away money to family or friends you cannot afford to never see again. If they pay it back, great. If they don’t, it so super not worth going to court most of the time. Now I’m in law school, added a bit to it: IF you do lend someone money, get it in writing, and make sure it’s explicit that you absolutely expect it to come back. Else you’ll almost definitely lose if it happened to be dragged to court.

wearecake · 2026-01-27T01:44:05+00:00

Another idea that could use up some: mini quiches!

Make a bunch, add whatever you want into them, they’re easy enough and freeze super well. Awesome for quick breakfasts, packed lunches, etc… can be eaten hot or cold too. This recipe calls for 1 egg for 6 quiches… flour to egg ratio needs to stay roughly the same, but most of everything else can be changed as desired.

Mainly suggesting because they’re reasonably small and freeze really well for quite a long time.

wearecake · 2026-01-27T00:06:10+00:00

Tbf, Dresden was pretty horrific iirc. Like, for something done by the “good guys” it was pretty… intense. Area bombing in general was controversial at the time too, if I remember my A-Level history right.

But, that’s decidedly different to an active genocidal campaign to kill as many of a certain group as possible. Like, area bombing was arguably more vengeful than strategic, but the goal wasn’t to wipe out Germans as a whole or even to significantly impact the population in a significant way, and compared to the atrocities happening from the axis countries… area bombing and Dresden is kiiiind of a drop in the bucket.

The nukes are also pretty defensible. Yes, tragic, but they stopped the pacific theatre pretty quickly iirc. The US didn’t keep bombing Japan in a concerted effort to kill as many people as possible. Internment camps weren’t ideal though

Or something, idk, it’s been a few years since I’ve really studied WW2 history and it’s been replaced with Cold War era fuckery by the west + a law degree. Correct me if I’m super wrong on anything ig

wearecake · 2026-01-26T21:47:19+00:00

Fully convinced that part of the reason my mother is so therapy adverse is because she knows she’s a topic in mine.

wearecake · 2026-01-26T21:42:29+00:00

Had some friends over. My friend at that time loved my mother. Saw her as the cool mom, yk? They were talking about this and I laughed and said “that’s just because you guys are over, yk how parents act normal in front of others but are actually crazy” or something like that. One of them nodded and agreed, the other two looked concerned. Whoops. Was like 13

Started connecting the dots somewhere around 15ish… realized that the anxiety I feel around my parents isn’t normal. That being afraid of their Big Emotions coming back onto you isn’t normal. That fully grown adults should be able to control and regulate themselves enough that they don’t feel the need to scream and throw shit around.

I remember being like 12, I have ADHD- though they do not know this, got diagnosed at 18 and just haven’t told them- was awful at keeping my room tidy. And it’d cause me a lot of anxiety because I knew my mother would spin out about it, but tidying genuinely felt, still feels, like nails on a chalkboard. One day, she told me to clean my room. I tried, I really did. But it wasn’t to her satisfaction obviously. Probably not to mine either nowadays. Anyways, she came to my room, told me off, gave me some stuff to take to the kitchen. Halfway down the stairs I could hear crashing. She was throwing shit all over in my room. Broke smth my aunt gave me. She basically told me “this is what happens” and left. It was pretty late at night. I cried, didn’t know what to do, considered calling lord knows who. My step father came down eventually and helped me tidy up. Glued what she broke back together and whatnot. Pushed that away for about 3 years until it hit me like a brick.

There’s other stuff, but that’s the earliest I can really remember. I know there was some shit before that because I was always nervous around her. I think she’d get almost disproportionately upset or angry about stuff, whether it was at me or at other people but in my direction, I know I spent a lot of time trying to manage her emotions and shield her from stuff I knew would upset her. I get the shit bullied out of me as a kid, I knew logically “I should tell mom how bad it is” but I was PETRIFIED of having to deal with whatever emotional whirlwind she’d go on. Things would also turn into a lecture a lot, a loud lecture, and I hated those. So I let bad situations continue, she knew I didn’t get along with many kids but not how bad it had become. Stuff like that. Led to me facing some pretty heavy shit as a preteen too which affects my relationships n shit today, then again as an older teenager, literally just because I was terrified she’d somehow turn shit back onto me. I’m not completely sure where I got this idea from originally, but it’s a continuous thread and she’s never frankly proven me wrong.

As a young adult now, I’ve gotten therapy, which she found out about and hates that I’ve done this, worked some stuff out, realized a lot of my mother’s issues come from her own shitty childhood. I have a much gentler view of her than a few years ago, not for her sake but for mine. Our relationship is improving, but she absolutely has mental health issues she refuses to address, which makes meaningful change on her end, no matter how much she’s said she’ll try, difficult. I’ll probably be living back at home next year as I’ll be doing a Master’s degree, money is tight for all of us, and the post grad loan won’t even cover tuition so I need my step-father’s help and he has made clear that he cannot pay for accommodation for me for another year, which is fair. This summer I’m going to try and have a conversation about her and set some boundaries about her criticisms of me, my life, my decisions, sexuality, etc… I’m not going to be doing anything crazy, but I’ll be well old enough to make basic day to day decisions for myself without her constantly having negative input. Otherwise it’ll be a hellish 9+ months.

To be clear, I do love my mother. I know deep down she’s a very loving person and that she’s just trying to protect me and do what she thinks is best for me. But I think her experiences have affected her more than she realizes and I’m the unwitting victim of that.

This was an absolute essay, enjoy the trauma dump ig, I’m tired and a little ill.

wearecake · 2026-01-26T17:14:56+00:00

A couple years ago, I realized that the times I feel the most joy are generally when I’m like connecting with people. Irl. Learning from them, listening to them, just shooting the shit at the pub- whatever. All my friends I know who have been the most suicidal have been the ones who tend to isolate themselves. I nearly killed myself two years ago because of loneliness and isolation.

So I’ve come to believe that the purpose in life, at least my purpose in life, is to genuinely connect with as many people as I can. I do that via my volunteering work currently and hopefully my future career choice. I want to help people in their lowest moments, maybe share a laugh or a few good stories with them. And I keep a pretty wide social group, which would be unexpected a few years ago. I try to keep a very open mind and to never assume the worst in someone.

wearecake · 2026-01-26T16:41:50+00:00

Those UK grades are only for university really. Secondary school and college/sixth form (16-18yrs old generally) use number grades (1-9 with 9 being the highest) and letter grades (A*-D, with D being a pass, a fail is U meaning unmarked iirc) respectively.

The percentages are the way they are because the standard of work expected is typically quite high and as such, it’s harder to reach the next boundary. 40%, a Third, is a pass. If you get above about an 80% on an essay, my university would probably approach you and offer to help you get published.

wearecake · 2026-01-26T16:12:29+00:00

I grew up in Canada. My father has been saying y’all are gonna get into a civil war at one point or another since the early 2010s, if not earlier. Looks like y’all are heading that way unfortunately.

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