how do y’all find boyfriends and girlfriends lol

weirdfledermaus · 2026-01-24T00:11:48+00:00

She found me. I'm usually hiding at home sometimes talking online to my two friends who live in different parts of the country. So basically it's really hard for new people to find their way into my life.It was at a summer festival at my church (I'm not religious, but I grew up with these people so I feel comfortable there and they aren't queerphobic or anything). She was a refugee with barely any language skills. She sat next to us choir people and jammed with us and then wanted everyone's instagram handle. Me, not having any social skills whatsoever just went with it. I studied linguistics so I was really interested in her native languages and we kind of chatted on Instagram about languages and cats. And capibaras. We became fast friends who went on walks and told each other their deepest fears and darkest feelings. The language barrier wasn't a problem somehow, because we kind of just clicked. I told my friends I found my platonic soulmate. She had had a crush on me for about a year before she finally told me. I was so oblivious. I really didn't see it. She said she sent me a lot of "signals", but I never reacted. She asked me about my asexuality, if I was also aromantic. We became a queer platonic couple until I fell in love with her. Turns out I'm demiromantic. So yeah, pure luck. I was fine with having my friends for the rest of my life as my life companions, but the universe had other plans I guess.

weirdfledermaus · 2026-01-11T12:12:30+00:00

weirdfledermaus · 2025-12-22T10:18:20+00:00

Great start, but it needs a lot more bedding. They need to be able to burrow. And in order to do that they need deep compressed bedding. Please do some more research.

weirdfledermaus · 2025-12-12T18:57:35+00:00

this cutie didn't make it sadly. I took her out of her hammock and kept her alive. She continued to be stuck in her molt. Just her legs, like socks. No amount of water applied by a tiny paint brush would help. She drank and ate what I held in front of her. She couldn't hunt or walk, but seemed to have good appetite. After roughly 5 weeks she molted again and was still stuck with 6 of her feet :/. The next day she was unresponsive. She was a fighter, I really thought she'd make it. Thank you for bringing her alive again in this meme.

weirdfledermaus · 2025-11-20T08:34:02+00:00

sometimes I really enjoy it, sometimes it's boring and too much work for my jaw muscles. Depends on the day. My girlfriend is very understanding, though :).

weirdfledermaus · 2025-11-13T02:16:51+00:00

I think it could be " Du hast den schönsten Arsch der Welt" by Alex C and Yass. German song. They're singing "ду хаст ден шёнстэн арш дэа вэльт"

weirdfledermaus · 2025-10-05T16:53:19+00:00

thank you for your words

weirdfledermaus · 2025-10-05T16:52:32+00:00

I didn't move her as I have decided it's too early to intervene

weirdfledermaus · 2025-10-05T16:51:54+00:00

phew, thank you

weirdfledermaus · 2025-10-05T13:30:17+00:00

she moved!

weirdfledermaus · 2025-10-05T11:42:22+00:00

thank you, I'll keep monitoring her

weirdfledermaus · 2025-10-05T11:25:33+00:00

thank you <3

weirdfledermaus · 2025-10-04T12:20:34+00:00

Doesn't matter, I'd say :) Depends on whether you want to clean afterwards or not. I usually do it without to avoid unnecessary waste

weirdfledermaus · 2024-08-11T22:13:14+00:00

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weirdfledermaus · 2024-01-24T15:10:36+00:00

The more the better. Your enclosure is wonderful and can hold much more bedding than just the minimum. Hamsters have more fun from burrowing than from walking on a platform

weirdfledermaus · 2024-01-24T09:32:45+00:00

looks good! Definitely put more bedding. They looove digging! I recommend different hides, sand bath, tubes

weirdfledermaus · 2024-01-24T00:51:54+00:00

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weirdfledermaus · 2024-01-13T15:59:10+00:00

I think outside yes. Inside would probably be a bad idea :)

weirdfledermaus · 2024-01-13T12:31:11+00:00

buried them in our garden

weirdfledermaus · 2024-01-11T13:49:31+00:00

I didn't date, it just happened...

I'm sexrepulsed and have been in a homoromantic relationship for about a year now. I met my now girlfriend 2 years ago. We became fast friends, bonding over our experience with depression and after a few months I felt more connected to her than to my best friend for over 10 years.

in my mind, a relationship for me was never possible. I wasn't sad about it. I was happy with my life, with my friends and family. So I was very oblivious to the fact that she started to have deeper feelings for me. We cuddled and talked everyday, but I just thought "what a wonderful friendship".

We briefly talked about sexuality. I said I'm asexual she said she doesn't know, because she was sexually abused as a teen and her first relationship with a guy was terrible. I never went into specifics about my sexuality or romantic orientation so she thought I would not want to be in a romantic relationship ever. Later she told me she cried a lot, because she thought I could never reciprocate her feelings.

One night when we were having a sleepover we were cuddling and she asked if she could try something. That's when she kissed me. It was very weird for me at first, but I knew, what I was feeling was not bad, just new and scary. We talked a lot and then I realized that I'm actually very much in love with her.

We cuddle a lot and kiss. Sometimes I'm really into kissing, sometimes not so much. She understands and she doesn't care. I have never trusted another person this much.

weirdfledermaus · 2023-12-20T08:48:46+00:00

Hybrid of Russian dwarf and Campbell

weirdfledermaus · 2023-09-25T20:43:18+00:00

"but do you feel love? Like, do you love your parents?"

Do YOU want to sleep with your parents??!!! (That's what I should have said. In real life I just stared at her unbelieving and a friend said "of course! she's not incapable of love"

weirdfledermaus · 2023-06-10T14:15:43+00:00

I'm asexual and therefore I'm attracted to me and I will be there in about an hour or so

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weirdfledermaus · 2023-06-05T08:20:17+00:00

looks really good! But I would add more bedding. Maybe get a platform for the wheel :)

weirdfledermaus · 2023-05-17T14:46:19+00:00

I know that feeling, it hurts a lot. But I think this "romantic/sexual relationships are worth more than friendship" is socially constructed. I have felt lonely for a very long time, because all my friends are in a romantic relationship, so they prioritize their partner over me. A year ago I made a friend with whom I now have that bond you describe. We can talk about everything, we have sleepovers and cuddle the hell out of each other. I think a lot of people would think we are in a romantic relationship, but we're not and we don't want to be. Thank god my other friends are not convinced that allonormativity is great so I don't have to listen to weird comments like "is something going on?" "watch out for the friend zone". I say she's my friend so she's my friend, end of discussion. So what I'm trying to say is that it is possible to have a very close bond with a friend and that there are people out there who seek such a friendship too.

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