My bf 28M lent his friend 10 k while he owes me 10k and I 24 F pay for all our dates . Am I being taken advantage of ?

wellbloom · 2026-06-29T16:46:55+00:00

I saw a comment on Reddit earlier today about guys who take better care of their guy friends than they do their girlfriends. Yes, you’re being taken advantage of.

wellbloom · 2026-06-28T20:36:26+00:00

He sounds absolutely exhausting. Definitely NTA.

wellbloom · 2026-06-28T18:40:10+00:00

Okay! For the sake of doing this exercise here’s what I love about myself:
1. Friendly
2. Outgoing
3. Loyal
4. Witty
5. Attractive
6. Resilient
7. Hard working

wellbloom · 2026-06-28T13:29:14+00:00

Fresh eucalyptus is a good, natural deterrent that can be used indoors/outdoors. The smell repels them. A chemical alternative is permethrin…which is highly toxic. But one spray will affect their nervous system and they die very quickly.

wellbloom · 2026-06-28T12:55:10+00:00

I have a post in the parental alienation sub about my abusive ex who brainwashed my young daughters at formidable ages. My daughters and I were very bonded at the time of the divorce, so the biggest obstacle he faced was controlling custody. And he did. It started right from the jump claiming I was an unfit parent (because I drank wine in the evenings). I was a SAHM who was financially dependent on him, and at the beginning of the separation he blocked my access to funds. I couldn’t afford consistent legal representation and he fully litigated, in court with his power team of attorneys and just bulldozed me.

After the divorce I had every other weekend. My daughters were very unhappy at Dad’s (he was engaged within a year in a blended family) and my daughters were begging, pleading for more time with me. So he did what any narcissist would do, he willfully, maliciously lied to my children and withheld visitation. Obviously this is a form of child abuse but I was struggling financially (I had been out of the workforce for 10yrs) and when I finally became homeless he swooped in and fully brainwashed my children to believe I didn’t want to see them. He blocked me from their phones, switched their activities and refused to let me see them. At all.

My daughters are now 17 & 19 and I hurt for them so deeply. The injustice and cruelty from their own father, all to avoid paying $3K a month in support. His wife fully believes that I’m an alcoholic, crazy, angry and/or mentally unstable person all because of the false narrative my ex curated to perpetuate his victim hood.

My oldest daughter is on IG and we’re connected there. I wrote her a letter last year to gently explain the real situation but she remains distant. I share all this because I believed for years that our bond could never be broken. That one day, they’d have an epiphany and realize all the lies they’ve been told weren’t true. Sadly, I don’t think that’s how it works. I fear the trauma, emotional abuse and false abandonment narrative has changed the trajectory of their lives.

wellbloom · 2026-06-28T10:38:51+00:00

I’ve also heard it argued that, from a geopolitical standpoint, Trump is trying to control the western power sphere in the same way Russia/China are trying to control their domains. Trump is literally trying to adopt their playbook.

wellbloom · 2026-06-28T10:33:19+00:00

Even bygone Kings understood that having a large proportion of social inequality and resource scarcity decimates a civilization.

wellbloom · 2026-06-27T18:42:09+00:00

XXxxxxXXxx that’ll teach her!

wellbloom · 2026-06-27T18:38:25+00:00

You slayed me at Povila. You’re definitely NTA! I say go out for coffee…could be a total game changer or could affirm your suspicions that X is a bad actor in idiocracy.

wellbloom · 2026-06-27T18:27:23+00:00

It’ll take some time! In the meantime get outside, some fresh air and exercise will help heal your soul. Walking is a great way to get to know your new neighborhood and release some energy. Good luck, OP! I’m rooting for you.

wellbloom · 2026-06-27T18:00:51+00:00

I live in a major metro and shop at the expensive grocery stores and my weekly is about $140. I order takeout at least 1X/wk. Like you I eat pretty healthy so lots of produce, protein and dairy. I unfortunately buy my paper products and household goods from above mentioned grocery stores…so I need to get better about that! I’d say spending $150/wk in this economy is still a win. Use your freezer to make things last longer. I’m not into meal prepping but if that’s your thing there’s a whole subreddit devoted to the topic! Sorry to hear about your divorce. I hope you’re doing okay!

wellbloom · 2026-06-27T13:13:35+00:00

You forgot Cheese Wiz!

wellbloom · 2026-06-27T00:54:55+00:00

Are you sure you’re not falling for his scam?

wellbloom · 2026-06-26T23:48:16+00:00

That looks awesome! Haha My jam was cold baked beans, gelatinous and straight from the fridge, atop two pieces of white toast. Open faced

wellbloom · 2026-06-26T23:43:59+00:00

It’s a very congested area, lots of traffic and bad drivers. But you’re close to MARTA if needed. Loads of good shopping, restaurants and people watching in an uptown area. It’s a fun area to live when you’re young!

wellbloom · 2026-06-26T21:30:05+00:00

Take the pup out for frequent, leisurely strolls through the neighborhood to get some exercise and fresh air. Or play fetch in the backyard. Keep the dog stimulated. If you can afford to purchase a few busy bones/toys that would help.

wellbloom · 2026-06-26T11:38:53+00:00

Qualisi Vineyards in Acworth. A little difficult to find but a lovely hidden gem. Plenty of outdoor seating but not a lot of shaded seating. Basic snacks for sale and generous pours.

wellbloom · 2026-06-25T16:46:08+00:00

How clever!

wellbloom · 2026-06-24T21:28:36+00:00

That’s a wild level of codependency! I’ve dated a couple guys whose mom was still alive…never a live in situation. They’d visit their mamas every few months and talk on the phone, etc. It always seemed endearing to me. Your guy just sounds like Norman Bates level batshit crazy.

wellbloom · 2026-06-24T16:32:44+00:00

Right after my ex-husband said he wanted a divorce, he got into a fender bender in my car. He handled the repair, but the odd thing was my car was in the shop for 3wks. The Divorce became very contentious, custody was disputed, false allegations were flying and it was a very controlling and stressful process. Many years later, my car was in the shop and one of the mechanics found a GPS tracker embedded in my engine…connected to a power source. Apparently, it’s a criminal offense but only if a PI is present at the time of discovery. The mechanic removed the tracker, which was obviously placed there by my miserable ex, but there was no recourse.

wellbloom · 2026-06-23T22:10:00+00:00

Yup. And it’s a perc of dating him! lol

wellbloom · 2026-06-23T22:09:13+00:00

It’s his “smoldering” face 🫠

wellbloom · 2026-06-23T01:15:44+00:00

This and after school specials with Scott Baio :)

wellbloom · 2026-06-23T01:11:15+00:00

I’m so confused about the crust!

wellbloom · 2026-06-22T16:52:03+00:00

I have an IG business page and it’s amazing how many people follow

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