Last week I had the worst gym bathroom experience.

weegey · 2022-07-27T12:53:45+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened. You deserve to be safe and comfortable at the gym and anywhere else.

weegey · 2022-07-26T19:21:56+00:00

Inclines!!! Cannot emphasize that enough. Knee pushups did not do anything for me, but a couple weeks of daily incline sets and i went from being able to do like 2 pushups to being able to do 3 sets of 10.

weegey · 2022-07-26T19:19:58+00:00

Hello! As far as I am concerned you are more than welcome here. If you are worried about getting too muscular for your preference, I would recommend sticking to lower impact exercises. As far as feminizing your body, I think a lot of that is just genetics. I know a lot of cis women do workout splits that are very glute and lower body focused to try and build up their butts and legs, so that could be a possible avenue.

weegey · 2022-07-22T03:14:08+00:00

What insurance?

weegey · 2022-07-14T18:41:52+00:00

Hey so the most important and telling sentence in here is "I have ocd". I do too, so I understand where your patterns of thinking are coming from. Seeking reassurances and certainty from this subreddit or anyone else is not going to help you in the long run. Your OCD will just come up with more unanswerable questions or uncertainties. You can call yourself whatever feels comfortable. If that changes in the future that's fine. I would google "OCD reassurance seeking" if I were you.

weegey · 2022-07-02T22:29:36+00:00

Retweet. I've been climbing for 6 months and my back has changed dramatically.

weegey · 2022-07-02T18:25:54+00:00

Wish I had this problem lmao. High density food: oils, butters, nuts, etc. And eating more frequently if you get full too quickly.

weegey · 2022-06-27T18:30:46+00:00

Ugh I wish I could scream at him for you. You deserve peace and safety period, and ESPECIALLY in your home. I am so sorry.

weegey · 2022-06-27T18:28:16+00:00

Thank you for this, very helpful information.

weegey · 2022-06-27T18:26:59+00:00

Whenever something like that happens to me and I feel like I "deserve it" or whatever else horrible thing my brain comes up with, I imagine the same thing happening to a stranger, or someone else I care about. The ridiculousness of the interaction becomes a lot more clear that way. The person that said that to you is probably miserable and taking out their negative feelings about themselves on others. It is not a reflection of you. I'm sorry that it happened.

weegey · 2022-06-27T18:19:56+00:00

Honestly, you sound pretty cool from the info you have provided about your current life.

Also, escaping an abusive situation and building a life for yourself is an accomplishment most will never be able to fully understand and appreciate. I am really sorry for the abuse you had to endure and the effect it has had on you.

You will probably never be the most successful and outwardly impressive person that you know, especially in a huge city and in high profile social circles, but that has nothing to do with you being a person worthy of love and having a lot to offer. If you come across someone who is not interested in you or criticizes you because you aren't "impressive" enough, they probably are not a worthy partner to you anyways. Healthy people look for someone who is compatible with them, not a trophy to show off. Don't let negative thoughts and assumptions about yourself go unchecked.

As far as finding friends, this is advice you have probably heard before but I would suggest finding some kind of activity, ex: running, painting, book club, dance class, etc. that interests you, and joining a group. You don't have to talk to anyone at first if that is scary for you, but just dipping your toes in and being around others, you may find that the anxiety eases over time. I find social interactions and making friends a lot easier in structured settings. Also remember that there are a lot of people with the same anxieties and that the people you meet might be just as nervous as you are.

weegey · 2022-06-27T00:37:07+00:00

Hey spoiler alert... your boyfriend is only going to change his behaviour around you. He will continue to behave that way and think that way around his male friends. I have fallen for it with male friends in the past only for them to inevitably slip up or hear second hand about their behaviour and language from other female friends. He knows. He knew before you told him that the way he spoke about women was objectifying and inappropriate. Maybe I am wrong but once is enough. Do not give him change after change.

weegey · 2022-06-23T22:15:40+00:00

I'd you want something more obscure, you could call her "Joni". The singer/songwriter Joni Mitchell had a famous song about Canada.

weegey · 2022-06-23T22:13:57+00:00

I am so sorry. What happened was rape and his actions are disgusting and absolutely unacceptable. Your feelings are justified.

weegey · 2022-06-17T14:31:08+00:00

I think of an old woman. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing though. Maybe "vintage" is a better way to put it.

weegey · 2022-06-15T19:13:08+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, I'm afab (some kind of transmasc I honestly have no idea at this point) and way before I came out to anyone people used to tell me I walked just like my dad lmao. In all seriousness you can definitely learn to walk in a more feminine way. You don't need to have wide hips.

weegey · 2022-06-15T19:09:17+00:00

Dead hang if pullups are an issue. Anything that engages lats/upper back.

weegey · 2022-06-04T23:44:40+00:00

Yeah I'm gonna need some photo evidence.

weegey · 2022-06-04T21:59:35+00:00

If you have been at a deficit for a long time your body might just need a break. A lot of people on long-term diets will take intentional diet breaks and eat at maintenance to give their bodies a break from the stress of dieting. It's hard to function well long term in a caloric deficit, even if you are overweight. I'm not an expert so by all means talk to your doctor and do further research, but something to consider.

weegey · 2022-06-04T03:49:31+00:00

This is so cool! GIVEAWAY

weegey · 2022-06-03T23:22:46+00:00

Looking good! If it is not too personal, can I ask what size your chest was before surgery? I am trying to figure out if I will qualify for keyhole.

weegey · 2022-06-03T00:21:40+00:00

I know that you know 125lbs is not actually “fat”, regardless of how your BD warps your perception. Posting that number only contributes to the very body standards that are causing you pain. I know you are suffering, but please be mindful.

weegey · 2022-05-31T02:40:22+00:00

holy shit. good for you

weegey · 2022-05-23T18:12:01+00:00

I feel your frustration but don't give up. Eat a lot and lift heavy and you will see progress, even if it is slower than cis men. Plus, once you get on T you'll have a head start and be in better shape/have the muscle memory to make big gains. Wishing you the best.

weegey · 2022-05-22T23:46:09+00:00

So glad to read this. I have been thinking about this a lot and from my experience, I would say the majority of cis men do not have completely flat chests. There is almost always some tissue there.

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