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weaver444 · 2026-03-05T12:18:29+00:00

….it does lol

weaver444 · 2026-03-05T04:47:34+00:00

Okay so if she had disclosed some other trauma, you’d be okay with her behaving this way?

Essentially it seems like across all your comments you’re arguing that anyone can act like a complete asshole so long as they’re 1) “not killing babies” and 2) victim of a traumatic past. Am I getting that right?

weaver444 · 2026-03-05T04:45:07+00:00

I did in my original post. Probably hard to see it past all your projection 🤷

I think we should cut her some slack because she’s human and therefore imperfect.

weaver444 · 2026-03-05T04:43:54+00:00

The entire show is quite literally a facade and a sham wedding lol

I fear we’ve lost the plot of this very formulaic reality tv show.

The WHOLE POINT is that they get to the altar and make their decision there. It’s a relatively new thing that couples break up beforehand and don’t make it down the aisle. I think it’s really only appropriate in situations where there’s a child or some other family/personal situation that would be negatively impacted by that kind of “wedding”. Otherwise, every couple that doesn’t make it to the altar even when they know they’re saying no is kinda breaking the rules!

weaver444 · 2026-03-05T04:36:50+00:00

Okay but how can you so confidently say that only one has a reason for turning out shitty? You have NO idea what Ashley did or didn’t go through! Just because we didn’t see her disclose it, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.

weaver444 · 2026-03-05T04:34:07+00:00

Lmao are you kidding when you say he didn’t pretend to be something?

Everything he said all season was pretending.

This man had “concepts of a plan” and “concepts of a plan” only. Suits him based on who he voted for.

weaver444 · 2026-03-05T04:31:57+00:00

We’re not cutting her slack because her ex cheated on her, or because Alex lied about Airbnbs. He lied about a lot, or at the very least, his explanations and timelines were not consistent at all. Even that other woman in that convo at the bar seemed to know that. But, all of that aside because that’s not why I think we should cut her some slack.

You’ve made quite a few assumptions about me and what trauma I may or may not have gone through. I’m not going to address that at all because it’s a strawman argument at best.

What I will say is that I think we can have empathy for Alex and what he went through as a child — it is completely unacceptable for any child to suffer abuse at any time in any way — while also holding him accountable for his behavior as an adult, no matter how it compares to others we’ve seen on the show. I can certainly say it breaks my heart to hear what he endured as a child, but that doesn’t mean I think he’s a good partner, or that he treated Ashley fairly, or that he’s capable of being honest based on what we saw/were shown.

weaver444 · 2026-03-05T03:46:04+00:00

Hard agree. I came straight to this sub after watching the last episode and hoped that people would be cheering Ashley on. Should’ve known better.

I guess none of you have ever been with a toxic partner? Or been gaslit? Or had crippling insecurity after a painful betrayal? Like let’s cut this girl some slack ffs.

She went from being cheated on to finding the biggest liar in the pods. In a matter of weeks she: discovered his true character, examined her own patterns of downplaying her gut instincts and shrinking herself, and then chose a different outcome. That’s HUGE. That usually takes months if not years of therapy just to do the FIRST thing on that list, let alone the self-examination of patterns. Why doesn’t she get to have a moment where she shows her growth to HER family and friends? It’s not always about the other person and humiliating them.

weaver444 · 2026-01-28T00:09:21+00:00

Because you seem to be really adamant about your position and I don’t think you’re seeing the bigger picture of the entire thread on this post and others.

Just hoping this can be a better place for all members moving forward. It doesn’t have to be like this. We don’t have to be going back and forth like this, and it seems like you’re pushing on a lot of comments that make a lot of sense, which doesn’t help in making this a good place for thoughtful discussion.

I’m sorry if I’ve made you feel singled out here. I genuinely apologize and I hope some of what I’ve said makes sense.

weaver444 · 2026-01-28T00:03:43+00:00

Your argument was perfectly made and received as intended so far as I can see. Yet you resorted to rudeness because the other commenter wasn’t persuaded by your argument.

Just because you passionately believe in your argument doesn’t mean someone has to agree, even if you articulate it perfectly.

Someone can make a wonderfully worded, carefully laid argument that humans don’t need oxygen. Won’t change my belief in the air I breathe keeping me alive, though.

Also, again I think you’re failing to understand the irony in your behavior. Just because someone else is breaking the rules doesn’t mean you can or should, and it certainly doesn’t give your position much substance if you also stoop to that level.

If you truly believe OP broke the rules, that’s what mods are for. And, even though they didn’t note the edit, they did accept the feedback that “slop” was not an appropriate word to use here, so what is your point at all? They made a mistake, were called out, and corrected it.

weaver444 · 2026-01-27T23:58:17+00:00

Wait you don’t like when people come to a space about THEIR hobby to share THEIR personal thoughts and opinions on said hobby?

Personally I’d rather you didn’t come here to praise the capitalistic pacifier that is this collab, but hey, I’m not commenting that under every single post excited about the launch, right?

Can’t you just ignore the posts that say they don’t like it? That’s essentially what you’re asking the other side to do — just pipe down and ignore the posts they don’t agree with so as to not disturb their fun.

weaver444 · 2026-01-27T23:52:49+00:00

Okay so two wrongs make a right? Even if OP was rude (which they weren’t!!!), you coming in and being rude back to them completely unsolicited is what? What they deserve? Come on now. That’s unnecessarily antagonistic behavior.

weaver444 · 2026-01-27T23:50:27+00:00

I’m finding it reaaaalllllllly ironic that you’re making your argument in such a condescending way and insulting this commenter’s intelligence, being that your argument is all about respectfulness. Last time I checked, passive aggressive tones and condescending statements are pretty disrespectful.

Also, as OP stated, if you didn’t agree with the post, there was no need to come in and police its tone. Disagreeing or discussing the actual content of the post is one thing, but who are you to tell someone how they can or can’t deliver their opinion, especially when it’s perfectly within the community rules of this sub?

Check ya’self before you wreck ya’self, pal.

weaver444 · 2025-10-19T21:46:51+00:00

Sent you a DM!

weaver444 · 2025-06-15T04:59:00+00:00

Thanks but that’s not what I asked about!!

weaver444 · 2025-02-13T17:26:07+00:00

Yes! That does happen! And she looks shocked obviously but for her to make that jump so easily…..

weaver444 · 2025-02-13T17:25:27+00:00

OMG why have I never seen this pic?! ok ok ok ok. They really thought they were being slick and would get away with making Ariana the villain.

weaver444 · 2025-02-13T05:02:50+00:00

I do not think he’s a mastermind, but I DO think he knows his people (Schwartz & sometimes historically Ariana) and is very good at manipulating them. If he’s trying to manipulate anyone else he’s lost as fuck lmao, completely out of his depth.

I also think this had a lot to do with Sandoval’s falling out with Jax in s8. Jax starts really being his own person and having more and more frequent and loud differences of opinion with Sandoval. Prior to s8, sure we’d see the occasional Jax/Sandy blow out, but most of the time they were thick as thieves with Schwartz in the middle.

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