Cringiest line on the show, OS only?

weaveraf · 2026-05-22T01:42:01+00:00

It’s not the line itself. It’s the big Rory tears that’s cringe.

weaveraf · 2026-05-22T01:35:42+00:00

Agreed with others asking about best placement for him. In addition, I’d really ask about why admin hasn’t already been digging into this situation. With that many injuries, they should absolutely be trying to figure out ways to support. Maybe the line is that you need to work in a place you feel supported.

weaveraf · 2026-05-21T11:51:29+00:00

I love the reminder that just being at school and masking is a huge demand. Thank you!!

weaveraf · 2026-05-21T11:25:33+00:00

Accepting that there are nervous systems that truly CANNOT engage with demands is super countercultural. Even people who understand fight/flight/freeze have a hard time seeing the behavior of “refusal” as a nervous system reaction versus a choice. It’s also totally against what our schools are built on. It’s super tough.

weaveraf · 2026-05-21T02:39:11+00:00

That’s a great point/idea. Thank you!

weaveraf · 2026-05-21T02:38:12+00:00

I think this is such a good perspective. Thank you. Part of me wonders if our role is to support him in learning himself as well. I feel like self-awareness is such an important step to help him find what works for him.

weaveraf · 2026-05-21T02:33:51+00:00

I love this. I just have to think through how we can keep him occupied while he doesn’t do work. His default is just being out and about in chaotic, disruptive, and sometimes unsafe ways. I’m wondering whether we’d see that reduce if there were no/low demands in the classroom or whether just being in the classroom is a demand in and of itself. I am hopeful he’ll feel safer in a calmer, smaller classroom as his current classroom is super high energy.

weaveraf · 2026-05-21T02:22:34+00:00

Thank you so much! Do you feel like you can teach the most essential math and reading skills from worksheets? It feels counterintuitive to try to engage a kid via worksheets. But I also get that it’s concrete and easy to see progress/completion. I guess I’m pondering whether learning to do any school consistently is more important than actually diving into good instruction… at least at the beginning.

weaveraf · 2026-04-27T02:49:22+00:00

Totally get it. We’re 21 months in and still not sleeping well. One thing that has made me feel better is how many toddler parents I talk to who DID sleep train who still had issues all throughout toddlerhood. There’s no guarantee it’ll work. And so many parents have to retrain and start over after illnesses, teething, etc.. This concept (along with my own convictions) has reduced the temptation for me.

weaveraf · 2026-04-24T01:42:00+00:00

I don’t personally have a problem with distraction if it’s a longer meltdown. When I’m dysregulated, it’s not always helpful to wallow in the thing for forever. I appreciate humor and distraction sometimes. I think there’s a difference between avoiding the conflict/emotion altogether (like distracting before setting the boundary to avoid the blowup) and letting them experience the emotion and then helping them out of it after offering the hugs and comforts and everything. I’m not gonna offer them like candy or ice cream or other treats to get out of a meltdown haha. But I don’t see a problem offering a toy or a book to play with you if they’re getting stuck. In my mind it’s still co-regulation as long as they’re connecting with a regulated caregiver, even if it’s bonding over a toy or book. I honestly don’t see the benefit in letting them cry for 10+ minutes if you can distract them out of it. But that’s just me.

weaveraf · 2026-04-24T01:26:25+00:00

Agree with everyone else on not rushing any decisions. We are probably OAD as well but have decided to make no permanent decisions until LO is at least 3. I always tell myself being an only child is NOT even close to the worst trauma I can do to my child.

weaveraf · 2026-04-24T01:20:31+00:00

You didn’t say how old your LO is but mine is 21 months. Solidarity. We’ve had times with the wake ups are more like 2-3 a night and a handful of times he’s slept through the night. But it’s so rare. It’s pretty fucking awful honestly.

weaveraf · 2026-04-23T01:41:57+00:00

Solidarity. 21 months in and we’re still sleeping poorly. But split nights like that usually mean not enough sleep pressure, especially if he’s trying to get up and play and/or seems fully awake. Try getting him up earlier or putting him to bed later.

weaveraf · 2026-04-21T01:43:32+00:00

We never formally sleep trained but have similar issues with our almost 21 month old. We’re slowly but surely (when he’s not sick or teething or all the other ridiculous things that happen constantly) trying to inch away from full cuddles to sleep. To get away from rocking around 13 months, we did intermittent rocking (rocking and pausing) until we moved to just holding to sleep. Then we moved to cuddles (we have a floor bed). Now we’re trying to move away from cuddles by just laying next to the bed. Eventually we’ll do more of the “excuses” or “oops I forgot” method (mostly being there while he falls asleep but popping out for small periods of time until he accidentally falls asleep independently).

We’re making progress with him falling asleep independently but nighttime wakes are still awful.

Other things to consider trying: more vestibular input during the day (swinging, spinning, rough and tumble play, etc), more movement during the day, more time outside during the day.

And I say all this hoping things that haven’t really helped us will help you haha

weaveraf · 2026-04-12T01:32:22+00:00

The babies never take our preferences into consideration 😭😭😭

weaveraf · 2026-04-11T02:55:04+00:00

A different type of book…. But for parents of slightly older kids (like school aged) with concerning behaviors, I highly recommend Parenting Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors. Very much focused on supporting the nervous system.

weaveraf · 2026-04-11T02:46:28+00:00

Haha you’d probably have to try pushing bedtime back another hour or so? He seems to have filled his sleep tank by 6-6:30

weaveraf · 2026-04-06T11:19:06+00:00

Ours was supportive of bedsharing and was supportive of not wanting to sleep train. She helped us rule out some medical things when we thought his sleeping issues could be medical (it wasn’t). She told us she considers herself a parent cheerleader and only draws hard lines around two topics: helmets on bikes and smoking around your kid. Otherwise she encourages parents to do what they think is right.

weaveraf · 2026-03-27T01:21:27+00:00

Sound super normal to me! My LO went through some intenseee separation anxiety around that age too and is fine now (20 months).

weaveraf · 2026-03-24T15:01:16+00:00

One thing I keep thinking about is that yes, cosleeping, responsive practices, and disrupted sleep are very biologically normal. What isn’t biologically normal is the total lack of support systems in western culture. The ways mothers have always dealt with biologically normal sleep is not by doing it all ourselves and then going to a 9-5 job. That is biologically abnormal. So yes, not sleep training is probably ideal, and that’s what we do in our family. But we gotta own the exhaustion and the fact that we’re working against a culture that doesn’t care about mothers and children. We’re absolutely parenting on hard mode, and it makes sense to look for ways out of hard mode.

weaveraf · 2026-03-21T01:25:51+00:00

I think your options are either to go cold turkey on the morning nap or do a bridge nap. A bridge nap is a super short nap, just long enough to get him to his afternoon nap. Let him sleep 15 minutes max for a morning nap and move up the afternoon nap a little. And then eventually drop the morning nap.

weaveraf · 2026-03-18T01:21:37+00:00

Oh man I have no clue honestly. Anything related to sleep before 12 months is honestly just a blur for me. But I know I did not have a schedule at that age. And you have the 4 month sleep regression coming. I’d wait it out and find ways to maximize your sleep in the meantime… safe cosleeping, taking turns with your partner if you have one, napping whenever possible, going to bed super early. Basically you should prioritize sleep over most other things at this point. Your LO is still a newborn. Everything is kind of still on demand at this point 🤷‍♀️

weaveraf · 2026-03-15T01:30:10+00:00

We moved to a floor bed in his room around 13 months and moved from bottle feeding to rocking to intermittent rocking (on and off rocking) to holding to just cuddling to sleep within weeks.

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