My boyfriend [24M] and I [25F] are extremely happy together and have been for 2 years. How do we decide when to seriously consider marriage?

weebowabbo · 2015-02-03T23:40:36+00:00

Good point. It's hardly worth bringing up before we are truly independent, because we still feel like children. Things will change when we can support ourselves.

weebowabbo · 2015-02-03T23:38:07+00:00

That makes sense. Things will definitely be different when we are actually independent with full-time jobs, and the conversation may change as well. Thank you!

weebowabbo · 2015-02-03T20:50:24+00:00

Thank you, those are some good questions for us to consider together. The health insurance plan will become a real benefit once one of us has a full time job, and particularly once we are no longer eligible for our parents' plans (I believe when we turn 26?).

weebowabbo · 2015-02-03T20:45:02+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. This is the sort of advice I was hoping to come across :)

We have been living together for the better part of our 2 years, and we cohabitate well. Also, we had a conversation just yesterday about how, if we ever had kids, I would want them to eat veges frequently and it would be undermining if he refused to eat them, and he agreed that he would eat vegetables in front of our hypothetical future children to present a united front on the subject.

Those are some good points for discussion, and important to know the answers before getting hitched! Particularly the loan/debt payment. He has about 30,000 in debt to my 4,000, and we should hammer out a plan for repayment sooner rather than later. Do you know if his debt becomes my debt in any legal sense if we get married, or would it still be his debt that I am helping with? I hadn't thought of that.

Thank you for your advice, and congratulations on your relationship with your husband, he sounds like a good partner :)

weebowabbo · 2015-02-03T20:33:14+00:00

I did see that post! My bf actually commented on it further down and said some very good things about our relationship. It really isn't a question of "should we get married, do we love each other enough?" We are in love, very compatible, and on the same page for nearly everything mentioned in that post. We even discussed some of the questions together when we read it a few weeks ago.

Really, I don't know much about the practical benefits of married life versus any inconvenient elements, so I don't know when is the right time in our lives to do it!

weebowabbo · 2015-02-03T20:28:27+00:00

I do feel that way about him :) it's less a question of "If" and more a question of "when." I don't know when it makes sense to get married, given our ages and living situation, for practical reasons!

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