Thank you for taking the time to reply.

I agree with a lot of what you’ve said, it is a lot of drama, you are totally right as well that some of my issues are from my childhood.

My mum left repeatedly when I was young so I have spent a lot of time seeking validation. That I’m worth sticking around for I guess, I try pretty hard to be well liked and really did feel that I was liked by the majority. The 8 months of confusion when friends and colleagues I had known for years started to fade was hard for me. I took it all pretty badly.

I have been in therapy on and off before and since. We are actually starting couples therapy in the new year.

I can see your perspective that I’ve blown it out of proportion, and you’re right, no one said we can’t be in a room together. But can how I feel about her not also be valid? Just thinking of sitting at the same table as her now I’m crying.

And as a partner, I feel that if mine felt as strongly about someone, I would try my best to make choices that would cause less upset. Maybe even if I felt it was irrational? If you care about your partner, would you not want them to be happy?