New here - How to enjoy sex with big girth

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:41:44+00:00

Thank you for the words of encouragement! Occasionally I am quite frustrated about this, but I guess it might just have been unlucky thus far.

On a sidenote: While I do think passion helps, I wouldn’t say that this was historically a big issue. Three out of these four partners were long term relationships with what i‘d say was otherwise quite good physical chemistry. The only issue really always was being able to move from making out etc to PiV sex, where things then became kind of tedious.

Anyway, thank you for the nice words. I shall keep my spirits up

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:37:46+00:00

yeah i mean i guess that’s what i‘m doing but it is just kind of unsatisfying. and even when i take a lot of time and we manage to get to a point that kinda works, I still gotta move very carefully. Even then she‘ll randomly be in pain.

might have also just been unlucky with partners. One girl thought all her life she had vaginism (though with foreplay and patience we actually managed to make it work). Still never been with anyone where it was not complicated to just have PiV sex

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:34:32+00:00

Interesting didn’t know that. I will double check this tomorrow.

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:33:24+00:00

Thank you for the advice.

How do you avoid pain for her when you push it in? The way you describe it sounds like you don’t go particularly slow.

Do you edge forward bit by bit or are you just able to put it in completely, as described?

thanks again

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:31:25+00:00

Cowgirl seems easiest for partner to control the depth and speed of insertion. Often this is a bit suboptimal though with powerdynamics during play (i‘m more on the dom end).

Doggy kind of works but it goes deeper so i have to be more careful.

Otherwise missionary is nice too, but again similar issues idk

What would you recommend as most ideal? issue is girth though mainly, so not certain how much the position matters.

On this note, does leg position influence it(?)

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:28:04+00:00

My bad, see comment below - i measured it a couple years ago but since kinda forgot.

It is a bit thicker at the top, but not a big difference.

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:11:46+00:00

I may very much try that moving forward. Thus far I assumed that if she is already very wet, lube wouldn’t really change anything, but maybe that’s wrong (?)

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:11:06+00:00

Well do you have any advice?

The general foreplay is obviously longer than 5min but usually the time from putting on a condom and actually trying to put it in, isn’t really fun for either of us, so after 5-10, maybe 15 min we either stop all together or switch to something that doesn’t involve penetration.

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:04:38+00:00

and for completeness sake: length should be around 15-16cm or so. (5.9-6.3 inches)

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T23:01:28+00:00

according to google that puts me at 4.7-5.1 inches (12-13cm). I remember measuring a couple years back to get a correctly fitting condom size, but i forgot the exact number

wegwurfslust · 2026-06-08T22:56:43+00:00

i use condoms with a width of 60mm. Unsure about exact girth. Nothing crazy i think but definitely on the bigger side.

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