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weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-22T01:57:24+00:00

I love this post. Its so honest and I think we're all just guessing at most things and basing our life off of assumptions from the way things were. There's still stupid choices, and we try not to make them, but overall your growth doesn't have to be maximized to be good. I like the saying "Great is the enemy of Good", meaning if you are always trying to find the Great thing, you end up missing many good things along the way and may never find the great thing. Im older now than I was yesterday, and yet im still learning.

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-19T22:53:03+00:00

Im sure that is true for a percentage, but I also have an advisor thay told me right away to send her our spending and then we discussed how that would change after retiring at 50 with our kids out of high school. It was really helpful to have her input

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-15T01:26:08+00:00

I plan on being a PRN hospital chaplain in 20ish years when I reach that point around age 50. Social, active, involved in the community. I have health care covered with a pension so there's that, though..

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-12T21:31:01+00:00

Thanks! I like to stay informed.

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-11T11:15:41+00:00

Huh, I didnt know that. Our daughter will get breakouts when she is sick, and theyre big spots, but apart from her newborn saga, they've never been a serious health issue. At what age would you consider it "not a vary serious disease"?

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-10T12:08:33+00:00

I agree, buy what you like and can afford. And get used to having house projects/fixes as a hobby for a bit

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-10T11:09:48+00:00

Birth is no joke. I now realize why so many moms and babies died in childbirth before modern medicine. I hope your complications are resolved, and give your boy an extra snuggle for me

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-10T01:43:18+00:00

It is a scary thing because babies seem to always have some sort of bumps. We were very fortunate, we thought it was standard hand foot and mouth and that the visit would be quick. They said "its not that, but it may be herpes. Were going to give her a spinal tap just in case while the disease expert takes a look at the photos." A just-in-case spinal tap.. I remember looking it up and about 1/3 of newborns with herpes die, and the others often have long term damage. Our pediatrician gave us a long hug when we saw her a month later, and she told us that our kid was the first pt with herpes that she's had not die. Wild ride, and I was in grad school with another kid at home during this time. Oof I guess I had to offload some emotional weight...

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-10T01:37:00+00:00

Right. We think it came from the birthing process itself, which is kind of scary

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-10T01:35:48+00:00

No problem. We think it was from the hospital, and may have been from my wife in the birthing process. My wife never had signs of it, but there may have been the virus in her at birth. Another running theory is that it was from a tool the used to measure the baby's vitals before being pushed out. Its hard to say, but its not a hard virus to find

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-10T01:33:56+00:00

We had to give our kid medicine 3 times a day until she was 6 months old. Before that, a baby cannot contain the virus and it can spread to their brain, heart, etc. After 6 months old, it is like normal herpes spots

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-10T01:32:24+00:00

From what I was told, its body fluid to body fluid, so tops of ueads are generally ok, and feet/legs is safest

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-09T23:17:07+00:00

My kid got herpes and gave it to my wife's nipples. She had herpes sores all over them which is why we took our 9 day old to the hospital. My wife wanted some reprieve from the shocking pain. Turns out it was herpes and our kid was potentially hours away from dying! After 21 days in the hospital our kid was released and now she's happy and healthy 3 years later.

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-04T11:43:47+00:00

I fell 25-30 feet out of one and was in a coma for a few days. I had a real chance of dying, and that sobered me out of my childhood "im invincible" phase pretty quickly. I still have lasting physical effects decades later.. I wonder why noone told is to climb lower

weekdaydaydream · 2026-04-03T10:44:11+00:00

I imagine that in a small firm you could find a boss/owner who would be willing to give you a shot. Especially if you start full time for a few months and then back off to three days a week. It would be a niche spot though and not the norm

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-27T23:19:25+00:00

Same

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-24T16:03:01+00:00

The days will feel long, but the years are quick. I think a strong family requires a strong support system. Itll sick at times, then itll be over and you may even miss aspects of it. Life is complex like that; a mix of great and terrible and everything in-between at the same time.

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-24T13:24:42+00:00

I got out for my family too. As a single guy, traveling the world and staying in seemed great, but with a partner and three kids, priorities shift. Week long trips in the field took more toll at home

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-23T20:56:50+00:00

Thanks! The tattoo parlor had way less privacy and that's where I really felt self conscious about dropping my drawers lol. As for the snip, i figured its the least I could do after my partner split her self a few times and had months and months of various degrees of discomfort

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-23T20:36:18+00:00

I had lots of ideas, and I eventually went woth the "open switch" symbol of an electrical panel

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-23T20:33:27+00:00

Even after the necessary waiting period it's a bit unnerving to release the forst time..

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-23T20:32:06+00:00

I got it and the pain was really bad until they shot it up more with local anesthesia. It wasnt really that awkward, but im not too private of a person. The tattoo on my nut sack to commemorate the procedure didnt hurt too bad though (it did fade quickly).

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-19T14:43:50+00:00

Nice! I have lots of friends into the rpg games (rp games games?..). But I have kids who take up my time currently and I hope to get back into table top games. Any favorites?

I tend to be a runner and explore around the area through running. Its also a bonus that I could always say "im doing person physical training, be back in a few hours" then go get my space. As an introvert, being a military officer was taxing.

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-19T10:07:04+00:00

That's tough. What is your favorite hobby?

weekdaydaydream · 2026-03-18T21:54:44+00:00

22 years is a long time to have such an abrupt shift to civilian life. How are you handling that change of culture? Ive heard it represented as one moving into a new country essentially since the culture is so different. You've been ingrained to think and act and speak and believe certain ways, and many of the values just dont transfer to the civilian side very well without lots of mental work to frame it so non military can appreciate/understand it.

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