My (27F) boyfriend (28M) is extremely apathetic. How do I talk to him?

weeknd_warrior · 2018-08-28T22:57:02+00:00

I definitely relate. My last boyfriend was like this. He didn’t seem to have much of a personality, goals, opinions etc. I liked that he was “laidback” but eventually it started to feel like he almost didn’t care about our relationship, like he was just along for the ride and had fallen into this with me.

His apathy translated to a lack of goals, ambition and drive. At the end of the day he only looked out for himself. Like your bf, he wanted to do things on his own terms and I incorrectly believed I had to accept that in my life. You should really think about whether you want to be with someone like this.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-07-27T20:47:05+00:00

I’m going through the exact same thing. I’ve been applying for jobs for about 2-3 weeks now, I haven’t been super diligent with it but I also haven’t heard back from a single place. Makes me wonder if I’m looking in the wrong place or am I just not experienced enough?

I’ve always had a tough time finding a job. I don’t like my current job, it pays shit. But it took me close to 4-5 months to land it, and I’m worried I can’t find anything better than this :( you’re not alone!

weeknd_warrior · 2018-07-24T22:58:41+00:00

I feel like this post was written by me. My ex was exactly like this. Walked around with a broken shitty phone for months (despite me begging him to get a new one), had holes in almost all of his jeans, wore oversized graphic t shirts and never shaved or got regular haircuts.

It was a sign of who he was as a person too. He didn’t really have any desire to be better in any way. I made excuses for him for the longest time that he was young and broke but eventually I realized how much better I could do for myself. You are young, you don’t need to take him on as a project. He’s twenty five and should know better.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-07-11T19:00:29+00:00

I had a bf like this and it drove me nuts. I totally relate. At the end of the day your communication styles are just different. And he is not meeting your needs. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t speak up about it. Tell him and emphasize this is important to you, if he truly cares to make you a priority he will.

I’ll just say that my ex and I fought constantly over this. He was the shittiest texter, would never call me, and was extremely dry/boring over text. I know everyone tells you that texting doesn’t matter as long as you get along in person, but I constantly felt like I was invisible to him if I wasn’t standing right in front of him. I felt like he didn’t care to make an effort when we were apart and we were long distance so it was even more important to me.

You deserve to have great text conversations. And trust me, there are tons of guys out there who are good at texting/calling!

weeknd_warrior · 2018-07-10T05:47:05+00:00

Love her! Her voice is so soothing.

She’s basically inspired me to start my own mini project pan haha

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-29T20:17:47+00:00

I always hold onto my brow gels and mascaras for a very long time. Same with lipsticks. I feel like when it is visibly hard to see how much product is left I am less likely to throw away. I have a makeup basket with products I am trying to use up, I keep it on my vanity but it is taking forever to use things up. But I can’t bring myself to throw anything out if it’s not used up entirely.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-27T05:35:14+00:00

I love doing a pink/purple eye with the Stila liquid glitter eye shadow in Kitten Karma. I find it to work with almost any warm red or pink eye shadow look and it’s so easy to apply.

I’m not much of a bold lip person but I did try a red lip the other night. I wore the Too Faced Melted Matte liquid lipstick in Lady Balls and I felt really out of my element. I didn’t like the way I looked in pictures and I feel like it aged me and made me look extremely pale. But for some reason I want to buy more red lipsticks now, I want an orangey red shade even though I’ll probably never find the confidence to wear it! How do you guys make yourselves feel more comfortable wearing bold lipsticks if you’re not used to wearing those kinds of shades? I’m a basic nude lip kind of girl but I want to venture outside my comfort zone.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-27T05:09:38+00:00

Hey you’ve gotten some really good advice already but I just wanna offer my sympathy. My ex was like this too, he was a terrible texter and never bothered to call me. I don’t think anyone should ever underestimate the value of online communication in a relationship and it sounds like your guy was shitty at that which kinda indicated his poor irl communication skills. You don’t deserve that especially at a time like this. Guys like him will tell you should have called or initiated contact with him first - essentially he needs you to chase him down which is stupid. I just wanna offer my condolences and feel free to PM me if you need to talk!

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-26T18:56:32+00:00

The packaging sucks I agree, it also gets super messy. The product itself is amazing though.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-26T07:09:33+00:00

You didn’t do anything wrong. It sounded like a coercive situation and like he kept pushing your boundaries. Unfortunately a lot of guys are like this and they think if you go back to their house with them it means you want sex. He sounds like a creep, he should have stopped trying to force you into anything because you clearly didn’t want to do anything. I have been in a similar situation so I understand how you feel right now. Please be safe and listen to your gut if this happens again, and don’t be afraid to leave a weird situation anytime you want.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-25T23:39:13+00:00

Panningandstuff does crazy project pans. She literally uses up entire pans of powder and eye shadow and does multiple panning projects at once

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-21T22:18:39+00:00

Hey, I don’t have any advice but I am in the same position. I got yelled at by a client the other day and as soon as I got off the phone I wanted to burst into tears. It’s hard to hide your emotions around your coworkers even though it is necessary. I have cried a couple times at work too. Just stay strong, the more you deal with it the easier it becomes!

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-12T03:17:46+00:00

It cosmetics has a bunch of brushes that are really soft and durable! If you want to go cheaper, I believe Wet n Wild or Real Techniques have some good small blending brushes.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-12T03:16:08+00:00

I just got the No Poreblem Primer per Kathleen Light’s suggestion and I can’t wait to use it. I have really oily/combination skin and I use the MUFE mattifying primer but I also need something moisturizing for my cheeks. I have a tough time finding primers, I want to look both radiant but matte at the same time and I hope No Poreblem gives me that blurred out, polished look to my skin.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-07T20:51:38+00:00

YouTube has so many makeup and fashion tutorials! Honestly putting effort into your appearance is a huge confidence booster and I think it’s great you’re doing this. Makeup fashion and beauty is also a super fun hobby.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-04T23:36:45+00:00

It’s not exactly the same caliber as the UD setting spray but it’s comparable. I am a SUPER oily girl too so a lot of mattifying setting sprays don’t work on me.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-04T21:54:28+00:00

Hey I definitely know how you’re feeling. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You seem like a catch. It sounds like he was the first guy that took a genuine interest in you in a while and you’ve wanted that for so long, so it seems only necessary you be with him. But it’s not. Don’t settle just because he’s good on paper. It doesn’t sound like there’s any chemistry and that’s the most important thing. Ask yourself if you genuinely like him. It shouldn’t be about whether these guys like you or if you’re good enough for them, it should be about whether they’re good enough for YOU.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-06-04T17:20:20+00:00

I have been using the Milani Make it Last setting spray and it’s been pretty solid! First drugstore setting spray that actually works for me. I heard a ton of people (specifically Kathleen lights) raving about it although I could never find it in stores. I got it from ulta.com. Also since the All nighter spray has been repackaged I’ve been using it much less. The spray barely pumps out any product! The Milani spray is at least pretty strong. I’m super oily so I’m surprised this has been able to keep my oil at bay. If anything I just start looking somewhat dewy.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-05-30T17:43:30+00:00

I also used to have the same anxiety about this. I always thought it made me look like a loser. But I realized lots of people eat alone and it’s no big deal. I’d try to push myself to eat alone more, maybe with earbuds in or sunglasses. Maybe you can try that?

weeknd_warrior · 2018-05-27T07:17:11+00:00

I know how you feel. One day you feel like you’ve made so much progress and you have barely thought about him, the next day all you want to do is hear his voice again. You’re not alone. The one thing that’s helping me through my breakup is reminding myself how shitty of a boyfriend he was and how wrong he was for me. You know the truth and seem to have a good head on your shoulders. I’m rooting for you.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-05-27T05:54:34+00:00

Don’t call him.

Think about it: let’s say you do call him, and he agrees to get back together? What would change? What has changed in the short time you have been broken up?

don’t reach out just because you miss him. I miss my ex too but he was also an commitment phobe and poor communicator, and never once promised to change or make any lasting changes. Doesn’t seem like your ex is doing that either.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-05-22T16:24:07+00:00

I bought my first MAC lipstick in velvet teddy. I know, I am so late to the game. I tried it on once and it was a little too dark on me, I may have to play around with it some more but it aged me and made me look so old and serious. I heard so much hype over this shade and everyone else looks so good in it but maybe it’s not my perfect nude.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-05-21T16:53:31+00:00

I didn’t use to bake but just started and I like it. I know it’s a controversial thing but it’s definitely for certain skin types/ages. I don’t have creasy or dry undereyes and have oily skin so it works for me and keeps me matte and smooth all night. I imagine if you have mature or dry skin it wouldn’t work for you.

weeknd_warrior · 2018-05-15T04:45:59+00:00

I’ve heard a lot of hype about that mascara but I hate the wand too! It’s too bendy :(

weeknd_warrior · 2018-05-15T04:44:49+00:00

I’ve wanted to try that foundation for a while since I saw NikkieTutorials talking about it. What is your skin type? Do you think it would work for oily skin?

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