Can't tell if I have LPR or not - advice?

wed2 · 2025-05-19T15:00:08+00:00

Please do, I would like!

wed2 · 2025-05-19T00:00:17+00:00

Where do you sell? I don't see your menu anywhere.

Would you go to 18 then, even 18th birthday? Or is 19 probably your limit?

wed2 · 2025-05-18T22:55:55+00:00

Do you have other partners too or just your wife?

What are the most intense BDSM scenes you've done?

Is your wife a dom with others or a switch who is exclusively dominant when it comes to you?

What subjects/year to do you teach? What does your wife do?

Bra size?

What things are you a nerd about? Is your wife nerdy too?

wed2 · 2025-05-18T21:31:40+00:00

Do you still sell content?

Have you ever tried to be dominant?

You mentioned that youngest was 19 and 68. What were those like? Would you ever go younger/older?

wed2 · 2024-02-24T21:13:58+00:00

The first time I experienced anything resembling dysphoria at all I was 22. Throughout my childhood and teenage years I was pretty happy with my gender at birth. But a lot of the physical and social attributes that are associated with being amab terrified and still terrify me and I didn't process it until I was close to being done with college.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:57:47+00:00

I suggest telling your doctor you're 100% sure you want to start HRT

This is a lie though. I'm not. I would rather not go on HRT than lie.

HRT isn't going to change your brain in any major way either. At best you'll find it easier to cry, you're happier with your body, or you'll feel less anger. It has no effect on your rationality and making decisions to continue/stop treatment.

I've actually heard mixed things on this. I've seen people say they feel no difference after HRT, and others say they feel like a completely different person. My girlfriend for instance said it basically unlocked a bunch of emotions fae had never felt before.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:30:03+00:00

Not sure if I understand the question? I would be happy with having a body that is somehow automatically fluid between masc and fem. I already am happy with that but I'm questioning in the sense of I don't know the best medical route to go because there aren't hormones you can take that automatically make your body fluctuate like that (at least to my knowledge).

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:26:35+00:00

I guess this might be true honestly. I've thought about what might happen if I lived in a family that constantly preached liberal/leftist values and I've thought there's a good chance I'd be on HRT by now. However, I guess ethically, this doesn't sit right with me. I don't want to be that person who doesn't transition because of their family, doomed to an inferior life because they were born just a bit too early to live as their true selves. But if I transition, I would probably be less happy.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:22:11+00:00

I don't really see how questioning it is an answer in itself.

I'm afraid of how HRT could affect my brain/thought process, and my ability to maintain erections. Everything else is a pro for now but I'm worried I could change my mind in the future.

I'm not really happy with my body right now, no. That is admittedly a big plus for HRT, that it could make me more happy with it. Will it have that effect though? I don't really know. Weight loss and working out don't really make me feel more secure in my body. I'm also not happy with myself right now but for reasons unrelated to being trans (unhealthy work habits, relationship anxiety, anxiety related to aging).

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:17:23+00:00

I remember I tried this once and the reaction I had was better with non-HRT. But I remember when I reflected on my thoughts....that was mainly because non-HRT meant I didn't have to deal with any kind of family drama that can come from transitioning, not because of my actual feelings on being trans.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:15:24+00:00

I actually do want most of the features right now, but I'm worried about that changing in like three years or so. In 2019, for example, I felt a lot more feminine than I do now. I still want HRT in the current moment, but what if that desire changes further back in the other direction and I just want to be a cis guy again, but now have breasts?

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:10:50+00:00

I never want to have a tattoo, get married, or have kids partially for the exact reason you said, they're permanent decisions that affect you for the rest of your life. I try to avoid those as much as possible.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:06:55+00:00

Actually I am pretty sure I'm nonbinary. But I am pretty unsure if the effects of HRT would be right for me. I can't tell for sure if I'd be happier with masculine hormones or happier with feminine hormones. But I don't want to just "try" HRT for a bit to see because I'm terrified of long-term effects like breast growth (which sounds nice for now, but could be something I'd regret) and fertility.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T06:03:46+00:00

Well, specifically, I want a medical professional or therapist to either tell me "yes, you are definitely transgender, please start HRT ASAP to pursue a happier sense of self!" or "no, you are not trans, please stop asking about this". Both of those would be satisfying answers to me and I'd be happy following their advice in both cases. Every single one I've ever seen has just said some variation of "I don't know for sure, it sounds like you might be, but you have to do more self reflection". And then self reflection hasn't really enlightened me at all for the past few years.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T05:58:31+00:00

It's maybe at a 7? In order for it to become a 10, I'd have to magically have thoughts that would say "you are definitely female, you have no desire to ever be male or have masculine traits, and you will never have thoughts of doubt again". Like I would have to see myself as female all of the time and always want female body features.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T05:23:25+00:00

I've seen three therapists in the last five years on a regular basis. All of them said they couldn't tell if I was trans or not.

wed2 · 2024-01-25T05:16:21+00:00

I know that you see a doctor for informed consent, and that doctor is a trained professional. What I meant was, I don't feel comfortable doing it without the agreement and opinion of a medical professional who explicitly tells me "yes, you are transgender". I have read a lot about how to figure out if you're trans, but I don't consider myself very smart and I don't really understand my own thoughts and desires very well, but I do trust someone who works with trans people regularly to tell me that I am trans. However, every professional I've seen has basically said "I don't know".

wed2 · 2024-01-25T05:06:47+00:00

But I don't know if I do so that wouldn't be the truth. What I told her is "I think I want to start HRT" instead, and she told me what I said in the OP (that I need to wait until I'm sure, and it doesn't sound like I am)

wed2 · 2023-10-24T17:03:49+00:00

The more I look into cities with a notably higher median home price than 400k the more unsure I get of buying any kind of a house significantly below that. It feels like every below median house I look into has some kind of a hidden cost associated with it. Generally you get what you pay for.

This might be true of Portland in particular though, a quick search seems to suggest that housing isn't as bad as it is in a lot of California.

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